Pregnancy #63

[LittleMissMuffet]

Did anyone/is anyone doing this whole baby moon thing or is that just an instagram fallacy? TikTok has suddenly brought me all the Marrakesh content and whilst I’ve been twice and seen pretty much every landmark that’s ever been recommended ever within the medina walls, I do have a craving for the insane colours and sounds and smells and the bartering and the shopping before my JuniorDragName gets here. Also the Riad we’ve stayed in before doesn’t allow children under 12 so we have one last chance . But, last time I went we both contracted E. coli and I was seriously ill for a long time so I’m sliiiightly nervous about it.

I also really want to go to Türkiye and hark at me thinking I’m not staring down the barrel of a massive decrease in wages when I go off on mat leave

Do it. We didn’t get to have a baby moon because of lockdown. It would’ve been so nice to do a few more dates etc before we had our little one but we spent it in isolation

 

[Super_Berry]

I was too ill with HG to have a baby moon, but we went on holiday with our son when he was four months old which was an absolute dream! I’d love to do the same again when this baby is a similar age, but having a two year old as well does make it that bit harder.

We tried a couple of trips to Ireland to see family and I was so sick with the travel (which wasn't even that far) we didn't bother going anywhere else. And then by the time my sickness stopped, I was too big and uncomfortable to enjoy anything.

 

[RoseyThorney]

We didn’t have a baby moon, mostly because we’re getting married in May so all of our money is going towards that. We probably would’ve gone somewhere if it weren’t for the wedding though.

 

[Londonsays]

Did anyone/is anyone doing this whole baby moon thing or is that just an instagram fallacy? TikTok has suddenly brought me all the Marrakesh content and whilst I’ve been twice and seen pretty much every landmark that’s ever been recommended ever within the medina walls, I do have a craving for the insane colours and sounds and smells and the bartering and the shopping before my JuniorDragName gets here. Also the Riad we’ve stayed in before doesn’t allow children under 12 so we have one last chance . But, last time I went we both contracted E. coli and I was seriously ill for a long time so I’m sliiiightly nervous about it.

I also really want to go to Türkiye and hark at me thinking I’m not staring down the barrel of a massive decrease in wages when I go off on mat leave

We have a holiday to Cyprus in June and I’ll be 26 weeks and then July we’re going to Ireland. We have a toddler so will not be relaxing holidays so if you have the opportunity to travel before the baby arrives, definitely take it.

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Thanks for your babymoon/holiday thoughts!
Next week I have my first NHS scan. I found out because it showed up in my Badger Notes app, then a letter came through. They haven’t bothered to explain if it’s TA or TV and whether or not to drink water or anything. It’s my understanding that they’ll try TA first and move to TV if they have to but I only know that from my private scan. I dunno if they’re assuming because I’m a billion years old I’ve gone through all this before or whether it’s just typical NHS disorganisation. My app also says I should expect to be having blood tests but there is no indication this has been booked in. I guess I’ll need to try and call tomorrow and chase up. I bet they haven’t considered I might be working full time on a 2 hour round commute and will book my blood test appointment for a different random day of the following week like I have the capacity to be farting about in and out of the midwifery unit all the time. I know I get the time off from work but I’m kind of extremely busy trying to get all my ducks in a row ahead of a year off work in 6 months time, haha!

 

[calmyourritas]

Thanks for your babymoon/holiday thoughts!
Next week I have my first NHS scan. I found out because it showed up in my Badger Notes app, then a letter came through. They haven’t bothered to explain if it’s TA or TV and whether or not to drink water or anything. It’s my understanding that they’ll try TA first and move to TV if they have to but I only know that from my private scan. I dunno if they’re assuming because I’m a billion years old I’ve gone through all this before or whether it’s just typical NHS disorganisation. My app also says I should expect to be having blood tests but there is no indication this has been booked in. I guess I’ll need to try and call tomorrow and chase up. I bet they haven’t considered I might be working full time on a 2 hour round commute and will book my blood test appointment for a different random day of the following week like I have the capacity to be farting about in and out of the midwifery unit all the time. I know I get the time off from work but I’m kind of extremely busy trying to get all my ducks in a row ahead of a year off work in 6 months time, haha!

In my experience my bloods were always done at the midwife appointments and sent off, I never had to go for a separate blood test appt

 

[RedPotter]

When I had my NHS 12 week scan, I had bloods taken at the same time straight after the scan. It was probably like a 5 minute wait, I came out of the scan then was called into another room for the bloods. Not sure if this is a separate blood test they are advising you will have though.

