Pregnancy #47

[WordsFromReuben]

I’m having my second and I feel so less prepared this time around. I’m sure I’d bought all the clothes and everything by now (27weeks) before! This baby is a summer baby and my eldest is a christmas baby so I’m really struggling with what clothes to buy - what do you dress a newborn in at summer?! I don’t want him to be too hot but don’t want him to be cold/uncovered either. Please someone help

I have this problem as due end of July when it can either be a 40° heatwave or cold grey and rainy day depending on what the British summer weather decides I’ve been over thinking what his coming home outfit will be but I’ve been thinking layers! So I’m going to pack options of long sleeve baby gros, short shelve vests for an under layer, light cardigan incase it’s cold and a blanket for layers

I found this chart helpful to know what they should ideally be wearing layer wise

 

[On A Roll]

Does anyone have any tips for morning sickness. Week 4-6 I had nausea but now I’m 6 weeks I can barely stomach the thought of food never mind actually eating anything


I haven’t tried crackers yet but even the thought of them isn’t nice but I’m a bit worried about losing weight. I am taking my folic acid & vitamin d supplement still - had to change to a smaller capsule because the original prenatal I bought you had to take 3 huge tablets which I couldn’t hack

 

[Tifastrife]

Does anyone have any tips for morning sickness. Week 4-6 I had nausea but now I’m 6 weeks I can barely stomach the thought of food never mind actually eating anything


I haven’t tried crackers yet but even the thought of them isn’t nice but I’m a bit worried about losing weight. I am taking my folic acid & vitamin d supplement still - had to change to a smaller capsule because the original prenatal I bought you had to take 3 huge tablets which I couldn’t hack

The only thing that got me through morning sickness was mini cheddars . Also eating as soon as I woke up cos if I left it even fifteen minutes that would set me off for the rest of the day.

Has anyone ever had shin splints during pregnancy? I used to get them pre pregnancy if I didn’t wear supportive shoes while running. I’m assuming it’s all the extra weight and carrying myself differently but it’s so uncomfortable!

 

[IdeletedbutI'mbackagain]

Does anyone have any tips for morning sickness. Week 4-6 I had nausea but now I’m 6 weeks I can barely stomach the thought of food never mind actually eating anything


I haven’t tried crackers yet but even the thought of them isn’t nice but I’m a bit worried about losing weight. I am taking my folic acid & vitamin d supplement still - had to change to a smaller capsule because the original prenatal I bought you had to take 3 huge tablets which I couldn’t hack

Soda water and tonic water, the bubbles helped for some reason!

 

[Ro98]

Urgh, glad it's all okay now. It's AWFUL how rude they can be - and like you say, you are encouraged to call up by your own midwife, then get some arsey, condescending grump bag on on the phone making you feel like a ridiculous drama queen for daring to ring them with (legitimate) concerns. It was exactly the same with my two last time and my waters did break at just before 36 weeks I think I might get my husband to call this time... he's got a thicker skin than I have!!

I can’t imagine treating anyone let alone a heavily pregnant woman in such a condescending manner when it’s a genuine concern about a babies life.
She said “I can’t tell you over the phone what it is” so I replied “yes I know, that’s why I’m calling as I want it checked” at first I thought it was a receptionist but when we got there the same person introduced herself as the midwife.

Thank GOD she didn’t do my speculum check I think I would’ve asked for someone else.
She made me take my knickers & pad off in front of her to then say “your pad is dry” - it wasn’t but my leaking is never at the back always at the top of the pad weirdly, even with periods. Followed by “all doctors are in surgery right now so you’ll be waiting a long time” which was a large lie as a doctor came in 5mins later to explain what she would do/give me time to get undressed in private & was really reassuring.
Already told my partner if she’s put with me when I go into labour we will be asking for a different one.
I’m tempted to contact the hospital about it because that rudeness and rolling of eyes is so dangerous in midwifery.
Was everything ok with your two in the end?? How scary for you!! It’s such a horrible feeling not being believed.
Same here! I just end up crying down the phone but then sometimes my OH will let them fob him off so maybe not

 

[ScoutFinch]

Does anyone have any tips for morning sickness. Week 4-6 I had nausea but now I’m 6 weeks I can barely stomach the thought of food never mind actually eating anything


I haven’t tried crackers yet but even the thought of them isn’t nice but I’m a bit worried about losing weight. I am taking my folic acid & vitamin d supplement still - had to change to a smaller capsule because the original prenatal I bought you had to take 3 huge tablets which I couldn’t hack

Salty crisps and lolly ices helped me. I also found my sickness was worse if I didn’t eat, so tried to snack little and often.

