Pregnancy

[Dogwithabone]

Hey everyone.

Been lurking on here for a few days, I had an ectopic back in January 2020. Found out I was pregnant just before Christmas and been having awful one sided pelvic pain just like I did with my ectopic minus the bleeding. Went for a early ultrasound today to confirm and I have a healthy 7week babies heartbeat beating away at me. I am so overwhelmed right now I can’t quite believe something positive has happened to me. I just thought I’d share my news here as I don’t want to share with family and friends just yet can’t believe it

 

[elloelloello]

Honestly so happy I can join this thread! Just found out I am 5 weeks pregnant today after an ectopic pregnancy and a miscarriage both in lockdown - overjoyed but terrified at the same time! Already have a 3 year old. Hopefully third time lucky congratulations everyone! X

 

[Definitelyme]

For those of you that have already had a baby....what's the one thing you wish you had been told the first time around?

I'm terrified of labour so I've got the feeling I might regret asking this

It always feel a bit back to front giving this advice but:
DONT LISTEN TO ANYONE’S ADVICE!
If you ask 100 people for advice on a topic you will get 100 different answers, and everyone is convinced they are right. Be strong in your convictions of what you want to do with your baby, and don’t let other people’s advice or opinion on the matter sway you.

If something doesn’t feel right to do, then don’t do it (for example if you were being told by people to cry it out and it didn’t feel right to you, don’t do it). Just smile and nod and do what you think is best. It is your baby after all!

 

[Rainbow1]

Had a membrane sweep today as now 4 days past due date

Wasn’t bad at all, read horror stories accidentally online while googling procedure (general advice- don’t google ) I actually drove myself there and back to appointment as had no one else to take me (1 hour round trip) called at Costa drive thru on way back and got a major twinge, immediately panicked thinking I’m alone and a 20 minute drive from home false alarm

Had some twinges this afternoon but nothing of significance

After my sweep at 12 midday had contractions at around 12 midnight, worst feeling was felt like my bum was about to fall off! Unexpected ha
Called hospital told me to take paracetamol etc but ended up going in as felt I was in too much pain, was 9cm and gave birth a few hours later!
Super quick progression

Totally like nothing I expected (though I had no birth plan and tried not to read too much) but it’s beyond surreal having her here

 

[Hbirdette]

Can I just say, how nice is it waking up on New Year’s Day without a hangover
Also, I can now say I’m having my baby this year! Aaaaaaahhhhhhhh!! 13 weeks left!!!

 

[Pink Sparkle]

Checked my county’s maternity services website and it says you have to go alone to all scans. Obviously not due a scan for 9 weeks but I doubt it will have changed by then. My husbands gonna be so gutted, this is our first so it’s gonna be really hard. Although there is a private scan place just 5 mins walk from ours so I’m gonna book in there at 8 weeks and I think he’ll be allowed to come along there.

I’m awake at 4:30am cause I feel so sick!

If you can book private first for sure.
We did this yesterday at just over 9 weeks and unfortunately had the bad news
I now have to go to my local hospital for a scan on my own and talk through my options on how the baby will come
Out. Really scared to do this alone but there’s nothing I can do. I’m so glad my husband was there yesterday when we were told the news, and I didn’t wait to find out on my own.
I really hope everything goes amazing for you

 

[elloelloello]

I just had my scan and they said it’s very early and I may be less than 5 weeks, but the pregnancy is there and growing in the correct place I have to go back in a week or so for a better look but it looks promising!

 

[Stimpii]

She turned It was nowhere near as bad as I was expecting. Tummy feels a bit tender now, but fingers crossed she doesn’t flip again now.

 

[moimoi]

Well so much for my maternal instincts and all of the old wives tales that said otherwise (bad morning sickness, sweet cravings, Chinese gender predictor etc.)... It's a boy! I had convinced myself it was a girl and had to ask the sonographer again what made her think it was a boy, she was like 'his willy'.

Now I'm freaking out over names, I had the girl name picked out, boy names are so hard!!

 

[Kitt]

Hi everyone, thanks for kind messages. Just got home after being at hospital all evening. Had blood tests and internal examination as they were concerned about ectopic pregnancy. Doctor happy with my examination for me to go home. Should get a phone call in the morning with blood test results. If HCG levels over 1000 then I’ll have a scan tomorrow. If under 1000 I’ll have another blood test on Thursday to check they have progressed in 48 hours as they would expect them to. I’m taking tomorrow off work to rest and wait for results.

Oh, they discovered the spotting is being caused by something (can’t remember name) which doctor not concerned about. It’s where there are cells that should be inside the cervix that have moved to outside the cervix, he could see them clearly during my examination. He said that these cells are much more sensitive and more prone to bleeding but nothing to be concerned about. He said it’s like I’ll get spotting caused by them every now and then and I shouldn’t be concerned unless bleeding gets worse.

So feeling like things are looking ok, just waiting for results tomorrow to see where we go from here.

 

[nillal]

Hi I’m 38+2. Due on Christmas Day! So scared lol

 

[Macmama]

Hi lovely people just wondering if anyone can help settle my nerves.

I’m 28 weeks, FTM, baby was very unplanned but a happy surprise. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 7 years. We are very close. I keep getting jittery / panicky about how this is going to change our relationship. I really treasure our alone time and I know we won’t really have any again. I’m scared, if I’m honest, that we’ll grow apart! If anyone wants to share the positive ways in which having a baby changed their relationship I would be so grateful... feels like from the minute you get pregnant people love to tell you how crap your life’s gonna be...

