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Ruby Granger #38 Oh Jesus, Ruby's off to Jesus
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So I was bored and I decided to finish mother granger's blog. I found two interesting entries:
https://www.whatapalaver.co/post/to-do-list could it be the origins of Ruby's obsession for to do lists?
And the reason why there's so many bottles in the garden https://www.whatapalaver.co/post/dry-jan ? This family is definitely weird.
https://www.whatapalaver.co/post/to-do-list could it be the origins of Ruby's obsession for to do lists?
And the reason why there's so many bottles in the garden https://www.whatapalaver.co/post/dry-jan ? This family is definitely weird.
Mother grangers blog name is very very interesting "what a palaver" you think this is abt herself or her family or someone else haha
Jesus College Christ. I don't drink at all so I wouldn't really know but is it normal to struggle so much with staying sober for one month? Being impressed when someone survives a business trip without alcohol?
It’s really, really not. I’m sure she thinks she’s nailing comic exaggeration, but I’m thinking there’s more than a grain of truth in it.
also petition to make ”Jesus College Christ” the official swear of this thread
I'm really shocked how she writes this like its a quirky funny story. I occasionally enjoy ethanole and think there is absolutly nothing wrong with it.
But if you notice such drastic effects as she describes in your life because you stop drinking for a month? That should be a definite warning sign. Also how she can barely make it through the first week bc she's craving wine..
Like I would kinda get it if she wrote "we went to a dinner party in the first week and it was weird not to drink". Opinions might differ on how healthy that is, but its at least a "socially acceptable" view of alcohole consumption. But to say you're craving wine without any additional incentive or trigger??
Really not normal imho.
But if you notice such drastic effects as she describes in your life because you stop drinking for a month? That should be a definite warning sign. Also how she can barely make it through the first week bc she's craving wine..
Like I would kinda get it if she wrote "we went to a dinner party in the first week and it was weird not to drink". Opinions might differ on how healthy that is, but its at least a "socially acceptable" view of alcohole consumption. But to say you're craving wine without any additional incentive or trigger??
Really not normal imho.
To me it sounds like alcoholism. I’ve mentioned it here a few times, but I’ve always suspected the parents have (or at least her mother has) issues with drink tbh. Whenever the fridge is shown it’s always full of booze, her mum has a glass of wine in her hand in most of the photos on her insta and there’s been a couple of videos where her mum has been drinking in them and is visibly pissed. My dad is an alcoholic and her descriptions of how desperate she is for a drink sound exactly like him, you can literally see in his eyes towards the end of the day how badly he wants a drink, then as soon as it hits 6pm he’s cracking open the bottle.
I do wonder how much they do drink with all the bottles in the garden.
I am rather curious about the Bones's and I would like to see their family dynamic and what they are like off-camera. Perhaps a Bones family fly on the wall tv program or a therapy session? There is Claire having constant accidents and needs to be wrapped up in bubble wrap. There is Ruby's dad who makes the occasional appearance and is loaded in perhaps some questionable means. There is Ruby, there is not much to explain about her as we all know what she is like. There is the forgotten Martha, who has flown the nest and perhaps got out the chaos of that house.
I was thinking about this as we only know Ruby's online persona. We don't know about any of her values other than being against bullying and that she is somewhat of a vegan. We don't know the real Ruby or what she is actually like. I do believe that seeing someone's parents and family can help you understand why they are the way that they are or things just make a lot more sense, and I am curious to see how Ruby fits into this. We only get appearances from Claire who does her filming and from her blog and we don't really see anyone else and how Ruby interacts with them. I would really like a video where Ruby does a full on family vlog and get-to-know-you style type of video so I can see how the family interact with one another - it won't happen but I can dream.
I do wonder as well about how much Ruby uses the online persona in day-to-day life. How much is the Ruby Granger persona actually Ruby and how much is fictionalised. I'm thinking about this instead of my essays, god help me!
I am rather curious about the Bones's and I would like to see their family dynamic and what they are like off-camera. Perhaps a Bones family fly on the wall tv program or a therapy session? There is Claire having constant accidents and needs to be wrapped up in bubble wrap. There is Ruby's dad who makes the occasional appearance and is loaded in perhaps some questionable means. There is Ruby, there is not much to explain about her as we all know what she is like. There is the forgotten Martha, who has flown the nest and perhaps got out the chaos of that house.
