I started reading here when the first thread was about 5 pages long and I’ve read every comment since but haven’t joined in until now. I have detested this man from the very first time I saw him on TikTok. We all know he reads here no matter how much he doth protest so…
PauI, you are literally the definition of a walking red flag. You’ve just told everyone this morning on your live how ‘mentally strong’ you are but I have been watching you for months now and couldn’t disagree more.
I actually was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and whilst I am not here to diagnose anyone or make assumptions nor do I actually believe you have BPD (we get a bad enough rep as it is) I certainly see some of my old toxic thinking/behaviours in you and think you genuinely need to go and seek advice and support because your behaviour is just not normal. End of.
Being in a relationship for you is the be all and end all. Your self worth is dependent on it as is your happiness. Many many times when people you know have joined your lives the first thing I see you asking them is ‘how’s your partner’ like it is the most important defining thing about a person. It’s strange that that is the first thing you want to converse about. None of your relationships are ever going to work out for you because you have not yet learnt how to be content and fulfilled on your own and whilst you continue to depend on strangers in the internet for validation and your mood is dictated by the current state of your current romantic relationship you are never going to be happy pal. Not the mention your inability to take things slowly without jumping in head first with the lovebombing tactics.
You are not fooling anyone with your happy go lucky, I’m amazing, nice guy act. Give it up. We can see right through you and you know what, everyone here is right when they say nice people don’t need to tell everyone they’re nice. The nicest people I know will happily admit they can be an asshole at times and acknowledge mistakes they’ve made in the past. No one is perfect but the people who are self aware of the their behaviours and how they affect others are much closer to being perfect humans than you. OWN IT PAUL BABS
Your ranting and raving this morning was the most ridiculous thing I have ever seen. You are an angry, passive aggressive, pathetic excuse for a man who can not take any criticism about his toxic noncey behaviour. I heard you saying something about people having one night stands yet you’re the creep? THIS. THIS is exactly what concerns me the most about you. There is no comparison of two adults participating in consensual sex to you, a grown 42 year old man liking images of/following/messaging teenage (possibly underage) girls. It is very worrying that you don’t see the difference. You even bringing up the one night stand thing is literally giving me jealous incel vibes to start with and is just you trying to deflect from the fact you are a creep and you’ve been caught out this time.
He was also saying how no one brings up the nice comments he leaves for people so ima go ahead and bring that up also. It’s weird Paul. I don’t really care if you’re trying to be supportive, it’s just weird. Messaging random girls on the internet telling them they’re amazing. Weird. Why would you think they want you ya little worm slithering in their dm’s? A bloke old enough to be their dad. Seriously, do you actually think that would make anyone feel better?! The continuous flirting/sexual innuendos on your previous lives. Weird. You might not have broken any laws yet and you might be getting by on technicalities but you are bleeping weird. Your behaviour is worrying. The way you prey on young vulnerable women is disturbing and the fact you you’ve got hundreds of people on the internet telling you your behaving is disturbing and yet you would rather rant and rave down the lens of a phone making yourself look more unhinged by the day, than take a step back and maybe evaluate things is what truly gets to me the most. You’re not right in the head lad.
Sorry for the rant, big hugs everyone xo
. The man spent 42 minutes ranting about how unaffected he is. 
