I've only just watched her newest video and it's actually quite scary to see someone talking themselves further into an insular state of mind. "We live in an extroverted society unfortunately" - I'm someone who likes their own company (in healthy doses) but the thought of a society that wasn't extroverted?? Terrifying. What would be the point in being alive?
Ruby Granger #18 Still no deal with Waterstones but half her food was mailed from home
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That would be just like Ruby too, thinking she knows everything already, so why sweat it. Why think in a different way to how she's always done it.
Introverts make great company too but IMO a healthy society has a good mixture of both.
I just now saw her latest insta story and I have so many questions. Why is the laptop half opened? Why is there a knot in the charger cable? Is that a tea pot on the floor? I don't even know what's next to it on the floor. Are there dead flowers in the cup she put her pens and pencils in? What's going on with that window? Why is that picture positioned like some picture a person would pick up or look at in a horror movie?
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Oh of course! I'm probably more of an introvert but a society that didn't encourage connection or socialising would not be ideal. Personally I don't think that society necessarily does force extroversion more than introversion, at least in the UK plenty of people talk about how they stay in and watch Netflix more often than not so it's more Ruby's lack of perspective again.
Right?!
The whole point of the video was to set up a pretend q&a with viewers who just so happened to have the exact same ”problems” as Ruby, and so be able to reassure herself that her behaviour is completely normal and that she’s right to 1) only do things she enjoys, 2) only go out of her comfort zone enough to make one friend so she can have a ”support system” at uni and 3) run home to mummy and daddy at every opportunity. She had to stage it as if she was addressing someone else than herself, so it wouldn’t sound quite so immediately ridiculous.
Can I also just say how much I’m loving that we’re picking over her Oxford rejection in excruciating detail
If she indeed reads here, it must be so annoying for her, and I’m petty enough that the thought is kind of giving me life 
She was given a text with the word ”brine” in it, and she completely forgot the meaning of the word and so thought she’d open discussion by asking the interviewer what brine was 
I hope everyone understands not to take everything said on Tattle that personally! Of course we don't know exactly how Ruby did, but she makes a living off giving study advice and marketing herself with a very particular image in mind. That's far more worthy of scrutiny and criticism than the vast majority of people who get rejected and move on with their lives.
Oh I didn't know that - was it that Walt Whitman poem about being underwater then? Or sth else with brine in it? Also wow, that seems like a very bad opening move for an interview like this! Maybe it was really more a matter of lack of conversation skills/social skills in a way.Right?!
The whole point of the video was to set up a pretend q&a with viewers who just so happened to have the exact same ”problems” as Ruby, and so be able to reassure herself that her behaviour is completely normal and that she’s right to 1) only do things she enjoys, 2) only go out of her comfort zone enough to make one friend so she can have a ”support system” at uni and 3) run home to mummy and daddy at every opportunity. She had to stage it as if she was addressing someone else than herself, so it wouldn’t sound quite so immediately ridiculous.
Can I also just say how much I’m loving that we’re picking over her Oxford rejection in excruciating detail
I think she's simply reached a new level of laziness here XD
My guess is she shoved the laptop on her desk the moment she got home from mommies.
Noone has told her about tangled wires causing fires so she's hoping if her candles don't cause a fire maybe the laptop lead will.
The dead flower is probably the rose that mommy sent that was half dead on arrival
The teapot is probably a prop for her next to do list its so versatile you can also use it as coaster
The condensation on the window is because after having the house for 16months they still haven't contacted the landlord about the lack of heating as they boiler doesn't seem to work correctly
That window looks so damp and I bet her room is really chilly
I can see how Ruby would like the aesthetic but give me modern double-glazing any day. I’d also find it pretty depressing to spend hours in a room with a window that you can’t really look out of.No twee motivation message. No StudyTube-friendly inspirational quote. Just "study study study".
She's completely checked out on this whole "romanticise academia" thing.
She also makes sure to emphasise that all her choices are done "for her mental health" (despite all the things she's now doubled down on being clearly detrimental to her mental wellbeing).
Now if anyone questions her behaviour or raises concerns, they're peer-pressuring bullies who're doing psychological harm to her and her fans can immediately dogpile on them.
I totally agree that Ruby is a scam lol but people are speculating wildly about what she said and did in her interview (which was about 5 years ago) and it's not helpful when we have plenty of stuff we know she's done to actually criticise her for. It's not about people taking stuff 'too personally', it's about acknowledging that not getting into Oxford doesn't automatically mean you're not good at original thought. We know Ruby is bad at original thought and critical analysis because we've seen the drivel she's come out with over the years, not because she didn't get into Oxford.
TBH I'd prefer that honesty to b*llshitting your way through and pretending you know what you're talking about (which is what she does nowShe was given a text with the word ”brine” in it, and she completely forgot the meaning of the word and so thought she’d open discussion by asking the interviewer what brine was
)Firstly, it's hardly speculation when Ruby herself has told her viewers about her memorization approach to the interview leading up to it (and how many of them also copied her approach and got rejected?) and afterwards talked about how she would have got in if only she'd cited an article. That's a huge red flag as to why she was rejected. Quite possibly she would have been rejected for other reasons because it is so competitive, but taking the first year Hermione approach has to be a big whopping reason. It's still relevant because there are signs she still has this attitude, e.g. memorizing opening lines from classic books, and last year advising her viewers to memorize the digits of pi.
