Ruby Granger #8 Government checks, body checks, and yet no privilege checks
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^ yikes, the receding hairline is showing. Does that count as ED-bait or is it not ~aesthetic~ enough?
I’m a minute and a half into her new video and I’ve got to say — I find it really disheartening to see how disinterested Ruby seems to be in her research internship. It’s just one more thing to cross off her never-ending to do list. Why not give us more background info on the poet? What about genuine interest? Oh, I forgot, it’s Victorian children she cares about. 
No way do I believe that is her afternoon routine (In regards to her newest video).
I'm from the U.K myself and yes, alot of people do have afternoon tea. Its usually in the form of a cup of tea or coffee with a couple of biscuits, with the occasional slice of cake or scone.
We don't stop everything we are doing, get the fine china out, put on our posh frocks and sit around the kitchen table pretending were the Queen of England.
I'm from the U.K myself and yes, alot of people do have afternoon tea. Its usually in the form of a cup of tea or coffee with a couple of biscuits, with the occasional slice of cake or scone.
We don't stop everything we are doing, get the fine china out, put on our posh frocks and sit around the kitchen table pretending were the Queen of England.
feels like Holly-bait to me lmao
can't believe how fast these threads go lmao but 2 things I've been thinking about -
1. the 'routine' videos are so silly now she's like a parody of herself.. if I didn't know better I'd think the new afternoon one was an april fools vid with how dull it all was.. think someone mentioned it before but they're literally just vlog / day in the life videos?? like that's EXACTLY what they are and clearly the content she enjoys producing so why not just title them that?!?! I guess the 'routine' stuff is what she thinks gets the most clicks because it lets her play up the british / cottagecore / countryside / slow living / victorian nonsense cringefest that young viewers enjoy, especially those outside uk who I guess come for the whole romanticised upper class vibe judging by her comment sections
2. I know that what constitutes a fulfilling lifestyle is always gonna be subjective but can't help always thinking about how utterly BORING Ruby's life is?? Not saying you can't entertain yourself with literature / music alone but the lack of any other entertainment media in her videos is so depressing to me lmao maybe I'm biased as someone on a film degree but she comes off to me as such a film/tv snob, the part in one of her recent vids where she mentioned she's just started watching tv with parents in the evening and they watched some simpsons or something was so odd to me like? I get that some people don't even enjoy movies or tv but the way all her vids are hours and hours and hours of studying interspersed with reading and maybe 15 minutes of watching youtube looks so painfully boring to me lmao I wonder if she considers anything outside of the 'high arts' of any actual worth, for someone obsessed with kids books you'd hope she could give literally any other challenging media a go lol I always wonder if she's secretly watching tv or movies when the camera's off but doesn't bother to document it because it's below her 'aesthetic'
GOD SORRY THAT WAS SO LONGGGG
1. the 'routine' videos are so silly now she's like a parody of herself.. if I didn't know better I'd think the new afternoon one was an april fools vid with how dull it all was.. think someone mentioned it before but they're literally just vlog / day in the life videos?? like that's EXACTLY what they are and clearly the content she enjoys producing so why not just title them that?!?! I guess the 'routine' stuff is what she thinks gets the most clicks because it lets her play up the british / cottagecore / countryside / slow living / victorian nonsense cringefest that young viewers enjoy, especially those outside uk who I guess come for the whole romanticised upper class vibe judging by her comment sections
2. I know that what constitutes a fulfilling lifestyle is always gonna be subjective but can't help always thinking about how utterly BORING Ruby's life is?? Not saying you can't entertain yourself with literature / music alone but the lack of any other entertainment media in her videos is so depressing to me lmao maybe I'm biased as someone on a film degree but she comes off to me as such a film/tv snob, the part in one of her recent vids where she mentioned she's just started watching tv with parents in the evening and they watched some simpsons or something was so odd to me like? I get that some people don't even enjoy movies or tv but the way all her vids are hours and hours and hours of studying interspersed with reading and maybe 15 minutes of watching youtube looks so painfully boring to me lmao I wonder if she considers anything outside of the 'high arts' of any actual worth, for someone obsessed with kids books you'd hope she could give literally any other challenging media a go lol I always wonder if she's secretly watching tv or movies when the camera's off but doesn't bother to document it because it's below her 'aesthetic'
GOD SORRY THAT WAS SO LONGGGG
bit off topic but in the old thread someone said she might think she "lost" her childhood by always trying to act mature and wordly (at least i think that's how they said it...) and it made my think of that modern family wpisode where it's manny's birthday (13 years i guess) and jay says manny has always been an old man in the body of a lil boy. so manny realises he never had a childhood and he just starts doing "childish" things but it's so odd because it's just not him. i think it is the same situation with ruby, besides manny avtually being a child. still, i think going home didn't help ruby at all. at uni, she had to live on her own and act like an actual adult, whereas at home she can just act like a toddler living with momma and dada again, really sheltered and no responsibilities
All four photos in Ruby’s most recent Instagram post (if you can call it that, given that it’s just yet another advert clogging up her socials) look like they could be of a literal 11 year old. The constant attempts to infantilise herself are so disconcerting and unsettling to me. I don’t know how much longer I can follow this trainwreck, and yet I can’t pull my eyes away. If she doesn’t get help soon she runs the risk of developing serious psychological issues where she’s forcibly stunted herself all for the sake of attempting to escape the inevitable; that she has to grow up and be an adult.
