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Any other women still feel worse than ever walking home?
Cross post from Gender discussion-
I have a heto walk home. Buses have stopped running after a certain time so I’m going to have to walk in the dark over winter. Same route home, always.
full set of chargers at work to ensure phone and headtorch are charged.
Bigger backpack to avoid carrying extra tote bag (reduce grab handles)
work shoes left in my work locker; running trainers.
I don’t know what else to do to stay safe
Cross post from Gender discussion-
I have a heto walk home. Buses have stopped running after a certain time so I’m going to have to walk in the dark over winter. Same route home, always.
full set of chargers at work to ensure phone and headtorch are charged.
Bigger backpack to avoid carrying extra tote bag (reduce grab handles)
work shoes left in my work locker; running trainers.
I don’t know what else to do to stay safe
Yes I feel more nervous walking home alone now that I am 30 than I ever did throughout my 20s. I used to work late night jobs in bars and restaurants but now coming home from my office job a bit later than usual, like if I go to the gym afterwards, in the winter makes me nervous.Any other women still feel worse than ever walking home?
Cross post from Gender discussion-
I have a heto walk home. Buses have stopped running after a certain time so I’m going to have to walk in the dark over winter. Same route home, always.
full set of chargers at work to ensure phone and headtorch are charged.
Bigger backpack to avoid carrying extra tote bag (reduce grab handles)
work shoes left in my work locker; running trainers.
I don’t know what else to do to stay safe
Its so awful that we have to do things like this. I darent take my little boy for a walk without a grape alarm on days when it's quiet. And a local beauty spot that's always been my safe haven and my favourite spot- has just been in the local news for a flasher being seen there. Apparently he was a young lad in his 20s, exposed himself to 2 young girls. I live near alton towers and it's so rural and we never usually have things happen like this, but just lately I'm getting scared to walk around.Any other women still feel worse than ever walking home?
Cross post from Gender discussion-
I have a heto walk home. Buses have stopped running after a certain time so I’m going to have to walk in the dark over winter. Same route home, always.
full set of chargers at work to ensure phone and headtorch are charged.
Bigger backpack to avoid carrying extra tote bag (reduce grab handles)
work shoes left in my work locker; running trainers.
I don’t know what else to do to stay safe
I'm pretty sure there has been a new app launched where friends can track your journey home, but I don't know what it's called. Have you got a grape alarm? X
Yes me. I will never forget Sarah. I watch alot of true crime etc and I'm ALWAYS aware of my surroundings.Any other women still feel worse than ever walking home?
Cross post from Gender discussion-
I have a heto walk home. Buses have stopped running after a certain time so I’m going to have to walk in the dark over winter. Same route home, always.
full set of chargers at work to ensure phone and headtorch are charged.
Bigger backpack to avoid carrying extra tote bag (reduce grab handles)
work shoes left in my work locker; running trainers.
I don’t know what else to do to stay safe
In the last few weeks on my walk back I have several "incidents". Ranging from someone shouting at me from a car , a man clearly drunk walking very close behind me so I stopped to let him go round me and he said " don't worry I'm not following you" then laughed and carried on to the worst one which was on a private lane with houses either side when a car went by me and completely slowed down then stopped in front of me. The driver looked at me in the mirror and then started to get out. I immediately turned right to go and try to walk into one of the houses. He got back in the car and drove away. Terrifying.
My partner has now got me a bike. I carry all my things in a rucksack and put my hood up on the bike so you can't really tell if I'm male or female and I bike back. Takes less than half the time and I'm home before it's too dark. Plus I feel so much safer. It's just a cheap bike so no big deal if it gets damaged etc do I leave it outside the train station all day locked up.
I am furious I feel scared to walk in public when it's dark outside.
I was out on a walk the other day and I noticed so many men (cyclists and dog walkers) walk with big headphones on, meanwhile I carry a water bottle as a weapon and can’t pull my hat down over my ears for fear of not hearing what’s behind me. It’s just not fair
Yep - big hoodie and/or raincoat.
I shared my google map location with my husband, so if I don't appear for a while he can check my location, Do you have a trusted person you could share location with? I know it sounds grim but it makes me feel a bit more confident that my whereabouts could be triangulated.Any other women still feel worse than ever walking home?
Cross post from Gender discussion-
I have a heto walk home. Buses have stopped running after a certain time so I’m going to have to walk in the dark over winter. Same route home, always.
full set of chargers at work to ensure phone and headtorch are charged.
Bigger backpack to avoid carrying extra tote bag (reduce grab handles)
work shoes left in my work locker; running trainers.
