Ruby Granger #15 Dustcore

[Griftwood]

Ruby added this to her Goodreads recently. Considering her recent behaviour and I know make bully jokes but I wonder if she actually thinks she is just being shamed for shits and giggles?

I wouldn’t put it past her. She gets such a constant stream of validation and adoration from her young fans that anything less than that is obviously just wrong and we’re being mean to dainty innocent little Rubes.

 

[LarmeKeiLover]

That whole video was just so wrong in so many ways but who puts labels in their fridge and why would you do that in your parents fridge?

Honestly if my kid did that to my fridge I'd be pissed. Even though I have a habbit of putting things in certain places labelling it, especially under my authority would just feel like they were telling me where to put stuff, not under my own want.
Also by the looks of the bottle it was all alcohol, how would it be incorrect to call it all alcohol?

Can we talk about the sheer waste of time, energy and soul you lose constantly wanting to be productive? Why is it so deeply important to always be doing something? Why can't the mind and body rest and not see it as a waste of time? Why is the waste of time a problem when time itself is a construct? Why is the need for structure so strict, so absolute that not having structure creates panic so acute that something must be found to do to breach the gap?

It must be exhausting to be a person like Ruby. I just got done watching a reading vlog she did in July 2020 where she read five books in a day and she is berating herself because she slept for two hours longer than she intended to. She clearly needed the sleep and she couldn't even allow herself that necessity without it being a thing to be commented on. I can't really see how you can read and properly digest so many books in a day either but that's a discussion for another day.

One video I'd love her to make is to throw away the lists and notes and just be. Do nothing.

Force herself to relax. Get her nails done. Do a face pack. Let a deadline pass without submitting anything. Be late. Catch a train and get off at a random station and see what's there. Paint. Read a trashy romance. Try something she's never even tried before and laugh if she can't do it. Watch a movie that deals with some really grown up stuff and see it through. Go and find some clothes more suitable and fashionable and see how that feels. Start a conversation with a total stranger. Challenge herself in ways she never has before.

was gonna reply to this with thoughts I thin ka lot of people have said before... being productive can be great but also rest is also great. Not everything is productive, but I also wonder....where she she get this constant need to work and be productive from? According to her "assumptions about me 2" her parents didn't push her, so I don't think it was them, and I know she has said she has OCD tendencies, but would that be it? I know people who love studying, learning, and even things like cleaning but none of they would waste half the time Ruby does just on the act of being "productive"

Also even if it's all in illusion, it's a weird one to keep up for years.

 

[phantomsbaebe]

Yes yes yes yes

In my previous, pre-academia (lol) life I was a primary school teacher, and my last job was as a Reception class teacher and Acting Head of EYFS. This video is, to be frank, a load of bullshit. I 100% think you hit the nail on the head when you speculated that this was something she had been told about by her Mum, and then in KangaRuby's precious mind twisted it into something that it was not, and never was, and based it on fractions of memory she had from Nursery.

Like, child development wise, there is no way you would remember that much about an event that long ago, or in that much detail. I have memories of Nursery, but fragments; my main memory being when I was told off for taking my shoes off and going to sleep in the bed in the home corner rather than going outside for free play.

I also have a feeling that Rubadub will have been sent to a Montessori preschool or Montessori-aligned Nursery, due to their popularity with rich champagne socialists/Tory snobs (which is unfortunate, cos it was always designed to break down barriers from education and open it up to everyone).

Thank you so much for backing me up on this because part of me was thinking I was seeing it wrong after I wrote that but yeah, there is no way she'd remember it in that much detail. It just makes me sad because it feels so wrong to me that she still feels guilty for that. She was a slightly wild child as little girls should be. There is nothing sadder to me than the sight of an anxious, tense and desperate to be dainty little girl who does not know how to let go and just be. It seems that whatever happened to Ruby between three and seven broke that in her and that is exactly as she is now and it breaks my heart a little bit.

 

[Kettleoffish]

Hi, thanks snom4444 and gossipguy for replying to me. I understand that you thank Ruby's busywork is inefficient. However, my problem is that gossipguy said it took her an "hour" to write the timetable she showed when we have no idea how long it took her. I don't think that's reasonable because you shouldn't accuse her of things you don't know to be true, even if you suspect them based on past behaviour. Otherwise there is misinformation about her on a publicly accessible forum.
She may have shown poor time management in previous videos, but she did not show "atrocious time management" at all in this video like gossipguy claimed - you can have your suspicions, she could have done so in the past, but like anyone she is "innocent until proven guilty" or it just becomes unfair or could be lying.

 

[gossip_guy]

Tbh, I feel like running a fundraiser for the new vacuum as that thing‘s going to need saving …

I think it'll be the most underworked vacuum cleaner in history. It'll be taken out of the box, put on display in the corner of one of their seventeen living rooms and never plugged in once.

 

[CatCafe234]

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New masthead for the Pumpkin Productivity website. Spot the obvious missing apostrophe.

They’re £6 each, like the ribbons.

 

[lizzie2707]

I would advise an alcoholic beverage if you’re at all so inclined. I know it’s only Monday, but I wish I’d been prepared.