Inception Ruby
I couldn’t even finished her cottage uni video. She just doesn’t even know how privileged she is. It’s cringe. Fucks me off. Just duck OFF.
Any idea what her parents do? Because she looks RICH.
i really do understand y'all, this isn't cool and everything, but then i think we can't really criticise her for her behaviour as we don't know what she really is like, maybe she has some serious mental health issues and i don't think we'd be making them better.
you don't chose to develop an ed or a mental illness, or maybe she really is on the spectrum and i'm pretty sure that this wouldn't help her as well, also it's definitely not something she can, in any way, control.
i mean, from what we see from her and what we read in erimentha, we can surely guess ruby wasn't the other students favourite for a reason. still, she might have been bullied for being different, something i experienced myself. kids can be cruel if you have the wrong interests, wear the wrong clothes or behave differently; that can also be not feeling comfortable with socialising or just being socially awkward (autism, anyone).
maybe she was coping with this by trying to be perfect and rather mature compared to the other kids, and this might have lead to her "better than the classmates" attitude as her lil anti-bullying wall she built around her, thinking that they're just jealous or whatever.
now that she grew up and she doesn't have these problems anymore/was able to lay her defence attitude down, she might be realising how she just completely skipped her teenage years. and, in my opinion, losing your childhood to bullies is one of the worst things that can happen to you. i can understand her wanting her childhood back, and moving back to mommy and daddy, having no responsibilities and no reason to act like an adult is just the perfect chance to have a "second childhood".
yeah, i agree that her romanticising of the victorian era is very weird, but maybe she has this modern childhood = bullying kinda connection, and from what she learned from her fairy tale books being a child in vic era must have been great. so she builds a perfect version of this, without the problems of course. i just think that maybe something inside her really broke and she's desperately trying to fix it, without really knowing how.
her ed behaviour might be scam of course, but most of the people don't plan to get one but rather just slip into it and only realise it when it's too late already. ruby might have thought that she'll just stop at the right point and that she'd be able to get out of it when she wanted too - that's what we all think, isn't it? now that she realised it might be a bit more problematic, she maybe wants someone around her to notice an help her by making it really obvious (sadly her family is just as oblivious as she is)
imo she needs professional help, but i know how hard it is to get help once you're in it. maybe she's scamming us and laughing at her bank account as i write this, but i think her obliviousness, ed and everything else might just be her way to hold herself together. there's plenty to criticise her for, still, but at this point i just feel sorry for her because i was exactly like her and i was struggling so hard. ruby reminds me of myself and i know how bad it would have been for me back then to get that kind of comments on something i hated myself for but i couldn't control anymore.
i know that nobody's really going to read this, but i feel better now i've said it and i feel like it's an important thing to point out. i'm very emotional right now because this brought up some memories and i feel so sorry for ruby. thus what i wrote probably doesn't make any sense at all, but please consider carefully what you criticise people for and what they can actually do about it.
you don't chose to develop an ed or a mental illness, or maybe she really is on the spectrum and i'm pretty sure that this wouldn't help her as well, also it's definitely not something she can, in any way, control.
i mean, from what we see from her and what we read in erimentha, we can surely guess ruby wasn't the other students favourite for a reason. still, she might have been bullied for being different, something i experienced myself. kids can be cruel if you have the wrong interests, wear the wrong clothes or behave differently; that can also be not feeling comfortable with socialising or just being socially awkward (autism, anyone).
