yeah this absolutely.When I was SA'd for the first time I didn't tell anyone. I was ashamed and embarrassed and making excuses. Blaming myself. I couldn't even imagine uttering the words. If I'd plucked up the courage to tell someone I'd be livid to find out she'd decided to call the police on my part. It's such a deeply personal thing.
sorry to trauma dump (& admin pls delete if it's too tangential) but i was r&ped at 17, literally never told anyone except one person, then this person a year or two down the line decided to tell a load of people.
my point is that to take away someone's right to speak their own truth and/or report it to the police themselves is so crappy. in my case this person rehashing it after so long really affected me and nearly 5 years later it's on my mind every day still.
really, really upsetting and poor for boo to report on grace's behalf - NOT her place at all to do so.
by her doing this, she's probably made it feel a lot more real for grace/a lot harder to 'hide' from it. the last thing you want to do after an event like this is have to recount it all to the police. she should be ashamed
grace if you ever read here, ALL of us here believe you, hear you and stand with you x