"You are not alive to pay bills and lose weight." Wow. While I'm sure there's no malicious intent with that statement, there's so much wrong with it. How tone deaf can you be? It's easy to say when you have a stable income and the privilege to eat and exercise well. She's one of the fortunate ones able to see what experiences there are beyond "paying bills". I hate this idea that people aren't "living" unless they're doing certain things - things that come with privilege, time, no one depending on them, etc. We know there's more to life, but sadly not all of us can take an abundance of trips abroad each year or see the world that's out there. Such a slap in the face to people like myself who come from low income households where an unexpected bill is a potential week's worth of food shopping. Many of us don't have the luxury to live a blissful life without the stress or worry of keeping a roof over our heads, or the struggle of eating well on an extremely tight budget.