I don’t know what else to do to stay safe
I run/walk the dog at night and take the following precautions:
Never walk the same route twice in a row
Dress like a man
Keys primed to use as a weapon
grape alarm
No headphones
Hollie app on phone
Eyes everywhere
If I get spooked, I head for a well populated area with a plan of banging on doors/screaming
I had the same white van pass me 3 times last week. Was probably a coincidence but I shot down a cul de sac and walked down a drive that had a ring doorbell.
Never walk the same route twice in a row
Dress like a man
Keys primed to use as a weapon
grape alarm
No headphones
Hollie app on phone
Eyes everywhere
If I get spooked, I head for a well populated area with a plan of banging on doors/screaming
I had the same white van pass me 3 times last week. Was probably a coincidence but I shot down a cul de sac and walked down a drive that had a ring doorbell.
I walk most days. I have a gorgeous walking trail near me but because it’s so secluded I only walk it with my husband. I don’t feel safe anymore, not like I used to. I’m not afraid but there’s a part of your brain that’s always alert for danger. We had a high profile murder of a young woman during a mid afternoon jog in a busy area and I’ve never felt the same since. Men really do live in a different world, they have no idea what it’s like to live this way 
This is the thing, obviously at night we feel unsafe (I say obviously, how sad to even say this) but where I live ( a relatively safe area of London) there was a case a few months ago in which a woman was tried to be grabbed into a windowless van pretty much outside my flat - a very busy area, during the day - thank god someone saw it and intervened, but just one incident makes you scared forever.I walk most days. I have a gorgeous walking trail near me but because it’s so secluded I only walk it with my husband. I don’t feel safe anymore, not like I used to. I’m not afraid but there’s a part of your brain that’s always alert for danger. We had a high profile murder of a young woman during a mid afternoon jog in a busy area and I’ve never felt the same since. Men really do live in a different world, they have no idea what it’s like to live this way
I was just about to type how sad it it that we don't see Police doing a regular beat to keep order in the streets, then I remembered that Sarah's murderer is a policeman 
I feel like we can't trust anyone out there but ourselves
I feel like we can't trust anyone out there but ourselves
I really think there needs to be a massive recruitment drive for female police, I feel much safer if I see a man and a woman officer together (or just a woman lets be honest)I was just about to type how sad it it that we don't see Police doing a regular beat to keep order in the streets, then I remembered that Sarah's murderer is a policeman
I feel like we can't trust anyone out there but ourselves
I read that having your keys between your fingers to use as a weapon will actually do more damage to your hand than it will to a potential attacker. The followup advice was "if your keys are all you have then don't try to slash with them but do a stabbing motion"...in other words, aim for the eyes or something that will cause pain so you can get away. Don't hold them in between your fingers.I run/walk the dog at night and take the following precautions:
Never walk the same route twice in a row
Dress like a man
Keys primed to use as a weapon
grape alarm
No headphones
Hollie app on phone
Eyes everywhere
If I get spooked, I head for a well populated area with a plan of banging on doors/screaming
I had the same white van pass me 3 times last week. Was probably a coincidence but I shot down a cul de sac and walked down a drive that had a ring doorbell.
I read somewhere that it is good to have a hairspray in your bag, basically acts almost like pepper spray to spray in someone's eyes giving you time to escape. Stabbing someone with keys is pretty much impossible unless you are really strong/your keys are insanely sharp (mine are basically sqaured so..), if they are taller trying to reach their eyes is very difficult anyway
Nah, you'll just get a load of 'self identifying' clowns applying, after all, ANYONE can be a woman if they say they are.
A woman recently got taken to court for selling anti -attack kits on the internet. She had seen similar in the US on sale (which I've seen advertised on tiktok) and didn't know they were illegal here. The items, such as pepper spray and pointed tools, all on a keyring, had been available through wholesale from China.
The comments on the report were mainly women, absolutely rooting for the woman and criticising how we are at a disadvantage. I wish we could prepare ourselves better. Maybe then we wouldn't be so vulnerable.
The comments on the report were mainly women, absolutely rooting for the woman and criticising how we are at a disadvantage. I wish we could prepare ourselves better. Maybe then we wouldn't be so vulnerable.
Can you invest in a bike? So you count cycle to and from work? And on nights if the weather is awful could you get a taxi?Any other women still feel worse than ever walking home?
Cross post from Gender discussion-
I have a heto walk home. Buses have stopped running after a certain time so I’m going to have to walk in the dark over winter. Same route home, always.
full set of chargers at work to ensure phone and headtorch are charged.
Bigger backpack to avoid carrying extra tote bag (reduce grab handles)
work shoes left in my work locker; running trainers.
I don’t know what else to do to stay safe