I was thinking about this as we only know Ruby's online persona. We don't know about any of her values other than being against bullying and that she is somewhat of a vegan. We don't know the real Ruby or what she is actually like. I do believe that seeing someone's parents and family can help you understand why they are the way that they are or things just make a lot more sense, and I am curious to see how Ruby fits into this. We only get appearances from Claire who does her filming and from her blog and we don't really see anyone else and how Ruby interacts with them. I would really like a video where Ruby does a full on family vlog and get-to-know-you style type of video so I can see how the family interact with one another - it won't happen but I can dream.
I do wonder as well about how much Ruby uses the online persona in day-to-day life. How much is the Ruby Granger persona actually Ruby and how much is fictionalised. I'm thinking about this instead of my essays, god help me!
Ok thoughts part 2 of the Venice video…
• Pronounces “byzantine” wrong. And “Doge’s Palace” about 3 different ways throughout the video.
• I swear she loves to reference Byron but once again, feel like she’s totally misunderstood his writing.
• Reads us an extract of her novel (the entire reason for her trip) and again it is just some OTT descriptions which she thinks make her sound clever. She also reveals one of her characters was going to go to Rome but she’s now changed it to Venice because she was SWO INSPWIRED. She then goes to the Basilica San Marco and remains in some weird voiceover voice…
• Complains about everything being crowded (when she is a tourist in Venice).
• Hip flask of milk of oat milk. So I’m vegan and I’ve never had a problem with getting alternate milks in European cities.
• Weird, classic, sped up, Nord VPN ad right in the middle where she looks embarrassed?
• There would be some nice scenic shots but obviously, as it is Ruby, all of them are shaky.
• Repeats how tired she is.
• Ramble about “art and space” had me rolling my eyes.
• Fake freckles suddenly appear half way through.
• I am irrationally annoyed at her talking about the four seasons…it isn’t a symphony and like no tit hearing it live will be different to listening on Spotify.
• Reads random extracts from books in her best Hermione voice.
• Outfits were actually nice – but wish she’d replace the brown DMs.
• The only thing we see her eat is a few strawberries, pizza and ice cream.
• Goes to a modern art exhibition which she doesn’t really “get” lol
• I feel like we could do some serious analysis about her relationship with her father after the weird journal entry she shares about feeling “held” by the stone tower and then by her father as a child?
• Obsessed with cost of stuff and “getting the most” of what she’s paid for…like for Christ sake… after spending 6 Euros you don’t have to spend hours there just because you paid.
• My biggest Ruby pet peeve is the way she says “aaaand” after every sentence.
Another tough watch.
• Pronounces “byzantine” wrong. And “Doge’s Palace” about 3 different ways throughout the video.
• I swear she loves to reference Byron but once again, feel like she’s totally misunderstood his writing.
• Reads us an extract of her novel (the entire reason for her trip) and again it is just some OTT descriptions which she thinks make her sound clever. She also reveals one of her characters was going to go to Rome but she’s now changed it to Venice because she was SWO INSPWIRED. She then goes to the Basilica San Marco and remains in some weird voiceover voice…
• Complains about everything being crowded (when she is a tourist in Venice).
• Hip flask of milk of oat milk. So I’m vegan and I’ve never had a problem with getting alternate milks in European cities.
• Weird, classic, sped up, Nord VPN ad right in the middle where she looks embarrassed?
• There would be some nice scenic shots but obviously, as it is Ruby, all of them are shaky.
• Repeats how tired she is.
• Ramble about “art and space” had me rolling my eyes.
• Fake freckles suddenly appear half way through.
• I am irrationally annoyed at her talking about the four seasons…it isn’t a symphony and like no tit hearing it live will be different to listening on Spotify.
• Reads random extracts from books in her best Hermione voice.
• Outfits were actually nice – but wish she’d replace the brown DMs.
• The only thing we see her eat is a few strawberries, pizza and ice cream.
• Goes to a modern art exhibition which she doesn’t really “get” lol
• I feel like we could do some serious analysis about her relationship with her father after the weird journal entry she shares about feeling “held” by the stone tower and then by her father as a child?
• Obsessed with cost of stuff and “getting the most” of what she’s paid for…like for Christ sake… after spending 6 Euros you don’t have to spend hours there just because you paid.
• My biggest Ruby pet peeve is the way she says “aaaand” after every sentence.
Another tough watch.
That’s sad for Ruby if that’s the case. It would explain a fair bit about her character.
