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Is anyone not having a baby shower? Are you doing annything instead?

Everyone I’ve spoken to who’s pregnant is having one, but we’ve recently moved away from family and I don’t reallllly have any friends to be honest.
 
@hazmaz and @rosieposie94 I've been asking for a few weeks for it and they said they didn't feel comfortable giving it to me in the third trimester 😭 the only thing they offered was gaviscon. Not sure if different areas/practices are different. Before that I was passed from pillar to post - mentioned it at my midwife appointment and she said to go to the pharmacy and ask there so I did and they said ginger biscuits 🙃 then I was getting more and more frustrated so I went back to the pharmacist and they said contact your GP so did that and they said ask your midwife 🙄 at this point I was so upset about it all I was begging them to help but they were really reluctant with how far along I am (their words) so prescribed gaviscon. Asked if I could have anything stronger/more effective and they said no basically. Tbf the gaviscon had been working for the last two weeks, it's just for some reason last night it didn't touch me.
Eh?! I’ve never had a problem getting it prescribed. They literally give it to you before you have a c section! Can you ask to see a different doctor? God I feel for you OP, it really is miserable.
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Is anyone not having a baby shower? Are you doing annything instead?

Everyone I’ve spoken to who’s pregnant is having one, but we’ve recently moved away from family and I don’t reallllly have any friends to be honest.
I had a tiny shower with my first (surprise planned by my friends) as it was covid times. Just 4 of us, few funny games, prosecco (nosecoo for me) and a takeaway. Could you do something like that instead? Or just a nice afternoon tea with DH? I have a feeling my MIL is planning something this time round but if that doesn’t happen I think I’ll just go for a nice treat with 2 or 3 friends.

Can sympathise with moving away from family! We moved to the other end of the country when my first was 4 weeks old. I’d really recommend getting out with baby as much as you can and making some friends, is there a pregnancy yoga group you could join now to meet people a similar point in the pregnancy to you?
 
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Eh?! I’ve never had a problem getting it prescribed. They literally give it to you before you have a c section! Can you ask to see a different doctor? God I feel for you OP, it really is miserable.
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I had a tiny shower with my first (surprise planned by my friends) as it was covid times. Just 4 of us, few funny games, prosecco (nosecoo for me) and a takeaway. Could you do something like that instead? Or just a nice afternoon tea with DH? I have a feeling my MIL is planning something this time round but if that doesn’t happen I think I’ll just go for a nice treat with 2 or 3 friends.

Can sympathise with moving away from family! We moved to the other end of the country when my first was 4 weeks old. I’d really recommend getting out with baby as much as you can and making some friends, is there a pregnancy yoga group you could join now to meet people a similar point in the pregnancy to you?
No classes around here, unfortunately. I will definitely make some friends once he’s here though. Yeah, a dinner out might be quite nice with husband, good idea.
 
Is anyone not having a baby shower? Are you doing annything instead?

Everyone I’ve spoken to who’s pregnant is having one, but we’ve recently moved away from family and I don’t reallllly have any friends to be honest.
I never had one with my first and I very much doubt I'll have one for this baby. I have no family locally and lost a lot of my friends after going teetotal and then having a baby. I kind of don't get the point of them to be honest.
 
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Is anyone not having a baby shower? Are you doing annything instead?

Everyone I’ve spoken to who’s pregnant is having one, but we’ve recently moved away from family and I don’t reallllly have any friends to be honest.
I'm not gone on having them, I feel that people feel obliged to get you something and then again once baby arrives. I find them just a reason to get stuff imo
 
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I had one with my first (not my idea, planned by a friend who was also pregnant) but I would never have organised one. Find them pointless tbh, everyone come sees you with a gift once the babies born anyway. I won’t be bothering with one this time either unless it’s a surprise again. Would much rather just go for a nice lunch with friends just for the social aspect rather than all the games and gifts.
 
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I had one (ish) with my first - lockdown restrictions had lifted slightly so we had a bbq with our friends and family, as a baby shower/housewarming reunion type thing. It was verrrry low key and that was stressful enough 🤣 I’m really not fussed about them but the girls at work were horrified so I think they’re throwing a small little work one for me , which is incredibly sweet of them but I did say they didn’t have to bother as I’m genuinely not bothered!
 
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None of my friends are really at the baby stage of life... or the getting jobs and moving out stage, really. I'm also just not very socially inclined. So it never even crossed my brain to have one and I think I'd have hated it anyway! It seems very American to me, like gender reveals. One of those things I'm happy to do without!

Taken the day off work today to just lay in bed and try to sleep 😆 tiredness is really overwhelming and I knew I'd just accomplish nothing today.
 
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Is anyone not having a baby shower? Are you doing annything instead?

Everyone I’ve spoken to who’s pregnant is having one, but we’ve recently moved away from family and I don’t reallllly have any friends to be honest.
Nope! I only know of 1 person who ever had one, everyone moaned about it (the cost, the presents-you end up buying 2, 1 for the shower 1 for after baby is born). I hate a fuss anyway but I think it’s such a big ask from people
 
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I wasn’t bothered about having a baby shower but everyone told me I should so I am now, I’m actually looking forward to it😆
 
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My mother asked me did I want it to be a surprise, so giving it away and now I feel like im planning the stupid thing myself 🥲 have decided today im going to give her the list of people I’d like there, it was her idea I’d of done without.. like others have said it is a way of just asking for gifts I think 😂
 
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Hi Guys! I am 5w 3d according to LMP. I did my self referral yesterday for the maternity unit at my local hospital (lol my drs didn’t want to know) my question is - how long until they make contact to get things booked in etc? I would have thought I might have an early scan since I had surgery on my uterus a couple years back to make sure things were ‘right’ but idk if they will go that deep? My local EPU don’t seem that helpful from past losses :( thanks guys!
 