 

[indeedjoy]

Thanks for your babymoon/holiday thoughts!
Next week I have my first NHS scan. I found out because it showed up in my Badger Notes app, then a letter came through. They haven’t bothered to explain if it’s TA or TV and whether or not to drink water or anything. It’s my understanding that they’ll try TA first and move to TV if they have to but I only know that from my private scan. I dunno if they’re assuming because I’m a billion years old I’ve gone through all this before or whether it’s just typical NHS disorganisation. My app also says I should expect to be having blood tests but there is no indication this has been booked in. I guess I’ll need to try and call tomorrow and chase up. I bet they haven’t considered I might be working full time on a 2 hour round commute and will book my blood test appointment for a different random day of the following week like I have the capacity to be farting about in and out of the midwifery unit all the time. I know I get the time off from work but I’m kind of extremely busy trying to get all my ducks in a row ahead of a year off work in 6 months time, haha!

The midwife should have explained this at your first appointment that the appointment may be on badger notes before you get a letter. The blood test is done to check for any screening for downs etc which is completely your choice if you consent to this or not - she should of asked you this at your appointment as with the scan this is to date the pregnancy and also to check the fluid at the back of the neck if you have consented
You should be in and out in an hour tops xx

 

[anything at all]

Thanks for your babymoon/holiday thoughts!
Next week I have my first NHS scan. I found out because it showed up in my Badger Notes app, then a letter came through. They haven’t bothered to explain if it’s TA or TV and whether or not to drink water or anything. It’s my understanding that they’ll try TA first and move to TV if they have to but I only know that from my private scan. I dunno if they’re assuming because I’m a billion years old I’ve gone through all this before or whether it’s just typical NHS disorganisation. My app also says I should expect to be having blood tests but there is no indication this has been booked in. I guess I’ll need to try and call tomorrow and chase up. I bet they haven’t considered I might be working full time on a 2 hour round commute and will book my blood test appointment for a different random day of the following week like I have the capacity to be farting about in and out of the midwifery unit all the time. I know I get the time off from work but I’m kind of extremely busy trying to get all my ducks in a row ahead of a year off work in 6 months time, haha!

You usually need a full bladder and will very likely be TA. They may tell you to empty your bladder at the scan anyway though !

Unless you’re unlucky like me..
I had to have so many TV scans this last pregnancy because I have a very tilted uterus. Even at my 20 week scan they wanted to do TV for a better view of everything. And then I continued to need more TV scans later on during growth scans to check where my placenta was as it was low lying.

I don’t know about other hospitals but towards the end of my pregnancy because I was under consultant I’d go there for my scan and sometimes have to sit and wait 2 hours for my consultant appointment 🥲

At my last scan for the pregnancy I had csection preop, scan and consultant appointment all the same day but with around 2 hours between each but because I’d also been admitted to the ward for bleeding I could just go back to my room between appointments

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

You usually need a full bladder and will very likely be TA. They may tell you to empty your bladder at the scan anyway though !

Unless you’re unlucky like me..
I had to have so many TV scans this last pregnancy because I have a very tilted uterus. Even at my 20 week scan they wanted to do TV for a better view of everything. And then I continued to need more TV scans later on during growth scans to check where my placenta was as it was low lying.

I don’t know about other hospitals but towards the end of my pregnancy because I was under consultant I’d go there for my scan and sometimes have to sit and wait 2 hours for my consultant appointment 🥲

At my last scan for the pregnancy I had csection preop, scan and consultant appointment all the same day but with around 2 hours between each but because I’d also been admitted to the ward for bleeding I could just go back to my room between appointments

I actually prefer TV scans simply because I have the weakest bladder in the world which is exacerbated by nervousness. I lasted about 20 seconds of my private scan and when the sonographer said ‘you’re earlier than you thought, I can’t see too much, it might be clearer with a TV scan’ I was off that bed and in the toilet emptying my bladder before she could ask me if that was ok

I don’t think the consultant comes to the local unit so if I was to see him, I’d have to go to the local big hospital. My file has been passed to him because they’re nervous about the fact I had endometriosis lasered out of me nearly 15 years ago, which seems like a massive overreaction but ok! I suspect he’ll pass it back with a note saying ‘so what?’ because I really don’t think it’s a big thing in the slightest.

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

The midwife should have explained this at your first appointment that the appointment may be on badger notes before you get a letter. The blood test is done to check for any screening for downs etc which is completely your choice if you consent to this or not - she should of asked you this at your appointment as with the scan this is to date the pregnancy and also to check the fluid at the back of the neck if you have consented
You should be in and out in an hour tops xx

I gave consent for all that, I think, but I don’t actually have a bloods appointment in my notes, only ultrasound. Unless the sonographer is doing both? When I say I think, I want to give consent to any and all recommended tests but I feel like I was still supposed to be getting time to think about it.
They probably did tell me all this at the last (first) appointment but it was the longest appointment of my life and both the student midwife and my named midwife (who isn’t actually going to be my named midwife because she’s going on mat leave herself, so she didn’t actually even introduce herself when she came flying into my appointment) talked 100 miles an hour, mostly in code, and it was all a bit intense tbh. They were really nice, don’t get me wrong, but it was all massively overwhelming. MrDragName found it harder than me because he was struggling with the accent and he perceived them to be mumbling as well. Speed+less familiar accent+terminology= a lot!

