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Ruby Granger #21 Dirty kitchen, messy car; I wonder where the planners are?
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She really needs to take a step back from youtube stuff and her shoddy business and just carry on with university. She should make that her one main goal for 2022. I know it's her main source of income but doesn't she consider university more important? Especially her LAST semester? Something tells me this will definitely not be her year if she continues on the way she has. She'll be lucky if she can piece together a dissertation with two comprehensible sentences. Running back home to mummy to play in the garden isn't going to benefit her. She needs to stay there for the remainder of her time there and actually focus on getting her work done. Not procrastinating by doing a million different things, 90% of which are busywork she gives herself and has little to no value. She also needs to get serious about what she wants to do after university. She's kidding herself with the book deal thing. If she chooses to take some time out before studying for her masters she should at least try to be more independent.
I think she should take a year out before the masters - time for therapy, to get her physical health back to normal, become more independent/get a job. All of those would be more valuable in the long-term than continuing with Youtube or further studying. It's not uncommon for people to take time out for a break or financial reasons before starting postgrad; it won't be a sign of failure or an 'unproductive' year. (just making that point in case Ruby's reading this).
Unrelated, but her tiny bed looks sooo uncomfortable.
Such Victorian boarding school vibes (and not in a good way). And seeing as everyone's getting tired of endless ballet music in Roobee's vids, I've got a suggestion for a new song!! It includes one of her MOST FAVOURITE THINGS.
Hi guys, I've been reading the threads for a while and this is my first post. I apologize in case I make any grammatical mistakes, English is not my first language.
I'm from Spain, 19, and I always find it surprising when people push Ruby to move out ASAP, as if not doing so was embarrasing or something that was going to impact her development massively, which I have noticed is a commonly held opinion in anglosaxon countries. I think this might be an unpopular opinion, but I don't think there's anything wrong with living with your parents in your early 20s.
I don't know anyone my age who has already moved out or that is planning on doing so in the following years. This is probably because of cultural differences, but most people who go to uni here live with their parents until at least their mid twenties, and it's seen as completely normal. Many people make it to their late 20s without ever having lived on their own (unless they did a year abroad or studied in another province), and still manage to be well-adjusted adults. I think the average age for moving out was 28 or 29. Also, because wages are so low compared to housing prizes, it would be nearly impossible to rent a decent place after graduation. I don't think it is as much of an issue as you make it out to be, as long as she is able to adapt once she does move out.
I'm from Spain, 19, and I always find it surprising when people push Ruby to move out ASAP, as if not doing so was embarrasing or something that was going to impact her development massively, which I have noticed is a commonly held opinion in anglosaxon countries. I think this might be an unpopular opinion, but I don't think there's anything wrong with living with your parents in your early 20s.
I don't know anyone my age who has already moved out or that is planning on doing so in the following years. This is probably because of cultural differences, but most people who go to uni here live with their parents until at least their mid twenties, and it's seen as completely normal. Many people make it to their late 20s without ever having lived on their own (unless they did a year abroad or studied in another province), and still manage to be well-adjusted adults. I think the average age for moving out was 28 or 29. Also, because wages are so low compared to housing prizes, it would be nearly impossible to rent a decent place after graduation. I don't think it is as much of an issue as you make it out to be, as long as she is able to adapt once she does move out.
Hi, your English is really good so don't worry about it!
I know there are all kinds of reasons why someone might live with their parents into their twenties, and it does seem more common in other countries/cultures, so that in itself isn't a problem. But I think most people here view Ruby's living arrangements as a symptom of her fear of growing up and taking responsibility for her own life, e.g. part of the weird obsession with remaining childlike. In Ruby's case, she seems to have an extremely limited social life outside of her family too. All of these things make it seem as though she won't be able to adapt very well once she moves out, which is why it's concerning.
I realise that people do things at different stages and that's fine as long as there's some sign that they're moving forward with their lives. Worryingly, Ruby seems to have slid backwards when it comes to independence and maturity. So while I don't think she needs to move out right away, it'd be nice to see her exploring more outside of her family bubble.
Welcome to the thread!
There's definitely nothing wrong with your parents for as long as you need to so long as that arrangement's a happy and healthy one for all involved. That's becoming more and more common as cost of living increases and the housing ladder gets more and more expensive to jump onto, especially for young people.