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Hi Guys! I am 5w 3d according to LMP. I did my self referral yesterday for the maternity unit at my local hospital (lol my drs didn’t want to know) my question is - how long until they make contact to get things booked in etc? I would have thought I might have an early scan since I had surgery on my uterus a couple years back to make sure things were ‘right’ but idk if they will go that deep? My local EPU don’t seem that helpful from past losses :( thanks guys!
It all varies from different healthboards but you’ll get a booking in appointment at around 8 weeks usually, can be in your home, at a maternity unit or video calls I believe. Then a scan at around 12 weeks. It’s pretty rare for them to do scans early but I have no knowledge of your surgery so don’t know if that would get you one or not! You can always book a private one if you’re worried and can afford it - think they’re usually between £50&£100 if you have a private clinic near you
 
Hi Guys! I am 5w 3d according to LMP. I did my self referral yesterday for the maternity unit at my local hospital (lol my drs didn’t want to know) my question is - how long until they make contact to get things booked in etc? I would have thought I might have an early scan since I had surgery on my uterus a couple years back to make sure things were ‘right’ but idk if they will go that deep? My local EPU don’t seem that helpful from past losses :( thanks guys!
I heard from the midwife at around 7 weeks, first appointment at 8/9 weeks and then an early scan at 10 weeks. My local EPU only scan if you've had 3 or more losses. I was scanned due to severe morning sickness. X
 
Hi Guys! I am 5w 3d according to LMP. I did my self referral yesterday for the maternity unit at my local hospital (lol my drs didn’t want to know) my question is - how long until they make contact to get things booked in etc? I would have thought I might have an early scan since I had surgery on my uterus a couple years back to make sure things were ‘right’ but idk if they will go that deep? My local EPU don’t seem that helpful from past losses :( thanks guys!
Congratulations! In my area when I self referred I was told I wouldn't be contacted until between 6 and 8 weeks, and then booking appointment was 8/9 weeks and scan was 12 weeks. I imagine you should hear in the next couple of weeks, but if not then give the maternity unit a call/email to check you haven't been lost in the system. You can then ask about an early scan at your booking appointment. Sorry to hear you didn't get much support for past losses, I hope things are better this time and that everything goes well ❤

Re. baby showers - me and my four closest friends have a tradition where we arrange to meet for lunch about a month before baby is due, and then we arrive with small decorations (e.g. balloons, a banner) and little gifts for the mum-to-be to spoil her at a time when she's feeling heavy and stressed! We often also do a little "how well do you know mum" quiz sheet and make baby predictions (both using cheap sheets you can order online) and then we all have cake! It's lovely and low-key, and just a nice chance for whoever's pregnant to relax and be looked after ❤ I went to a "proper" baby shower once and it was too intense for me - 20+ people crammed in someone's living room, small talk with people I didn't know and game after game, none of which were enjoyable!

For nausea - obviously if you're really struggling then medication is the only way forward, but for low-level nausea (the sort where you sit heavy breathing for most of the day to get through it 😅) then I found that nibbling on cheap ginger biscuits from Lidl genuinely helped - I'm guessing because they lined my stomach and maybe the tiny bit of ginger content set them above other biscuits. For the first trimester though, the only thing that helped were some really thin cracker biscuits from Carr's because they were less stodgy so easier to nibble on. I hope everyone struggling with nausea feels better soon and is able to get medication they need - it's a horrible time ❤
 
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I'm 8 weeks today and boy am I feeling it. I'm struggling to get through the day at work. Feel sick and like I need to lie down constantly. I know it will all be worth it but it's so hard, never felt worse in my life!!! so grateful though and I need to remember that ❤
 
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Did anyone’s sickness hit them with a vengeance at 13 weeks? I’ve been struggling since 6 weeks but was starting to find it more bearable after about week 10, but since Monday I’ve been absolutely floored with it. Having a day off work today to try and rest but I just cannot wait until this but ends. I’m sure it was easing by now with my first baby
 
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For nausea as well I found travel anti sickness bands took the edge off, fizzy water, ginger nuts, chewing gum, rich tea biscuits and really salted ready salted crisps or salt and vinegar crisps. None of it got rid of it but all defo took the edge off, even just for a little while to get some relief
 
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For nausea as well I found travel anti sickness bands took the edge off, fizzy water, ginger nuts, chewing gum, rich tea biscuits and really salted ready salted crisps or salt and vinegar crisps. None of it got rid of it but all defo took the edge off, even just for a little while to get some relief
I'm the same with salt and vinegar crisps, they save me at lunch time! Ginger biscuits make me feel sick which is the opposite effect there supposed to have, probably just me tho!!

Plain rice cakes seem to be helping, when I'm hungry I feel 10x more sick but it's just so hard to find food to enjoy. What a strange time the first trimester is😆
 
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