It’s a very specific kind of university environment and it’s not right for everyone. I know a fair few Oxbridge grads and it makes me so sad the way some of them suffered through their courses - the whole environment seemed to work well for those who are very, very confident but if you’re not, or if you need a bit more support (as we all do …) you can come out quite damaged, I think.Just wanted to say that while Ruby absolutely wouldn't have thrived at Oxford, a LOT of students don't thrive there and you can still perform well at interview/be good enough to get in and also struggle with the lack of mental health support, ridiculous workload, intense terms etc once you actually get there. Struggling at Oxford doesn't mean that you're not good enough or that you just can't cut it. Support varies massively from college to college, tutor to tutor, and if you're an anxious/insecure person (as a lot of high performing students are) it can be really challenging.
That’s one reason I have very little time for university snobbery and the kind of hysteria that happens around A-Levels and university entrance actually makes me quite angry (oh, TSR, you have a lot to answer for …) There are lots of very different universities across the UK (and the world) and pushing yourself into somewhere that doesn’t fit simply because of reputation is wrong.