Yeah. Sometimes I wonder if her highly strung personality, the standards she holds herself and the way she controls her food are the result of growing up in an environment where she regularly saw the adults around her getting out of control. It’s not pleasant to live with parents who you pretty much can’t get any sense out of after a certain time of the day because they’re pissed.
Idk this is all purely speculation tbf, maybe her mum is just exaggerating her drinking habits for the sake of the blog.
Ugh, yes the "aaand" after every sentence is so annoying as well as her constantly ending normal sentences like she was asking a question with her voice going up.
Ok, so I can't say I'm proud of that but I'm definitely someone who drink easily and frequently ( not at the point I don't even know where and who I am, only did that during some parties when I was young like 10 years ago), who really enjoy the taste of many drinks and... No. Absolutely not. I can stay without any drop of ethanol for few months. But once again I'm not a social drinker, nor that I was addicted so I can't really judge here.
The thing I judge is the fact they keep the bottles in the garden, they can get rid of it, it's like keeping garbage bags in the yard.
Just watched her latest study tips/ things to do before exams video. She really does cling to childhood, doesn't she? And, reading the comments, most of her audience seem really young, doing their GCSEs or similar exams. This is both weird and unsettling!
I'm beginning to wonder if the constant accidents and oopies are alcohol related (though it could just be mama bones exaggerating for her blog).
There are a lot of misconceptions about alcoholism that I want to clear up here. My SIL is a recovering alcoholic. She really made a mess of her world and that of her three kids. Now they are adults and very well adjusted, with 2 of them now married and parents. Good to know! She has been sober for a good 8 years. I hope it continues for everyone's sake. She did hit rock bottom first.
But you don't have to be falling down drunk or constantly drinking to be an alcoholic. You can be, but it isn't always the way. It is your relationship with alcohol that will define you as one or not. Many, in fact most, alcoholics are not social drinkers. They often drink alone, at home. It is a craving, like for sugar or chocolate, for coffee, for drugs. If you can't enjoy yourself or feel comfortable in your own skin without a drink to nurse, then you are already in trouble. If you can't sit down and read a book without a glass of wine, or a can of beer, you are in trouble. You are already feeding that addiction. You don't have to be falling over. You can hide it very easily when others are around. Yes, some people can drink themselves crazy, become aggressive, slur, fall over, pass out. But you will find the majority of alcoholics have built up a tolerance and hide it very well. They can drink at a party, sneak another drink or two more and seem perfectly fine. Some might lose their balance, others won't. Some will drive safely, others will not. But the point stays the same. They need that alcohol in their system, like a drug, to feel "right" or "safe" or "relaxed" and their faculties are not working at their best, the alcohol is causing permanent damage to their organs and shortening their life, they are dangerous to be around and when the alcohol is out of their system they feel low, depressed, out of sorts, until they take the next drink. And the cycle continues over and over again. So if you are someone who is wondering if you are an alcoholic, ideally stop drinking and don't think of it as a temporary break. Can you break for good? Or does the idea of taking a break even freak you out? Or are you making little excuses like, "I can handle my liquor just fine." Yes, Ruby's mother does show a lot of signs of being an alcoholic. I've seen quite a lot of pictures with her drinking some alcoholic while everyone else at the table isn't. That would explain some things with Ruby, but also her relationship with her husband and Marfa's relationship with everyone. Everyone has skeletons in their closet. We may have hit on one of the skeleton's in the Bone's closet. And a sad one, at that.
But you don't have to be falling down drunk or constantly drinking to be an alcoholic. You can be, but it isn't always the way. It is your relationship with alcohol that will define you as one or not. Many, in fact most, alcoholics are not social drinkers. They often drink alone, at home. It is a craving, like for sugar or chocolate, for coffee, for drugs. If you can't enjoy yourself or feel comfortable in your own skin without a drink to nurse, then you are already in trouble. If you can't sit down and read a book without a glass of wine, or a can of beer, you are in trouble. You are already feeding that addiction. You don't have to be falling over. You can hide it very easily when others are around. Yes, some people can drink themselves crazy, become aggressive, slur, fall over, pass out. But you will find the majority of alcoholics have built up a tolerance and hide it very well. They can drink at a party, sneak another drink or two more and seem perfectly fine. Some might lose their balance, others won't. Some will drive safely, others will not. But the point stays the same. They need that alcohol in their system, like a drug, to feel "right" or "safe" or "relaxed" and their faculties are not working at their best, the alcohol is causing permanent damage to their organs and shortening their life, they are dangerous to be around and when the alcohol is out of their system they feel low, depressed, out of sorts, until they take the next drink. And the cycle continues over and over again. So if you are someone who is wondering if you are an alcoholic, ideally stop drinking and don't think of it as a temporary break. Can you break for good? Or does the idea of taking a break even freak you out? Or are you making little excuses like, "I can handle my liquor just fine." Yes, Ruby's mother does show a lot of signs of being an alcoholic. I've seen quite a lot of pictures with her drinking some alcoholic while everyone else at the table isn't. That would explain some things with Ruby, but also her relationship with her husband and Marfa's relationship with everyone. Everyone has skeletons in their closet. We may have hit on one of the skeleton's in the Bone's closet. And a sad one, at that.