maybe she was coping with this by trying to be perfect and rather mature compared to the other kids, and this might have lead to her "better than the classmates" attitude as her lil anti-bullying wall she built around her, thinking that they're just jealous or whatever.
now that she grew up and she doesn't have these problems anymore/was able to lay her defence attitude down, she might be realising how she just completely skipped her teenage years. and, in my opinion, losing your childhood to bullies is one of the worst things that can happen to you. i can understand her wanting her childhood back, and moving back to mommy and daddy, having no responsibilities and no reason to act like an adult is just the perfect chance to have a "second childhood".
yeah, i agree that her romanticising of the victorian era is very weird, but maybe she has this modern childhood = bullying kinda connection, and from what she learned from her fairy tale books being a child in vic era must have been great. so she builds a perfect version of this, without the problems of course. i just think that maybe something inside her really broke and she's desperately trying to fix it, without really knowing how.
her ed behaviour might be scam of course, but most of the people don't plan to get one but rather just slip into it and only realise it when it's too late already. ruby might have thought that she'll just stop at the right point and that she'd be able to get out of it when she wanted too - that's what we all think, isn't it? now that she realised it might be a bit more problematic, she maybe wants someone around her to notice an help her by making it really obvious (sadly her family is just as oblivious as she is)
imo she needs professional help, but i know how hard it is to get help once you're in it. maybe she's scamming us and laughing at her bank account as i write this, but i think her obliviousness, ed and everything else might just be her way to hold herself together. there's plenty to criticise her for, still, but at this point i just feel sorry for her because i was exactly like her and i was struggling so hard. ruby reminds me of myself and i know how bad it would have been for me back then to get that kind of comments on something i hated myself for but i couldn't control anymore.
i know that nobody's really going to read this, but i feel better now i've said it and i feel like it's an important thing to point out. i'm very emotional right now because this brought up some memories and i feel so sorry for ruby. thus what i wrote probably doesn't make any sense at all, but please consider carefully what you criticise people for and what they can actually do about it.
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I'm actually in disbelief at that rice pudding portion. A baby starting on solids would have a bigger portion than that. Someone filmed her reaction saying the rice pudding was "so good", why is no-one in her family calling her out saying that her portion sizes are ridiculous and very irresponsible to be showing as she has an audience.
She seriously needs to get a grip on reality. I don't understand why she also gets changed into so many outfits in a day and why she frolics around the garden like she's in a novel and romanticising childhood so much when she's a literal grown adult. She's giving me such uncomfortable, creepy vibes recently.
She seriously needs to get a grip on reality. I don't understand why she also gets changed into so many outfits in a day and why she frolics around the garden like she's in a novel and romanticising childhood so much when she's a literal grown adult. She's giving me such uncomfortable, creepy vibes recently.
I read, and I want to say thank you. I’ve can empathise in the sense that I see Ruby and can get very emotional due to my own experience. This does make me conscious of projecting, but in truth I am so worried about her. I did the same course, at the same university. Six months before graduation I had to leave and go into hospital due to an ED. I didn’t truly know how bad it was, sadly my family didn’t either but that was because I was a) very good at concealing, but also b) away from home.
The one solace I can find in this situation is that b doesn’t apply. Nor does Ruby seem desperate to get away from home, which I personally was in order to conceal the true extent. So part of me wonders if she is hoping her family realise. If it is a cry for help? That is possible to, as it is exactly what I did last spring when I chose to do lockdown with my parents. I realised I was slipping, but not quite at the same point as five years ago when I was in utter denial. For her sake, I hope her parents do something. Not just them, but her”fans” too. If they truly care, they will stop fetishising this. Illness is not aesthetic.
In terms of portions - I list all concept of realistic portions when I was ill. Even now, I occasionally check in with my family if my portion is “normal” because I dont quite trust myself. That rice pudding reminded me of the pitiful yoghurt bowls I had at uni and was convinced were normal. I am not saying that Ruby should not be held accountable for putting out this content, but if she is ill then her family are enabling her.
Finally (and I apologise for how long this is) the clothes changing is also something I did. Perhaps I’m reading too much into this (again, as I said I’m conscious of projecting) but I changed clothes frequently when I was ill, but because I felt uncomfortable, but also it can be a sign of body checking.