I just finished it and honestly I'm tempted to spend the rest of the evening drinking cocktails (tempting at the best of times tbh). Honestly I think if I spent every night this week drinking cocktails I'd lose fewer braincells than I have watching that whole video.

 

[phantomsbaebe]

THIS THIS THIS 1000 times over! I am due to start my primary PGCE next month, and one of my greatest motivators to be an educator is to help my students learn “how to fail” in all the ways I didn’t… until I was 21 and faced the biggest “failure” of my life, suspending my degree 6 months out from graduation because my mental health hit rock bottom.

I was Ruby. I was the girl who measured her self worth by numbers, by grades, by social media likes, and in the end by calories too - the final thing being the tipping point, and what I fear will be Ruby’s too. All of that was embroiled in the pursuit of “perfection.”

If my recovery journey was a book, the title would be “How to fail” - to quote Elizabeth Day, who would get an honorary mention in my dedication, because her podcast by the same name has been a game changer for me!

It was during the THREE YEAR break from my degree that I decided do work experience in a primary school, and after just one day I knew that’s what I wanted to do. No question. That afternoon one student had expressed her fear of failure with me - I vividly remember it was over a shoebox doll house they were making. She was so scared of getting it wrong that she had barely started 30 minutes in!

I saw how, bytalking to her and empathising, I was able to reach her in a way that jaw stayed with me ever since. I realised that, not only could I rewrite my own story, but I could give others the tools to write their own with words that are infinitely kinder, positive and - well - accept that they are HUMAN.

As I said, It was THREE whole years before I went back to my degree. That is how long it took me to truly get my life back from the grips of an ED, which was merely a mask for the real issue of crippling perfectionism and self-worth. I write this because I do desperately fear that history will repeat itself with Ruby. Just knowing that she is doing the same degree at the same university is like dejavu, but there is one more similarity that I almost fear more than any other - the role of the “good girl”; the “perfect student.”

I played it for over a decade. At school, and then at Uni. I was the girl who didn’t so much as drink a sip of alcohol until freshers week, never went out to nightclubs and - yes - I did judge others who did. I had that superiority that i see in Ruby, because that is not what the “good girl” does. That is not what the “model student” does.

Yet that “good girl” didn’t realise how bad things had gotten; how far she had lost herself in the pursuit of perfection. She didn’t realise because the lie was so powerful she had convinced even herself it was true; that the A*s and 1sts and curated images on Instagram were somehow more real than the sunken cheeks, the dead clumps of hair, the bloodshot eyes and the silent tears.

They’re not, Ruby. And if your reading this, I only hope you realise it before it is too late. I say that as someone who geninely cares, which is more than can be said for the dozens of ”fans” on Instagram and YouTube, who at this point are no more than enablers.

I am so sorry for how long this is! But I needed to get it off my chest, as you’ll provably understand why. The quoted post really hit me - but in a good way. In that I’m so thankful I was able to “make it it the other side” and now use my experience to “do some good in the world” as Hermione would say ( book seven Hermione, that is… when she’d finally sorted out her priorities!)

I am so happy for you! It takes so much guts and guile to really do some serious self-reflection and realise how much you were hurting yourself and for what it's worth (which granted isn't much as I'm just a stranger on the internet), I'm so proud of you! Do you realise what you did? You took your life back from an impossible standard and you are working to ensure that other children in your care don't fall into that same trap. That is a great and beautiful thing! Thank you for sharing your story and I'm so happy for you! xxxx

 

[Griftwood]

She didn’t just give The Famous Five 2 out of 5 stars omgView attachment 725516

I used to read my parents’ old Famous Five books when I was a kid and I LOVED them.

It’ll be because they eat all the time, and non-vegan food, at that. Dainty Roobee must draw the line somewhere, much as she enjoys reading about food.

 

[Mediamusings]

Definitely. But she can't offer that because she doesn't actually read books. Almost none of the reviews she's left indicate that she read more than the Wikipedia page, and very few of the reviews tally with the rating given. Like everything with Ruby, it's yet more lies and bizarre inconsistencies.

Here's a random selection of reviews/ratings that don't sync up:

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All-time classics, her favourite books ever and books that she absolutely loved all get 3-4 stars. Why? Probably because she never reads anything and can't offer actual criticism, but probably realised how suspicious it was getting that she hands out 5 stars to everything, so started downgrading book scores at random.

On that note, Ruby misuses the word "flippant" and acts like she doesn't throw out 5 star reviews as often as she does daily routine videos:

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Because it always bears repeating that even when Ruby actually "reads" books, she just skips and skims major sections when they don't interest her (y'know, like teenage drama in a drama book about teenagers):

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And my all-time favourite Ruby review on so many levels:

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She's a fraud, and a complete jelly-brained fuckwit.

Why does she feel the need to use all caps for certain words? She does know that you can emphasize your point without telling us that a book was SO good. The BEST book ever. IMPORTANT and WHIMSICAL, or whatever other bs descriptor she wants to use. If she truly had and effective comand of the English language, she would know how to write better. How does she get top marks for her degree? How?

