I remember I went up to meet my sister from UCD and as we were walking out a massive merc arrives and in the nanny gets. . She wasn’t shy about talking about the affair to her class matesI’m not justifying it but the way she spoke about the girl and having that opinion of her was probably the only way she could maintain a relationship with her father.. completely blame the girl so she doesn’t have to see the real issue.. That her 40+ year old father had an affair with a 19 year old college student who was looking after his children while his wife recovered from a broken neck in hospital. It’s a defence mechanism.