"This is probably my favourite shelf in my wardrobe because this is my Hermione Granger shelf". I would have died of embarrassment to have a video like this out there on the internet when I was 16.
She could easily be mistaken for a pre-teen or just-turned-teenager in that video, at least IMO.
I'm so sorry you went through that, some people can be terrible. Honestly I relate a lot, bullying can destroy a person's self esteem. Although I do disagree with part of it. I was bullied emotionally and physically and I'd much rather deal with the emotional stuff than get stitches from being beat up so bad. Teachers probably do stop it a lot, but a lot less at my school. That's why support networks are so important and Ruby kinda found hers in YouTube so that's fair.This was totally my experience with bullying — I couldn’t tell anybody because it was all mind games, and tormenting me without actually doing anything that could specifically be reported. Pretending to be your friend and make conversation with you solely to laugh about it, boys asking you out as a joke, being left out of things, people clearly laughing about you, if you ignored them they wouldn’t stop, and then if you were ever upset/angered by the things that they’d say they’d find that hilarious too so there was no winning, knowing nobody wanted to be put with you for group work ... the things along them lines.
I had such an awful high school experience because of this, to the point my self confidence as a 23 year old is completely shot. I still feel unworthy of ever being loved despite really wanting to, I look in the mirror and hate myself when I’m not even ugly, and I still get so overwhelmed with anxiety over what others may think of me. Even through university it took me until my final year to break through the feeling that everyone probably hated me.
Bullying is horrific and I’ve always felt that Ruby only ever talks about it in the way you see it portrayed in children’s tv and film. Hair pulling and being beaten up in the hallways — both things that definitely happen, but they’re the sort of bullying that gets caught by teachers more or less ...
ETA: My parents never knew, and I only mentioned having a terrible high school experience to them very recently.
I’m so sorry you went through that too — both are awful and I can’t imagine how it must feel.
hi, just want to say i had the exact same experience as you. my friend group was horrible at times, and when i would mention to them that they were making me feel horrible they would somehow turn it back onto me. my high school was small so i just had to get on with it. i spent most of my senior year in the library alone at lunch and recess.This was totally my experience with bullying — I couldn’t tell anybody because it was all mind games, and tormenting me without actually doing anything that could specifically be reported. Pretending to be your friend and make conversation with you solely to laugh about it, boys asking you out as a joke, being left out of things, people clearly laughing about you, if you ignored them they wouldn’t stop, and then if you were ever upset/angered by the things that they’d say they’d find that hilarious too so there was no winning, knowing nobody wanted to be put with you for group work ... the things along them lines.
I had such an awful high school experience because of this, to the point my self confidence as a 23 year old is completely shot. I still feel unworthy of ever being loved despite really wanting to, I look in the mirror and hate myself when I’m not even ugly, and I still get so overwhelmed with anxiety over what others may think of me. Even through university it took me until my final year to break through the feeling that everyone probably hated me.
Bullying is horrific and I’ve always felt that Ruby only ever talks about it in the way you see it portrayed in children’s tv and film. Hair pulling and being beaten up in the hallways — both things that definitely happen, but they’re the sort of bullying that gets caught by teachers more or less ...
ETA: My parents never knew, and I only mentioned having a terrible high school experience to them very recently.
Even back then it's like she's trying to act younger than she is. I think she's been praised by adults her whole life for acting like a cute little girl and she thrives on that validation. Her whole personality is about being every parents dream child, every teachers dream student. Except it's less cute now that she's an adult
These things just make me cringe - not just Ruby doing them but the vast majority of them, which are mostly poorly researched and done by people who have read one book or watched one TV programme and think that what they’ve read about one person, culture or class applies to everyone without exception.Did I see Victorian Evening plan on her latest instagram story?
This is 100% it for me, I think that is exactly what has happened with Ruby. She made it her internet personality as well and now she can’t seem to grow up from it
I think when you're 15/16/17 that kind of behaviour can actually be mistaken for maturity and garner a lot of praise, which is I think what may have happen to Ruby with her parents & teachers. Except with Ruby it's now become her whole personality and I don't think lockdown and her not being able to be away at university has helped.
I'm a PhD student and I would just... run out of things to do? I live my subject and my project, but can only concentrate on things that require deep focus for a few hours, if that. And yes, emails and admin are never not piling up, but there is only so much busy work I can do in a day, too. Just - what are these people doing for this many hours straight? How do they focus after the first 12 hours?A bit OT, but there is a guy doing a 19h study lifestream on Tiktok (4 am-11 pm), that can't be healthy right?
She still gets those kinds of comments on her videos, particularly the 'study with me' ones. People say that their parents or teachers would love to have Ruby as a child/student. Definitely agree that she's always thrived on being told these kinds of things, particularly as it would have been seen as maturity when she was younger.
Other than that I have to say, I really enjoy her "outfit". The black top seems much more age appropriate, especially with her hair up. I mean, I still wonder what this hairstyle is supposed to be, but at least it's something new and I enjoy it much more than the plain long young girl look she usually fashions.
It's insane, I can't focus for more than 7-8 hours in a day. I find that it's way better for me to start studying well in advance for my exams and be consistent (i.e study for at least 6 hours everyday without fail) than to cram it all into extreme study days towards the end when I don't have any more time.