(Recap)
Ruby…
- still does boring routine videos that change constantly (not much of a routine, then, is it Ruby?)
- is doing more #ads than ever before (is now the majority of her new Insta stories and posts)
- had a “big” announcement: redesigning one of her planners to match her Academic Planner and Yearly Planner
- continues to wear oversized collars and come up with peculiar outfits
- exhibits poor time management, poor planning, and ineffective studying techniques (writing to-do lists in several different places, rewriting notes over and over again, and other useless busy work)
- has a new
aesthetic genuine Victorian bed frame and has rearranged her room
- films/takes photos in her house that is in a rather messy, cluttered state
- is wearing mismatched outfits (but that’s okay because it’s stillvintage and Victorian)
- does some rather strange poses
- pulls some weird faces sometimes or tries to do this cringey cutesy smile
- still boasts about the number of books she’s “read”, and continues to value quantity over quality
- said one way to get motivated to read is to focus on aesthetics like dark academia, and said she though Oscar Wilde would be proud of her (he most certainly would not)
- bases her whole personality around just being such abookworm
- has been gifted a new LG laptop for another #ad and “reviewed” it after “using” it for a week
- posted (and then deleted) a story of her using her MacBook when she was “using” the LG laptop for a week
- was paid to advertise the census (gotta keep doing those #ads)
- is doing more monologues were she tries to be “deep” and “poetic” but it’s really obvious that it’s performative and staged
- has inspired another YouTuber Darling Desi who makes videos similar to Ruby’s and has recently done the “I Tried Following a Victorian Morning Routine” video that Ruby did a while back
Ruby…
- still does boring routine videos that change constantly (not much of a routine, then, is it Ruby?)
- is doing more #ads than ever before (is now the majority of her new Insta stories and posts)
- had a “big” announcement: redesigning one of her planners to match her Academic Planner and Yearly Planner
- continues to wear oversized collars and come up with peculiar outfits
- exhibits poor time management, poor planning, and ineffective studying techniques (writing to-do lists in several different places, rewriting notes over and over again, and other useless busy work)
- has a new
aesthetic genuine Victorian bed frame and has rearranged her room- films/takes photos in her house that is in a rather messy, cluttered state
- is wearing mismatched outfits (but that’s okay because it’s still
vintage and Victorian)- does some rather strange poses
- pulls some weird faces sometimes or tries to do this cringey cutesy smile
- still boasts about the number of books she’s “read”, and continues to value quantity over quality
- said one way to get motivated to read is to focus on aesthetics like dark academia, and said she though Oscar Wilde would be proud of her (he most certainly would not)
- bases her whole personality around just being such a
bookworm- has been gifted a new LG laptop for another #ad and “reviewed” it after “using” it for a week
- posted (and then deleted) a story of her using her MacBook when she was “using” the LG laptop for a week
- was paid to advertise the census (gotta keep doing those #ads)
- is doing more monologues were she tries to be “deep” and “poetic” but it’s really obvious that it’s performative and staged
- has inspired another YouTuber Darling Desi who makes videos similar to Ruby’s and has recently done the “I Tried Following a Victorian Morning Routine” video that Ruby did a while back
The „Victorian cycle routine“ has been around for quite some time now. A lot of costuming YouTubers have done it (morning, hair care, beauty routine). With the dark/light/romantic academia + cottage core aesthetic on the rise it was bound to flow into other channels as well.
What I hate about Ruby‘s and Desi‘s approach is that it is completely unreflected. The costumer group prides itself with some research at least and don’t gloss over the ugly parts. Ruby’s interpretation reminds me more of a creepy horror movie (the Victorians are not known to be the nicest with children, quite the opposite) and Desi acts and looks like Anne of Green Gables on drugs. It’s really frustrating because the whole aesthetic has potent to be one of the better trends (valuing education, the arts and not replacing everything old).
Adding- there doesn’t seem to be a thread on Desi. But boy is she strange? If you look at her SM, she and her husband were a trendy travel couple, talking about adopting a child from Africa (what happened there anyway?) and now she is hardcore cottage core (roughly since Feb 2020). In my opinion they are complete sell outs, riding the current trend. The world travel didn’t go to well on YT, but works great on Insta, her cottage core content is definitely getting more and more popular. It will be interesting how they hold up both aesthetics as soon as you can travel again. Those are pretty different audiences.
