Pregnancy

[Kitt]

Lying awake absolutely terrified. Woke up about 40 mins ago and started getting pain very low in abdomen. At first it was leading to passing wind and I was like ok intense trapped wind. Then the pain got worse and worse. I don’t think I’ve ever felt anything like it. Stopped passing wind and just started to feel sick. I got really hot and queasy. Went to the toilet and was sick a bit. Pain eased. I went for a wee and wiped, no blood but bit of colour in discharge. Lying in bed now and pain starting to come back. I’m 5 weeks and 2 days so I’m so frightened I’m losing it I’m so scared.

 

[littlepup]

Lying awake absolutely terrified. Woke up about 40 mins ago and started getting pain very low in abdomen. At first it was leading to passing wind and I was like ok intense trapped wind. Then the pain got worse and worse. I don’t think I’ve ever felt anything like it. Stopped passing wind and just started to feel sick. I got really hot and queasy. Went to the toilet and was sick a bit. Pain eased. I went for a wee and wiped, no blood but bit of colour in discharge. Lying in bed now and pain starting to come back. I’m 5 weeks and 2 days so I’m so frightened I’m losing it I’m so scared.

I'm really sorry you're going through this.
Do you still have that shoulder pain? You should go to A&E if so. Perhaps you should go anyway, given the combination of symptoms.
Look at your local hospital midwifery/maternity pages - there should be an emergency number to talk to a midwife, tell them you had the issue before. If not, 111 should be able to contact them to call you back too.

Not all pain or bleeding means miscarriage but you need to speak to someone. Even if they tell you to watch and wait.
If you really, really don't think it could be ectopic, tomorrow, first thing, call the midwife or the doctor and ask for/how to get a a referral to the 'early pregnancy unit', explain everything including the shoulder thing. They should scan you. If you think there's any chance though, go in, it can affect future fertility.

 

[Hbirdette]

Just saying hello... insomnia has well and truly kicked in

 

[Kitt]

Update: no pain this morning, no blood. Feeling very very sick. Think I’m ok. I don’t start work til 12 today so I can’t take it easy and see how I go.

 

[littlepup]

Update: no pain this morning, no blood. Feeling very very sick. Think I’m ok. I don’t start work til 12 today so I can’t take it easy and see how I go.

I would really strongly suggest you try for a referral to the early pregnancy clinic. It’s what it’s there for and period pain like cramps in early pregnancy are normal but what you described are not x

 

[Chickenandgravy]

Update: no pain this morning, no blood. Feeling very very sick. Think I’m ok. I don’t start work til 12 today so I can’t take it easy and see how I go.

Yeah I agree get yourself to epu, they are usually really good at seeing you relatively fast

 

[Kitt]

Thanks everyone for concern. Don’t really have the shoulder pain and no abdominal pain or blood this morning so I know the GP won’t be concerned. She said to me on the phone that EP wouldn’t be til 6-8 weeks anyway. I’m feeling a lot less worried now the pain is gone. Just feel nauseous which is normal for the mornings for me.

 

[Tui]

Hey everyone.

Been lurking on here for a few days, I had an ectopic back in January 2020. Found out I was pregnant just before Christmas and been having awful one sided pelvic pain just like I did with my ectopic minus the bleeding. Went for a early ultrasound today to confirm and I have a healthy 7week babies heartbeat beating away at me. I am so overwhelmed right now I can’t quite believe something positive has happened to me. I just thought I’d share my news here as I don’t want to share with family and friends just yet can’t believe it

Congratulations! That first scan showing everything is ok is magical isn’t it

 

[Sw4]

Did anyone panic after telling friends and family and worry they shouldn't have? We waited until after 12 weeks but now I'm worrying that we should have only told immediate family, and then the rest after 20 weeks.

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Did anyone panic after telling friends and family and worry they shouldn't have? We waited until after 12 weeks but now I'm worrying that we should have only told immediate family, and then the rest after 20 weeks.

I have not got that far I’ve only told my parents and my partners parents and I won’t be telling anyone else for a long time.Try not to worry because it just makes me more anxious when I start to over think. Lots of people tell people after 12 weeks xx

 

[Chickenandgravy]

Did anyone panic after telling friends and family and worry they shouldn't have? We waited until after 12 weeks but now I'm worrying that we should have only told immediate family, and then the rest after 20 weeks.

