My kids know their dad. He’s a waster but that’s not my business. My partner can’t understand how I never no matter what he does run him down. I always say why? Why hurt a little girl who already has issues as her dad pops up when he wants. Why make my sons feel angrier as he never turns up to games etc I always told the bio dad they will uncover the truth themselves and that he will be found out and they will not want to see him. So I kept smiling and dropping the kids off and pretending he was amazing. I couldn’t stand him but you would have thought we were best friends when we saw each other with the kids. Now slowly they are calling my partner of many years dad, and their bio dad is disappearing by choice for months if not years on end. He’s only in the next town 40 mins away but he has decided to carry on being a waster. I never forced my kids on my partner, never tried to put the dad tag on him but he was there for all the illnesses, the times they would get ready and their bio dad didn’t turn up, the Christmas mornings, the school meetings, the sad days etc etc and the kids on their own volition decided he is my dad. What she is doing is so damaging and disgusting to that boy. She only said a few days ago he was with his DAD. I remember telling the bio dad that the kids were calling my partner dad and he said he’s a good man they are right to. I grew up in a toxic war zone of a parental marriage. It destroyed me to this day. She will reap what she sows.