 

[On A Roll]

Soda water and tonic water, the bubbles helped for some reason!

the only thing I want to have is sparkling water!! Hahah luckily I have a soda stream because I’ve been going through so much I wonder what it is about the bubbles

 

[Ro98]

Salty crisps and lolly ices helped me. I also found my sickness was worse if I didn’t eat, so tried to snack little and often.

Second the lollies & ready salted hula hoops. Also chocolate chip biscuits & nibbles of banana, couldn’t stomach whole meals or snacks for ages

 

[IdeletedbutI'mbackagain]

the only thing I want to have is sparkling water!! Hahah luckily I have a soda stream because I’ve been going through so much I wonder what it is about the bubbles

No idea but I was just so glad it helped!!

 

[Pontiac_Bandit]

I can’t imagine treating anyone let alone a heavily pregnant woman in such a condescending manner when it’s a genuine concern about a babies life.
She said “I can’t tell you over the phone what it is” so I replied “yes I know, that’s why I’m calling as I want it checked” at first I thought it was a receptionist but when we got there the same person introduced herself as the midwife.

Thank GOD she didn’t do my speculum check I think I would’ve asked for someone else.
She made me take my knickers & pad off in front of her to then say “your pad is dry” - it wasn’t but my leaking is never at the back always at the top of the pad weirdly, even with periods. Followed by “all doctors are in surgery right now so you’ll be waiting a long time” which was a large lie as a doctor came in 5mins later to explain what she would do/give me time to get undressed in private & was really reassuring.
Already told my partner if she’s put with me when I go into labour we will be asking for a different one.
I’m tempted to contact the hospital about it because that rudeness and rolling of eyes is so dangerous in midwifery.
Was everything ok with your two in the end?? How scary for you!! It’s such a horrible feeling not being believed.
Same here! I just end up crying down the phone but then sometimes my OH will let them fob him off so maybe not

That's so awful - if you've got the energy to then I'd recommend making a complaint because it isn't just her dangerous wrong advice, it's the way she treated you without respect or dignity! Well done for standing your ground and doing what was best for you and baby - I can't believe you had to fight to get checked though when it's always drummed into us to call up and be seen if we're worried!

 

[TheSilverFox]

I can’t imagine treating anyone let alone a heavily pregnant woman in such a condescending manner when it’s a genuine concern about a babies life.
She said “I can’t tell you over the phone what it is” so I replied “yes I know, that’s why I’m calling as I want it checked” at first I thought it was a receptionist but when we got there the same person introduced herself as the midwife.

Thank GOD she didn’t do my speculum check I think I would’ve asked for someone else.
She made me take my knickers & pad off in front of her to then say “your pad is dry” - it wasn’t but my leaking is never at the back always at the top of the pad weirdly, even with periods. Followed by “all doctors are in surgery right now so you’ll be waiting a long time” which was a large lie as a doctor came in 5mins later to explain what she would do/give me time to get undressed in private & was really reassuring.
Already told my partner if she’s put with me when I go into labour we will be asking for a different one.
I’m tempted to contact the hospital about it because that rudeness and rolling of eyes is so dangerous in midwifery.
Was everything ok with your two in the end?? How scary for you!! It’s such a horrible feeling not being believed.
Same here! I just end up crying down the phone but then sometimes my OH will let them fob him off so maybe not

Rude, dismissive, rolling eyes, not allowing you to keep your dignity by making you take your pants off in front of her It's outrageous! And you're right, it's dangerous too. It puts me off going back in when they behave like this. I don't get why you'd go into a profession like that then act so superior and unkind. I wanted to complain last time but then I got too scared they would treat me even worse It's like they forget they are dealing with human beings. Everything was okay with my babies thankfully but I am not sure what I'll do if I get the same midwife again this time!!! I really really hope she's long gone !!! They ignored/dismissed me and my pain (both times) then afterwards kept saying things like, 'Ahh, you know your own body don't you! You kept saying you were further along than we thought!' No tit sherlock, and you treated me like I was a hysterical person complaining about something and nothing

 

[FatherJackHackett]

