annoying yes, optimist tho?
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Ruby Granger #41 Poor Blakeney, being replaced by ChatGPT
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Her Dad in the quad (is that what it was called?) was soooo cute. I can't believe she's already making excuses about social stuff though - totally get being introverted, I am too, but the first week of a new course would be a time I'd personally push myself to socialise and make friends, being a bit overwhelmed/tired isn't going to kill her
Her advice is basically to run away and hide in your room at the first sight of discomfort lol no actually scratch that — first possibility of discomfort.
Never take a chance, kids. Don't try, don't take a dip, and definitely don't grow. There's absolutely no such thing as duck around and find out.
Never take a chance, kids. Don't try, don't take a dip, and definitely don't grow. There's absolutely no such thing as duck around and find out.
I'm an extreme introvert (audhd too) but I'm so glad I pushed myself outside of my comfort zone to make friends during the first few weeks of uni, I'd be lost without them now! I understand she's an introvert and doesn't want a huge circle of friends, but surely she'd want to connect with at least one or two people?
I can't believe that she decided not to go to the pizza evening event by coming up with the i'm so tired excuse. I mean she's gone to the university that she has wanted to go to for years, but then decides not to go to the pizza evening and meet the people who will be on the masters course with her. It just doesn't make any sense.
I am also an introvert and I'm quite shy but I know how important it is to be as sociable as possible at first when you join a new social setting. In the first days everyone is new and getting to know each other so there isn't that awkward vibe and pressure of being "the new person" like when you join an already established group. After that it gets easier to naturally fall into a social group to hang out with. If she skips out on these social events that are designed for everyone to get to know each other, she'll feel a lot worse a week or so down the line when everyone else has already become closer and is hanging out naturally without need for organized social events, and she's out of step.
Omg it is hilarious that this is the top comment. Brutal. It seems so backhanded but I think they’re being genuine? 
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Very surprised to hear her say, I haven't BOUGHT my teapot. For someone who reads 25 hours a day, she should know its BROUGHT.
It's just mind-boggling to me that she would attend something like Oxford and then harp so heavily on not socializing. I get she's trying to say that only if you do not wish to socialize, but a lot of her followers will leap at the idea of hiding away in their room like she does.
I also found it interesting that she had to comment on the fan being ugly (but useful because it was so hot). Well, it wouldn't be so hot if she wasn't wearing sweaters all the time, but who cares if the fan is ugly? It's useful. Not everything has to fit this aesthetic that you so heavily desire.
I also found it interesting that she had to comment on the fan being ugly (but useful because it was so hot). Well, it wouldn't be so hot if she wasn't wearing sweaters all the time, but who cares if the fan is ugly? It's useful. Not everything has to fit this aesthetic that you so heavily desire.
It IS okay to take a night off and be by yourself. I'm actually doing that tonight when I was due to see friends. But when you spend every night "taking a night off" and it's your first night in the city you're going to be living in for the next year...maybe push yourself? Sometimes it is better to push through anxiety. If you don't deal with hard emotions and situations, how are you ever going to overcome them? I say this with the most gentle intentions because I don't think I'd have had some of my best experiences without forcing myself to do things and here Ruby is telling FRESHERS to stay in.
Maybe say "you don't have to go for the whole night" or "everyone else is in the same boat" if you want to be encouraging.
Maybe say "you don't have to go for the whole night" or "everyone else is in the same boat" if you want to be encouraging.
She’s terrified to socialise with the other students. She either genuinely doesn’t want to eat in front of them or is laying out more groundwork for an ED storyline - who’s to know what’s real, frankly, with someone who lives so inauthentically.
I’m a bit sad for her that she isn’t even trying.
I’m a bit sad for her that she isn’t even trying.
She could have gone and not eaten. I'm allergic to a few things, I'd have pre-eaten and then still attended and have a drink or soda and meet coursemates. The pizza is just to give a motive for people to come, but she could easily attend anyway and politely decline the pizza.
I do want Ruby to push herself, I don't want her to be miserable but I can see already she's just going to stay in her room 🫣
She could be missing out on meeting another FRAANNDDD who might happen to be just like her. There's probably another Ruby there, somewhere. Or maybe another Blakeney.
It's actually quite sad to know that she filmed herself tatting about at her "tea station" rather than going to meet other people. Welcome nights are the least demanding socially because you can just ask everyone the same questions. People get tired of asking those quite quickly and she'll have missed her chance to get to know people when they're actually interested. I know it's only one event, hopefully she's been to more socials since.
Add a ridiculous little hat and she'll look like one of these grandmas spending their afternoon at the park and giving bread to the pidgeons. How can someone ending like an old lady while trying to look like a little girl seriously?Nothing quite so scholarly and erudite as posing with a cappuccino and a Little Pangwin, Big Oideas compilation of excerpts from a book you have no intention of actually reading
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Rewatching her first day at Exeter vlog is an interesting contrast to this one.
There, she went out on campus and made an effort to meet people, strike up a conversation and put herself out there. Later she mentions that she'd left her door open all day while she was in her room to encourage people walking by to say hello.
At Oxford, all the work to meet people was done for her, all she had to do was show up and still she couldn't be bothered. She's clearly not there to learn, she isn't there to take part in the social side of university, so she's just paid £40,000 just for the opportunity to take staged photos on an Oxford bench.
Her Oxford vlog was so awkward. Her father sitting in the back, like he didn't even want to be a part of any of this. He looked like a disgruntled teenager who just wants to look at their phone and escape the family. Even his comments in the quad came across, to me, at least, like "yeah, cool" and whatever. Not his thing. I am surprised she has only gone with her mother and never with him included. Weird. Just weird vibes all around.
Her room is super modern looking. So much for her attempts at romanticizing her time at Oxford. Looks like the place is brand new. I can't believe she is already dismissing social events and trying to normalize it to make herself feel better. What horrible advice for her young viewers to avoid socializing and getting involved with the university spirit. I don't see this as boding well. I'm glad she won't be posting as much. I feel like this is going to be even more disappointing than her going to Exeter and prefer to watch people who actually get involved with university life and events, along with their studies, and never act like they are better than someone else. And what is with that outfit? Is she hoping to become an Oxford Don? I mean, her clothes don't even fit her correctly. She brought loads of clothes and tea, but not much of anything else. We know she will be going home for more things, but I got the impression, yet again, that she just isn't very excited about this and is forcing a smile on her face.
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Her room is super modern looking. So much for her attempts at romanticizing her time at Oxford. Looks like the place is brand new. I can't believe she is already dismissing social events and trying to normalize it to make herself feel better. What horrible advice for her young viewers to avoid socializing and getting involved with the university spirit. I don't see this as boding well. I'm glad she won't be posting as much. I feel like this is going to be even more disappointing than her going to Exeter and prefer to watch people who actually get involved with university life and events, along with their studies, and never act like they are better than someone else. And what is with that outfit? Is she hoping to become an Oxford Don? I mean, her clothes don't even fit her correctly. She brought loads of clothes and tea, but not much of anything else. We know she will be going home for more things, but I got the impression, yet again, that she just isn't very excited about this and is forcing a smile on her face.
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Exactly! I was watching some of her old 1st year uni vlogs and the vibe is so different.
Is her masters costing her £40k?!
Her course fees are £16,000, then Oxford estimates accommodation and living costs to be £17,500 at the high end, then if she can't convince mummy to drive her back and forth every weekend like she did at Exeter, she'll definitely be paying for the inconvenience of fleeing uni by train. So she'll be paying £30,000-40,000 for this ego trip.
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