I was planning on telling people after 12 weeks (next week) but now I'm wondering whether to wait till 20 but also people have been wondering why I've been in hiding for this long, good old morning sickness, I really don't know what to do

 

[Tui]

Did anyone panic after telling friends and family and worry they shouldn't have? We waited until after 12 weeks but now I'm worrying that we should have only told immediate family, and then the rest after 20 weeks.

We told parents and siblings at 6 weeks along with my best mate - I had prev miscarriage plus have medical issues which need accommodating for in pregnancy which made it obvious I was pregnant (or I would have had to tell some big lies to cover it up which I wasn’t comfortable with). Told boss at 6 weeks for same reasons plus covid (NHS). Close friends told after 12 week scan.

 

[Definitelyme]

We never make any big announcements. We tell family, and then close friends as and when it “comes up”, so if we see them it’s obvious I am pregnant, or if it comes up in convo. I would say most people we know still don’t know I’m pregnant (24 weeks) simply as it hasn’t come up and I don’t obviously see many people atm. Don’t feel you have to tell everyone (or anyone) in a big way.

 

[Tui]

We never make any big announcements. We tell family, and then close friends as and when it “comes up”, so if we see them it’s obvious I am pregnant, or if it comes up in convo. I would say most people we know still don’t know I’m pregnant (24 weeks) simply as it hasn’t come up and I don’t obviously see many people atm. Don’t feel you have to tell everyone (or anyone) in a big way.

Agree, we just told closest friends then anyone who it came up in convo with. Didn’t do any big announcements, I don’t like them much after my own loss and my sister in law is waiting for ivf following a miscarriage so didn’t want to be insensitive

 

[WhatABore]

Did anyone panic after telling friends and family and worry they shouldn't have? We waited until after 12 weeks but now I'm worrying that we should have only told immediate family, and then the rest after 20 weeks.

What is it you're panicking about?

 

[elloelloello]

I just had my scan and they said it’s very early and I may be less than 5 weeks, but the pregnancy is there and growing in the correct place I have to go back in a week or so for a better look but it looks promising!

 

[moimoi]

Did anyone panic after telling friends and family and worry they shouldn't have? We waited until after 12 weeks but now I'm worrying that we should have only told immediate family, and then the rest after 20 weeks.

I’m 22 weeks and waited until 20 weeks to tell parents (still think I should have just told them after the birth ) and work. No one else knows apart from a couple of my friends. I’ve told them to keep quiet and not tell any other family members, maybe I’m weird but I just hate people knowing my business, asking how things are and all the anxiety in case something is wrong. I could never be an influencer!

I’m gonna hold off telling colleagues for as long as possible too (they’ll probably find out whenever my maternity cover role goes online), can’t be arsed with repetitive conversations and how I’ll probably never get a good night’s sleep again.

 

[Sw4]

What is it you're panicking about?

I guess mainly the fact that things can still go wrong between now and the 20 week scan and lots still can't be picked up till that scan so should I really tell lots of people.

It's not like I did an influencer style announcement or anything, but have told close family and friends which is quite a fair few, and I kinda had a bit of a panicky episode just now thinking about it. Haven't told anyone at work yet, might tell my boss in a couple of weeks but that's about it.

 

[WhatABore]

I guess mainly the fact that things can still go wrong between now and the 20 week scan and lots still can't be picked up till that scan so should I really tell lots of people.

It's not like I did an influencer style announcement or anything, but have told close family and friends which is quite a fair few, and I kinda had a bit of a panicky episode just now thinking about it. Haven't told anyone at work yet, might tell my boss in a couple of weeks but that's about it.

If something were to go wrong, they'd all be understanding and if anything, it means you've got more support if that were to happen

 

[Easilyannoyed]

I just had my scan and they said it’s very early and I may be less than 5 weeks, but the pregnancy is there and growing in the correct place I have to go back in a week or so for a better look but it looks promising!

YaaY what was it like? I really want to book my own private scan but just really nervous! Really happy for you thanks for letting us all know xxxx