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

In my experience my bloods were always done at the midwife appointments and sent off, I never had to go for a separate blood test appt

I don’t have a midwife appointment booked, just a scan appointment? I’m so confused tbh!

 

[jimmyj123]

I don’t have a midwife appointment booked, just a scan appointment? I’m so confused tbh!

More than likely just says scan but you’ll get the blood test straight after in another room

 

[MeghanSnarkle]

Hi all, I've been leaving little updates as an AMA (38yrs) mum to be along the way on here as I've had a few issues over the last couple of months that thankfully all turned out for the best but may be of use to others that check in with these threads in the future and find helpful (but also it has been a huge benefit for me to off load here too tbh)

I'm going in for my C-section on Tuesday and shared that my anxiety had taken hold quite a bit around the surgical side of things and it hit me pretty hard when I had my pre op mat apt last week, thankfully I was listened to and to my amazement yesterday morning I received a lovely phone call from triage confirming I'm to be given midazalom now as part of my birth plan
I feel like a big weight has lifted and sort of a different person going into it all now so thank god I vocalised it, feels like a little miracle tbh.

 

[RedPotter]

I gave consent for all that, I think, but I don’t actually have a bloods appointment in my notes, only ultrasound. Unless the sonographer is doing both? When I say I think, I want to give consent to any and all recommended tests but I feel like I was still supposed to be getting time to think about it.
They probably did tell me all this at the last (first) appointment but it was the longest appointment of my life and both the student midwife and my named midwife (who isn’t actually going to be my named midwife because she’s going on mat leave herself, so she didn’t actually even introduce herself when she came flying into my appointment) talked 100 miles an hour, mostly in code, and it was all a bit intense tbh. They were really nice, don’t get me wrong, but it was all massively overwhelming. MrDragName found it harder than me because he was struggling with the accent and he perceived them to be mumbling as well. Speed+less familiar accent+terminology= a lot!

I didn't have a separate appointment booked it was just the scan appointment and then the bloods happened straight after. There was also a nurse offering flu jabs but id already had mine at the point.

 

[Londonsays]

Thanks for your babymoon/holiday thoughts!
Next week I have my first NHS scan. I found out because it showed up in my Badger Notes app, then a letter came through. They haven’t bothered to explain if it’s TA or TV and whether or not to drink water or anything. It’s my understanding that they’ll try TA first and move to TV if they have to but I only know that from my private scan. I dunno if they’re assuming because I’m a billion years old I’ve gone through all this before or whether it’s just typical NHS disorganisation. My app also says I should expect to be having blood tests but there is no indication this has been booked in. I guess I’ll need to try and call tomorrow and chase up. I bet they haven’t considered I might be working full time on a 2 hour round commute and will book my blood test appointment for a different random day of the following week like I have the capacity to be farting about in and out of the midwifery unit all the time. I know I get the time off from work but I’m kind of extremely busy trying to get all my ducks in a row ahead of a year off work in 6 months time, haha!

I had my 12 week scan last week and bloods, urine taken and weight check done all after the scan. And a brief chat with the midwife.

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

I didn't have a separate appointment booked it was just the scan appointment and then the bloods happened straight after. There was also a nurse offering flu jabs but id already had mine at the point.

Oh yeah, had my flu jab at the end of that first appointment. I presume someone will pin me down and take my blood after the scan

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

I had my 12 week scan last week and bloods, urine taken and weight check done all after the scan. And a brief chat with the midwife.

Oh god, dreading the weight check. Stayed with my Mum for a few days, she doesn’t know I’m pregnant yet and I was secretly snacking constantly to stave off the nausea. Pahhhh.

 

[Greencatfysh]

Oh god, dreading the weight check. Stayed with my Mum for a few days, she doesn’t know I’m pregnant yet and I was secretly snacking constantly to stave off the nausea. Pahhhh.

Honestly don’t worry. I was weighed once at the start and once in like my 36th week and no one said anything and frankly I didn’t care (I’m a bigger girl and piled on the weight during pregnancy). Not advocating eating too much and you defo want to stay active/strong but I also think you’re growing a human so please don’t stress about weight gain.

 

[indeedjoy]

Oh god, dreading the weight check. Stayed with my Mum for a few days, she doesn’t know I’m pregnant yet and I was secretly snacking constantly to stave off the nausea. Pahhhh.

They also weighed me with a top, jumper coat and shoes on I was like this isn’t really accurate is it?

I do think if you have constant nausea some anti sickness could be a good idea if you are having to eat constantly as they say you don’t need extra calories until your 3rd trimester and it’s only around 200-300 calories but you may hit the second trimester and not feel as sick hopefully unless you have HG?