 

[snom4444]

Also for anyone else interested, she’s revealed her dissertation topic is Victorian Christmas print culture… could there it be anything more Ruby? I mean credit to her for doing something she clearly enjoys just giving anyone who watched her videos a heads up

That seems like such a weird topic to write an English Lit dissertation on. Especially after spending multiple days researching other topics, as seen in previous videos - surely she'd come up with something more interesting??

And she casually mentions at the start of the newest video that she's been 'studying for a couple of hours every morning'. I get that she's going into final year, but two hours a day seems like overkill (although granted, it's probably mindless busywork rather than intense studying)

 

[Ilaariaa]

I feel if you got rid of the white and did some darker colours, more wood, funky velvet couches and rugs it’d be hella cute

I agree, I don't like the stark contrast between the rest of the room and the brick wall with the heater.

If Ruby is smart, which she rarely is, she will never move into that cottage. She was an adult when she shared it, talked about it, bragged about it, did a video that showed inside and outside. And it wasn't hard for people to find out the exact address. Without thinking, the woman who is afraid to walk beyond her parent's backyard showed the internet her future home. She has a huge following. Who knows what crazy people are out there watching her every move who, if she moved in there, would show up at her door, stalk her, etc.. Seriously, though, this is a good example of the over-sharing she and so many YouTubers do. They are so full of themselves and desperate for "content" they never think about what they are doing or what parts of their life they should really keep private for a myriad of reasons, safety being first. Hopefully she does read this forum, because she made herself a target and ruined that place for herself. Wise up, Ruby. You are not as smart as you thought, are you? Dimwit decision.

And it has happened before, people have worked out Youtubers' addresses and stalked them or showed up at their house. Who knew that sharing your personal life with thousands of people could end badly.

 

[coffee...cake]

Is she even vegan or is she just pretending for the camera? Maybe it's just another element of the personality she's faking for the Internet.

Some vegans make exceptions for honey. I'm vegan and (please don't come for me) and I personally will eat honey if it's local and I know the beekeeper (I don't eat honey you find in the supermarket), but I do agree that it is weird that she doesn't explain her reasoning behind her food choices. I don't seem to remember her making any video/announcement or anything explaining why she was going vegan in the first place and what it means to her. I could have missed it though.

 

[lemonbanana]

Genuine question, because English isn’t my first language -isn’t “very favourite” like an idiom? I’m pretty sure I’ve heard it elsewhere and if you google it, it does come up in language pages as something that exists/is used. I thought it was a way to emphasise further that you really like something?

I guess it's like saying "the very best" or something. "Very" is pretty unnecessary and pointless in this case, but people still sometimes use it to emphasize the adjective. I always think it sounds a bit old fashioned/pretentious to use the word "very" in front of these superlatives, maybe that's why Ruby does it so much

 

[emmer_moans]

I mean if she really wants to read it there are plenty of resources to learn the basics of Greek mythology, both online and in physical books. I'm sure her local library has a plethora of myth collections intended for kids. That's how I first learned about Greek mythology as a kid. Or even an encyclopedia? She must have an encyclopedia in her house.
It's baffling that a Literature student and self-proclaimed scholar knows so little about Greek mythology that she can't even follow a novel about the Iliad. The Song of Achilles is a YA novel and I think it did a pretty good job at covering the basics for the reader so that you could get into it even if you are not a mythology nerd. And Greek mythology is such an important part of Western culture and especially literature.

I learned about Greek mythology from Stephen Fry's Mythos and Heroes books, as I didn't know many of the stories and my school had glossed over it. Now that I've read those so many things make sense in other books, as many invoke motifs, morals etc from those myths. It's definitely worth learning about those. I'm surprised Ruby hasn't created herself some busywork on it, we know she likes to "research".

 

[Griftwood]

Oh I'm a big lover of batch cooking comes in very useful with working shifts
But I can see all Ruby's 12 year old views now filling the fridge with cold pumpkin porridge

ot: I once cooked through an entire Indian cookbook during my vacation, ended up with 60+ meals in my freezer… was working whifts at the time and it came in so handy! Not to mention more flavour than Roobee will be exposed to in her entire lifetime.

 

[Salutmesamis]

I'd like to believe that it's a troll account, but I'm leaning towards it being real. I can't tell which is sadder tbh

I think if it's real it's from like a 10 year old

 

[Blueglacier]

Am I the only one that thinks Ruby doesn't have an ED? From the pictures she posts with her family and the ones of her in a wetsuit in Devon, she looks like a perfectly healthy 21 year old. She's probably not quite right in the head though in the sense perhaps she wishes she had an ED and puts up a persona around "having" an ED - i.e. ED baiting.

 

[Scapier88]

My uni/work bag is a battered handbag that has old tissues receipts and random snack bars along with wet wipes all at the bottom
I think there might even be a lipstick in there for when I use to think about topping up my makeup during the day

 

[3calico3]

Personally I would modify this to “being different is OK, as long as it’s real”.

I love this! It's so true that some people try so hard to be different but actually find no joy in what they're doing. All this talk of aesthetics can be so limiting - from Ruby's perspective, you can't like cottagecore but also enjoy a nice G&T.