Since #BeKind, they are careful to out and out shame. So they dress up the headline with a compliment that is the completely opposite description to what is the reality to induce below the line comments.
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Oh okay. What is she a conspiracy theorist about ?
But if you didn't do anything as a friend to try and help someone obese that you care about, would you feel guilty from doing nothing at all to get them healthier if down the line they had a heart attack or announced they had diabetes or heart disease or high cholesterol?
No, I would consider them an adult who didn’t need me to tell them what is patently obvious. I would support them if they decided to make healthy choices but not stick my neb in otherwise.
So you'd watch someone you care about make bad lifestyle choices instead of talking to them about it? If someone I cared about what overweight and I didn't try to help them and then they got bad health issues then I would feel guilty for not speaking up.
I might subtly suggest. I wouldn’t discuss it if they didn’t bring it up first. Probably would carefully with OH or a very close relative but not anybody else. People lose weight, stop addictions when they are ready to. Not because X has pointed out they are making bad lifestyle choices. They are adults, why would you feel guilty about their choices.
If you bring up things with them then there is no reason to feel guilty if they end up in a bad way down the line because of poor lifestyle choices. But if you don't at least bring it up to them I would feel guilty. It's so easy to lose weight that you can do it by being a slob who doesn't exercises and just sits all day watching TV. It's not difficult to avoid or cut down on things like alcohol, chips and desserts and eat more salads.
That’s abit ignorant, sugar addiction and binge eating is a real addiction. And it’s certainly not easy to lose weight. Most obese people battle with this their whole life and even if they lose the weight they have to really work on their mindset to stay slim. A lot of the time genetically their more likely to be large, adding that to a food addiction and struggling with body imagine it’s is definitely not ‘so easy to lose weight’.
That’s the last I’ll say on it I don’t want to derail the thread but as someone with actual experience of battling food addiction and being obese I feel like I can get Scarlet in terms of her weight and I know I would cut off any friend of family if they ever felt the need to comment of my weight being slim or large it’s no one’s business but mine
With views like that I wouldn’t want you “suggesting” and “mentioning” poor lifestyle choices. It is none of your judgy business.
But if she had a heart attack or whilst young developed life long complications because of her poor lifestyle then how could you have sympathy for someone who wouldn't help themselves.
We have different views. Let’s leave it there.
This is such bull.Weight has more to do with genes than "being a slob who doesn't exercise".Why do you think there are people who can eat whatever they want and they never put on any weight? .There are also lots of reasons people are overweight,yes some eat excessively, but there are also reasons for that too.Food addiction is as real as drug or alcohol addiction.Your attitude sucks.
100% this.
Someone else's weight is absolutely NONE of anyone's business and coming at it from the "health concern" angle is just so bleeping disingenuous because what it actually means is "Christ, you've let yourself go/you're an embarrassment/I don't want to be seen with you"
My boyfriend's parents are going the shaming route with him. It doesn't work. Makes him eat more. In fact, his father said something so rude to him last time he saw him, it left me genuinely open mouthed in horror. My parents have never said anything about my weight (that I can remember) but I tell you something, if my mum had ever said anything like that to me, I'd have slapped her face (and I have never done that as I'm a bit scared of her
) and you know what? She would absolutely know she deserved it.Well done on your weight loss. I understand the struggle. 48 years of hiding food, eating in secret, binging, compulsive overeating and food addiction ending with a severe depression to the point of being bedridden for two years and thinking of taking my own life because of my weight. Add in multiple sclerosis for 21 of those 48 years just for good measure. I've been a size 10 up to probably a size 32/34 (I stopped buying clothes so I don't know for sure) and everything in between.
But I think I finally have it cracked this time - I've lost just over eight stone in four and a half years. All by myself. I still have a little way to go but I've broken the back of it. I do gentle yoga now daily - I am committed to my practise even on my shittest days. I still battle those food demons every day though.
So, for someone people, it's not as easy as just "eat less and move more" and, to be honest, anyone who says that is a bleeping ignorant fool.
By the way, I've never commented on Scarlett before - I have no interest in her - but when I saw her name on the front page, I knew it would be about that Daily Mail photographs.
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Not sure I believe that
Totally agree with this!! People say these things like the person is totally oblivious to what they look like. Other people’s weight is absolutely none of anyone else’s business! Whether she doesn’t care or maybe she’s desperately trying to change but that’s up to her and doesn’t affect anyone else. Also I think she looks fine, she’s said multiple times she’s battled with weight and some people generally are just happier in life to just be a little of the bigger side. That’s totally okay and I absolutely hate that some people in society are so against this still.
Honestly, who fancies Ant McPartlin?! Rather bag the bloke who works down the corner shop who's 5'4 with a beer belly!give over man