From Mother Bones' Blog [emphasis is mine]:
The following Saturday night, that small bottle of white in the fridge was calling my name. It felt nice at the time and the gentle numbing of tight muscles but on Sunday morning, there were tears and paranoia. I think white wine basically turns me into a psycho. I vowed no more.
On the whole, apart from the few blips above, I have been sober and how amazing that has felt, I've woken up with a smile on my face and got out of bed with spring in my step. I argued with my family less.
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This sounds a lot like an alcohol problem to me. More power to her for speaking up on it, especially revealing such personal information about her experience. But yeah.
I just read one of her blog entries where she mentions having chronic back pain. I can sympathise with that, having my own back injury that turned into chronic back pain with occasional acute flare-ups. I very rarely drink but I have had a few hiccups with pain medication. She mentions being 'high on co-codomol' in that blog entry. A pretty awful combo with alcohol. Her blog reveals quite a lot of what we see in Ruby (IMO)
The following Saturday night, that small bottle of white in the fridge was calling my name. It felt nice at the time and the gentle numbing of tight muscles but on Sunday morning, there were tears and paranoia. I think white wine basically turns me into a psycho. I vowed no more.
On the whole, apart from the few blips above, I have been sober and how amazing that has felt, I've woken up with a smile on my face and got out of bed with spring in my step. I argued with my family less.
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This sounds a lot like an alcohol problem to me. More power to her for speaking up on it, especially revealing such personal information about her experience. But yeah.
I just read one of her blog entries where she mentions having chronic back pain. I can sympathise with that, having my own back injury that turned into chronic back pain with occasional acute flare-ups. I very rarely drink but I have had a few hiccups with pain medication. She mentions being 'high on co-codomol' in that blog entry. A pretty awful combo with alcohol. Her blog reveals quite a lot of what we see in Ruby (IMO)
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Omg she did not say out loud that she took a spontaneous trip to Venice (one of the most expensive cities you can visit) because she has wriqter's block. This is the "buying a cottage to face her fears of being home alone" thing all over again.
Ruby, this is what people talk about when they say you're privileged, not the fact that you have parents or you went to school.
ETA: just watched the vlog and she misspelled, without fail, every single Italian word she showed on screen. Great job Ruby
Ruby, this is what people talk about when they say you're privileged, not the fact that you have parents or you went to school.
ETA: just watched the vlog and she misspelled, without fail, every single Italian word she showed on screen. Great job Ruby
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Just having a read of Mother Granger’s “writing”. It’s absolutely appalling, I can see why Ruby doesn’t have any self awareness of how dreadful her own attempts are.
“A tomato soup smell arises from his armpits. I inhale. It’s oddly nice. I feel comforted; soothed. As I snuggle up inside the nook of his folded arm, I breathe deeper. I am at home. I could die right now, I think and I would die happy.”
“The garden fuschia [sic] sways
I feel like I should too
But how blissful it is
Until I do need to”
“Yuletide log footpath leads
Past creme brulee [sic] puddles
Crunchy bran flake leaves
Through chocolate mousse mud”
Excruciating poetry clearly runs in the family.
“A tomato soup smell arises from his armpits. I inhale. It’s oddly nice. I feel comforted; soothed. As I snuggle up inside the nook of his folded arm, I breathe deeper. I am at home. I could die right now, I think and I would die happy.”
“The garden fuschia [sic] sways
I feel like I should too
But how blissful it is
Until I do need to”
“Yuletide log footpath leads
Past creme brulee [sic] puddles
Crunchy bran flake leaves
Through chocolate mousse mud”
Excruciating poetry clearly runs in the family.
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