Unfortunately, that's the big problem with Ruby - it's not a healthy situation for her at all. Living at home has clearly had a detrimental effect on her physical and mental health. Running home at the start of the pandemic was the start of her massive decline into weight loss, eating disorder habits, acting and dressing like a child and generally retreating into childhood. It wasn't a healthy decision for her at all.
Now, she's compulsively dependent on her parents. She runs home every single week, even though she claims to be short on time to focus on uni work. She writes them letters even though she'll be seeing them in a matter of days. She has her parents GPS track her at all times. All her friends aside from Blakeney are the children of her parents' friends, so they're always there whenever she socialises with them. When she does things with Blakeney, Ruby insists that her parents are there, too.
There's no chance of her being able to adapt after graduation and be an adult. She's squandered her uni years avoiding stepping out of her comfort zone or trying to be independent. If anything, she's just regressed further into childhood.
The best thing for her would be to push herself to spend more time away from home, try new things and dip her toe into adulthood more, but she clearly doesn't want to do that.
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Her issue isn't not moving out, it's that she acts like a six year old when she's going to graduate from uni next year. And finances are not an issue for her. Most people her age would move out if they could afford to (which she can given that she already owns a house).
Exactly, she can easily afford to move out and have her own place. Many, many people her age would love that luxury but feel stuck still living at home because they simply can't afford to move. Ruby hasn't progressed in the years she's been at uni though, if anything she's regressed. She'll be living at home for a long time I think, even after graduating.
Even her sister, Martha who is 2 years younger and no longer goes to uni is living outside of the home, doing her own laundry etc.
Looks like penultimate the creeper is back at it replying on the newest pumpkinproductivity post…
Ruby really came through for her customers by...finally delivering the things they paid for, over a month late, after dodging their emails and complaints for weeks and doing nothing else to make it right. She did the long overdue bare minimum! What a saint!
And remember, everyone: This is "basically a hobby for her". Aside from, y'know, it being a registered business with tens of thousands of pounds worth of stock in a warehouse, paid employees, etc..
It'll never not be hilarious how Ruby and her fans hold Pumpkin Productivity up as a massive, hugely successful business venture that she owns and runs singlehandedly when they want to inflate her achievements, but when things go wrong, suddenly it's either a business that she has nothing to do with and it's all the customer service employees' fault, or it's a tiny little side hustle that Ruby runs in her spare time from a cupboard so she should be cut all the slack in the world.
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Who is that, Ron? Nah, even Ron has the balls to call Hermione out sometimes..Looks like penultimate the creeper is back at it replying on the newest pumpkinproductivity post…
Anyone who says "manage your expectations" I immediately become sus of them
Ruby says, "Before we start the video I am syoo excited tyooo announce that I am releasing a yearly planner..."
Ruby thinks, "Marketing is done, it's time to take a break from social media!"
Ruby thinks, "Marketing is done, it's time to take a break from social media!"
Anyone who says "manage your expectations" I immediately become sus of them
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‘Despite the grousing of all you naysayers’
Sorry but that just confirms that penultimate is defo Ruby on her alt account
I also come from a culture in which it's common to live with your parents until your mid to late twenties so I understand what you're saying. However, I don't think this applies to Ruby for two reasons:
Firstly, it clearly is more common in the UK to move out, if only temporarily for university at first, so that is Ruby's cultural background and the lens through which we should consider her actions.
And secondly, it's clearly not an issue of money for her, as she already owns a house in the countryside and pays rent for her uni flat, which she never spends any time at. As others have said anyone her age in this situation would be spending as much time as possible in Exeter.
I get that she probably cannot move into her cottage right now because she doesn't have a driving license and it's already occupied by a tenant. But paying rent for the Exeter flat only to let it sit unoccupied so often, whenever she decides she needs her dose of parental control, is just wasteful
There‘s also a huge difference between living in your parents home but behaving like an adult and whatever Ruby is doing right now.
I never comment here, but I feel called out
I do this all the time. My pictures are 40%my cats, 20% holidays, 20%food and 20% screenshots of things I want to remember.But in all seriousness, I really think she needs therapy, time to reflect and parents who, instead of coddling her, tell her she needs to grow up. I understand that she is their child, but they are encouraging her to stay a child instead of encouraging her to become an adult.
I like that book but I don't think it really fits with Ruby at all, whatever she says about slow living. She hoards crap that she'll never use again, she shows no respect for her space, and she is obsessed with 'things'. She'd do well to take Marie's advice because her space is chaotic and filthy
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