People are always so ready to rain on your parade...

Yes, having a new baby is a strain. You’re tired, you’re emotional, you’re stressed. So is your partner. Yes, it’s a change in your relationship. But all of that is manageable through communicating, honesty and remembering that you’re a team.

My DH was a single dad when I met him,
our now eldest boy was 2.5. His first wife passed when baby boy was 3 months old. I think that gave him a lot of insight into cherishing having that relationship and support. It also meant he was very, very good when the rest of our brood came along, and was already comfortable being a dad. He was a brilliant dad on his own to our biggest lad, and it was actually one of the reasons I said yes to marrying him.

I love watching him as a dad. It’s a really lovely thing to see another side of the person you love. He’s kind, he’s gentle, he’s the bringer of fun, the fixer of problems. and our kids adore him. Seeing your partner with your tiny newborn is all kinds of lovely (I think it’s something monkey-brain about seeing strong man with little human that makes you want more!) Seeing your 9 year old run straight for his dad when he scores a goal at footie is also just as lovely. I love our time as a family, I love being together as a six. I’m so glad our kids have him as their dad.

Yes, you’ll argue, you’ll disagree, there will be cock ups. You’re learning to be parents, and a family together. It’s only a true issue if you let it be

 

[Heybooboo]

For those of you that have already had a baby....what's the one thing you wish you had been told the first time around?

I'm terrified of labour so I've got the feeling I might regret asking this

The bleeding afterwards! Everyone goes on about labour but no one ever mentioned the afterwards and I knew you bled afterwards just didn’t expect it for 6 weeks. Also I wish your told how to care for your stitches more, I left hospital clueless.

 

[jazyblu]

Two more days until my 12 week scan and now the nerves are starting to kick in.
I will be 13 weeks tomorrow and had a private scan after Christmas at 11w5, everything was fine but obviously you never know how everything is going between scans at this stage when you can't feel movement etc.

Size of a lemon tomorrow, when I found out it was a poppy seed so this feels bloody massive

This was 11w5, crazy to think how much it looks like a baby so early!

 

[Jg182]

Hello lovely I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this, my babies nuchal food came back at 4.5mm and we were told there was a 1 in 100 chance of baby having Down’s syndrome. Within about 10 mins of being told this they started mentioning terminations etc. Broke our hearts. Anyway, we were able to get a NIPT (aka harmony test) via the nhs so it was about £300 I believe because the thought of an amniocentesis freaked me out incase it caused a miscarriage. I appreciate not everyone is in a position to be able to do this though which is really frustrating. Anyway, results came back as 1 in 10000 so basically the baby was the lowest risk possible for downs. Had to have a scan at 16 weeks to check all his organs etc and everything came back perfect. Please try to stay positive and I hope you get the answers you want as I can so relate, the wait is absolutely agonising. Pls message me if you wanna chat or have any more questions xxx

Hey Thankyou for your reply.
we had The call this morning to say chance of Down syndrome is 1 in 4. So have decided to go straight to the invasive testing to find out for definite. Luckily it’s gonna be tommorow so we don’t have to wait to long, then get back results in 3 days. I don’t think our chances are looking too postive at the moment.

 

[BettyCrocker]

For those of you that have already had a baby....what's the one thing you wish you had been told the first time around?

I'm terrified of labour so I've got the feeling I might regret asking this

It’s not as bad as you imagine. I was also surprised by the location of the pain - mine was all in my bum - felt like someone was trying to push a bowling ball up my bum hole!!!!!

 

[Kitt]

Hi everyone, on my way to the hospital. After last night I had a little bit of blood in my discharge a couple of times today. I called GP and he took it very seriously and I’m going in for a scan to check it’s not ectopic.

Thank you for telling me to call. I wouldn’t have done it otherwise. I’ll let you know how it goes xx

 

[Hbirdette]

Had my 12 week scan today. Measuring 13 weeks. Been told baby has too much fluid at back of neck measuring 5.3mm. Got to wait on blood test results then keep testing for chromosome issues if comes back high chance. Said other issues could include heart defects.
I’m devastated. I can’t find any postive stories online.

Hello lovely I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this, my babies nuchal food came back at 4.5mm and we were told there was a 1 in 100 chance of baby having Down’s syndrome. Within about 10 mins of being told this they started mentioning terminations etc. Broke our hearts. Anyway, we were able to get a NIPT (aka harmony test) via the nhs so it was about £300 I believe because the thought of an amniocentesis freaked me out incase it caused a miscarriage. I appreciate not everyone is in a position to be able to do this though which is really frustrating. Anyway, results came back as 1 in 10000 so basically the baby was the lowest risk possible for downs. Had to have a scan at 16 weeks to check all his organs etc and everything came back perfect. Please try to stay positive and I hope you get the answers you want as I can so relate, the wait is absolutely agonising. Pls message me if you wanna chat or have any more questions xxx

 

[MrsJones83]

Can’t believe people have to pay for their scan pictures!! We get ours free, and they always make a point of ensuring you have some “good” ones. Even at later scans (34 weeks for example) they’d still give one

One time she’d accidentally printed 4, but because I’d only paid for 2 she wouldn’t let me have the others, even though they were just going in the bin!

 

[Kitt]

Just had my scan - I’m 5 weeks and 3 days so they said it’s too early to see baby but they could see yolk sac and everything that should be there. No sign of ectopic pregnancy, everything in the right place just can’t see baby yet.

@elloelloello is that the same as yours?