What I hate about Ruby‘s and Desi‘s approach is that it is completely unreflected. The costumer group prides itself with some research at least and don’t gloss over the ugly parts. Ruby’s interpretation reminds me more of a creepy horror movie (the Victorians are not known to be the nicest with children, quite the opposite) and Desi acts and looks like Anne of Green Gables on drugs. It’s really frustrating because the whole aesthetic has potent to be one of the better trends (valuing education, the arts and not replacing everything old).
Adding- there doesn’t seem to be a thread on Desi. But boy is she strange? If you look at her SM, she and her husband were a trendy travel couple, talking about adopting a child from Africa (what happened there anyway?) and now she is hardcore cottage core (roughly since Feb 2020). In my opinion they are complete sell outs, riding the current trend. The world travel didn’t go to well on YT, but works great on Insta, her cottage core content is definitely getting more and more popular. It will be interesting how they hold up both aesthetics as soon as you can travel again. Those are pretty different audiences.
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I tried but I can't feel bad for her. Ruby has to have at least some knowledge on EDs given the amount of books she read about it. Also, as someone mentioned before, she doesn't look that thin, not as thin as she would if she was eating the portions she shows in her videos. She even said it herself recently she doesn't show everything she eats. I don't see how she looks "sick" either - she's always been small and as a pale person myself I take offence at people who think I'm sick just because at that particular day I look pale.
I guess I just don't care about her too much. I'm more worried about her viewers. She doesn't do any disclaimers before she shows these small portions and she should be aware that it can be very triggering. Her viewers are mostly kids, she knows she influences them a lot - just look at the comment section. She should really be more responsible about it. Out of the blue she changed her Hermione/studying content into a weird cottagecore / wanna be Victorian play along and I suppose many of her viewers didn't even pick up on that and have any understanding she might be just "acting" it. It pisses me off cause she's in her 20s and her viewers are actual kids. Not to mention how fucked up it is she's trying to portray herself as a kid too. Again, if she was a male, she would experience a crazy backlash and be called a perv.
Now, if you feel worried about her - message her, comment, whatever. I just think she has tons of money, friends, family, access to tons of resources and us saying that we're "worried" means tit cause she can easily get help but first she has to admit she's in the wrong and we can suppose it won't happen with Ruby. I just mean it's not our responsibility, more like it's more important to spread awareness that it's not okay to present it that way to impressionable kids who watch her and follow her as an example of perfection. At the same time, despite of what and whom she portrays, she's sneaky (yes, the holocaust memorial, the 10k laptop, among others) and there's much more to that than she's showing us. So I guess instead of pitying her I'd rather see her get her tit together and take responsibility for her behaviour as a semi public person who earns tons of money from influencing kids after all.
I guess I just don't care about her too much. I'm more worried about her viewers. She doesn't do any disclaimers before she shows these small portions and she should be aware that it can be very triggering. Her viewers are mostly kids, she knows she influences them a lot - just look at the comment section. She should really be more responsible about it. Out of the blue she changed her Hermione/studying content into a weird cottagecore / wanna be Victorian play along and I suppose many of her viewers didn't even pick up on that and have any understanding she might be just "acting" it. It pisses me off cause she's in her 20s and her viewers are actual kids. Not to mention how fucked up it is she's trying to portray herself as a kid too. Again, if she was a male, she would experience a crazy backlash and be called a perv.
Now, if you feel worried about her - message her, comment, whatever. I just think she has tons of money, friends, family, access to tons of resources and us saying that we're "worried" means tit cause she can easily get help but first she has to admit she's in the wrong and we can suppose it won't happen with Ruby. I just mean it's not our responsibility, more like it's more important to spread awareness that it's not okay to present it that way to impressionable kids who watch her and follow her as an example of perfection. At the same time, despite of what and whom she portrays, she's sneaky (yes, the holocaust memorial, the 10k laptop, among others) and there's much more to that than she's showing us. So I guess instead of pitying her I'd rather see her get her tit together and take responsibility for her behaviour as a semi public person who earns tons of money from influencing kids after all.
Sure, absolutely. Honestly she is a grown adult, she has a support network with her family and she has the resources to seek help. I'm sure her parents see what she does and understand that she has issues. The thing is they seem to indulge her a lot instead of putting their foot down and dealing with her nonsense.
Her fans though are all young and the last thing a 12-year-old needs is to have a role model that eats like a baby bird and does nothing but study all day.
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