Secondly, nothing that I said implies that an Oxford rejection means you're not good at original thought! Not the least because no one can properly judge anyone's capacity for that in a short interview. I didn't say that was why Ruby got rejected, and I don't even believe that is why she was rejected. She took an approach that completely concealed her ability for original thought, by focusing on demonstrating her knowledge.
But...and I imagine I will part company with most on this thread here... I suspect Ruby is probably very good at original thought, and that explains most her high grades, including the high marks for the philosophy exam that she advised people to memorize quotes for. There must have been some killer original thought to make up for that, and I'm not buying that it is down to Exeter having low standards or Ruby sucking up to tutors. We just don't see the original thought ever in evidence because i) Ruby isn't very articulate and doesn't put the effort into preparing remarks to impress us like she does for her seminars, and ii) Ruby has long promoted the first year Hermione image of herself to us and her viewers, memorizing and regurgitating facts. And unfortunately she may still believe that's what intelligence looks like.
Which is problematic, if she keeps promoting that mindset to her viewers.
I dont know if this is true, but mid 2010s pro ana forums were filled with people saying thatThat window looks so damp and I bet her room is really chilly
The last flat we were in before we moved to glitter hell was really bad for condensation on the windows I brought a window vacuum that sucked the water of the windowsThat window looks so damp and I bet her room is really chilly
This video has actually made me very concerned for her. It's a 22-minute-long self-justification of the avoidant behaviours she's developed over the years. Hopefully I'll be proven wrong, but I've a strong suspicion that she'll go off books for the second half of the year with the intention of going back the following year, but the maladaptive coping mechanisms she's clinging on to will have a field day if that happens. Her parents have a lot to answer for for this. If she does take time off and return home for good, she categorically won't get the proper support she needs from them - they'll coddle her even more and justify her being unwell, which is precisely what the kind of breakdown she's careening towards will want. It'll be so hard for her to pull herself out of that hole when being ill will give her exactly what she craves - endless attention from her parents, no real responsibilities, and complete withdrawal from the real world.
I see so much of my younger self in her, though admittedly in subtle ways. I left uni early on due to what eventually was diagnosed as bipolar 1, and later anorexia followed by bulimia, and even when 'stable' (read: not actively manic) became so entrenched in the safety of just staying at home and doing absolutely nothing, for years. Having dug myself out of that hole (and boy did it take a long time) I went back to uni as a mature student just over three years ago, and am now in the final year of my degree. The biggest thing needed for that to happen though - and if you're reading this Ruby, this is the part I really want you to listen to - was for me to face the reality of the situation and acknowledge that the only person who was going to really help me was myself. You can do all the therapy you like, but unless you take stock, and I mean really, truly consider your own role in all of this, your terminal uniqueness will always be a prison of your own making. Stop making excuses, and realise that avoidance will not get you anywhere. You don't want to be thirty years old, still depending on your parents, having your little tea parties in your single-bed-bedroom, and missing out on the life that you know you truly want. It doesn't work that way, and unless you pull yourself out of this hole now, you're going to struggle to undo the damage to yourself, mentally and physically, that you've already done.
I see so much of my younger self in her, though admittedly in subtle ways. I left uni early on due to what eventually was diagnosed as bipolar 1, and later anorexia followed by bulimia, and even when 'stable' (read: not actively manic) became so entrenched in the safety of just staying at home and doing absolutely nothing, for years. Having dug myself out of that hole (and boy did it take a long time) I went back to uni as a mature student just over three years ago, and am now in the final year of my degree. The biggest thing needed for that to happen though - and if you're reading this Ruby, this is the part I really want you to listen to - was for me to face the reality of the situation and acknowledge that the only person who was going to really help me was myself. You can do all the therapy you like, but unless you take stock, and I mean really, truly consider your own role in all of this, your terminal uniqueness will always be a prison of your own making. Stop making excuses, and realise that avoidance will not get you anywhere. You don't want to be thirty years old, still depending on your parents, having your little tea parties in your single-bed-bedroom, and missing out on the life that you know you truly want. It doesn't work that way, and unless you pull yourself out of this hole now, you're going to struggle to undo the damage to yourself, mentally and physically, that you've already done.
I'm quite sure it was as I remember reading things to that effect about Oxbridge when I was looking at uni, and I am 10 years older than Ruby. I didn't apply in the end but heard enough from people who did to know that that was how it worked.
I do remember a comment made about one of my class who didn't get in (a bit of a Ruby-esque character in hindsight, and also applied for English) that Oxford weren't just looking for someone who was knowledgeable, but someone who was teachable. I think that's where a lot of the candidates fall down, even if their knowledge of the subject is excellent. Ruby can't handle the criticism and they would have picked that up very quickly.
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I think Ruby’s school was more of a good girls day school turning out well mannered accomplished posh girls rather than true academics tbhI also think her school really let her down here, was there no one that really understood the interview process to advise her? Or was there and she just didn't listen to them? I've mentioned before that I also went to private school and the teachers were very on it with doing practice interviews for Oxbridge/medicine/vet-bound students so they could prepare for unseen stuff/formal interview questions etc. I would've assumed Ruby's school had the same/similar access to resources but maybe not
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