katherine heigl was a combo of a few things. she also wanted to turn down her grey’s anatomy emmy nomination because she said the material had been too bad to warrant it iirc - but i think shonda rhimes isn’t easy to work for. like you say, had a man said these things the impact wouldn’t have been the same. robert pattinson was dragging twilight in the dvd commentary and no one said anything beyond how funny he was!!
i had no idea about the fallout from this, i need to go and read more! i thought she came across well on the podcast tbh (very smart and witty), he sounds like his ego is fragile af.