My bleedingās been much the same as everyone, first 2 days lots, 5 days watery and inconsistent (yesterday I considered just a liner) then today, whammo, back to the massive pads. I remember last time it being
more clotty after a week or so.
I used the enormous Abena to start which are like a full nappy and I got some lilets which turns out are about a foot long with double wings which is odd cos length isnāt really the issue for me but the āASDA Protective Incontinence Pads EXTRA for Sensitive Bladdersā are a good middle ground I think, wide, padded and sort of cupped.
Iāve got a bump like thereās a bloody chipolata under the skin right above my incision. Google is scaring me about hernias and haematomas. Midwife tomorrow, hopefully sheāll have a look.
So for him to say he forgot and that it was my fault was the icing on the cake
If heās anything like my OH sometimes heāll feel a
twit for messing up but instead of apologising and taking responsibility double down and blame you. If he really thought it was your fault, he wouldnāt be being all over nice now but still be
thinking he was in the rightI suspect. I hope baby sleeps and OH is better tomorrow.
For me found it hard not to feel overlooked in the first months. You get a few weeks of full on attention when baby is actually pretty inactive then when they start to ramp up the interest, help and support dies down but youāre in limbo still.