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Rude, dismissive, rolling eyes, not allowing you to keep your dignity by making you take your pants off in front of her It's outrageous! And you're right, it's dangerous too. It puts me off going back in when they behave like this. I don't get why you'd go into a profession like that then act so superior and unkind. I wanted to complain last time but then I got too scared they would treat me even worse It's like they forget they are dealing with human beings. Everything was okay with my babies thankfully but I am not sure what I'll do if I get the same midwife again this time!!! I really really hope she's long gone !!! They ignored/dismissed me and my pain (both times) then afterwards kept saying things like, 'Ahh, you know your own body don't you! You kept saying you were further along than we thought!' No tit sherlock, and you treated me like I was a hysterical person complaining about something and nothing

With my first I was told I probably needed to go to the toilet when I buzzed them and said I felt like i had to push literally sat arguing with her for ten minutes about how I knew the difference between needing a number 2 and a baby coming out of me before she even bothered herself to look then sent me straight down to labour ward and baby born 30 minutes later the majority of midwives are excellent but there are some that just treat you like a stupid, hysterical inconvenience.

 

[TheSilverFox]

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With my first I was told I probably needed to go to the toilet when I buzzed them and said I felt like i had to push literally sat arguing with her for ten minutes about how I knew the difference between needing a number 2 and a baby coming out of me before she even bothered herself to look then sent me straight down to labour ward and baby born 30 minutes later the majority of midwives are excellent but there are some that just treat you like a stupid, hysterical inconvenience.

This is so similar to me - I was determined it wouldn't happen a second time and if anything that midwife was even more condescending, despite the fact that I explained how quickly my first birth was and I was worried I wouldn't be taken seriously

The thing I don't get is how on earth when it's THEIR JOB that that they literally do all day long some can't tell the difference between a woman who needs a poo and a woman who is fully dilated and about to give birth?!?! Or a woman in the early stages of labour and has 'a low pain threshold, you'll definitely need an epidural later on' (not my words ) and a woman who is 2 minutes away from meeting their baby?!

 

[WeHadFunRight]

This is so similar to me - I was determined it wouldn't happen a second time and if anything that midwife was even more condescending, despite the fact that I explained how quickly my first birth was and I was worried I wouldn't be taken seriously

The thing I don't get is how on earth when it's THEIR JOB that that they literally do all day long some can't tell the difference between a woman who needs a poo and a woman who is fully dilated and about to give birth?!?! Or a woman in the early stages of labour and has 'a low pain threshold, you'll definitely need an epidural later on' (not my words ) and a woman who is 2 minutes away from meeting their baby?!

Two bits in bold are a good summary of my birth story I nearly had MiniFun on the toilet - they’d begged me to get an epidural because they thought I was still 2 hours away from giving birth, so I said okay - then by the time the anaesthetist had come I’d asked to go to the loo and the MW suddenly realised I was actually trying to push (I actually didn’t know I was pushing though I though I needed the loo ) - 5 minutes later = baby

 

[Ro98]

That's so awful - if you've got the energy to then I'd recommend making a complaint because it isn't just her dangerous wrong advice, it's the way she treated you without respect or dignity! Well done for standing your ground and doing what was best for you and baby - I can't believe you had to fight to get checked though when it's always drummed into us to call up and be seen if we're worried!

I am really tempted to, I’ve never complained about any care in hospitals / doctors surgeries that I’ve received over the years so this really took me by surprise. I don’t mind someone being straight faced / to the point but it was the way she spoke. And I haven’t taken it personally because no doubt she’s the same with everyone!
I’m going to send an email stating what happened & ask if I can put on my notes that I don’t want X midwife during Labour or afterwards, I only know her first name though so do I ask for surname? Although I’m going to try & find a picture of her online today as the hospital I’m at do a lot of social media.

 

[Pontiac_Bandit]

I am really tempted to, I’ve never complained about any care in hospitals / doctors surgeries that I’ve received over the years so this really took me by surprise. I don’t mind someone being straight faced / to the point but it was the way she spoke. And I haven’t taken it personally because no doubt she’s the same with everyone!
I’m going to send an email stating what happened & ask if I can put on my notes that I don’t want X midwife during Labour or afterwards, I only know her first name though so do I ask for surname? Although I’m going to try & find a picture of her online today as the hospital I’m at do a lot of social media.

It might be worth putting in the email that you're considering making a formal complaint due to the way she dealt with the situation - hopefully that'll make them sit up and take you seriously about your request not to have her again, and it might make them preemptively manage the situation in case the complaint comes in!

 

[Burrito88]

I’m 8+2 and feeling so bloated at the top of my abdomen Everything feels tight and although I’ve had a few more snacks to combat nausea but I’m not eating that much more?
I’m hoping it’s just hormone related and will calm down soon

 

[Cjh78]

Quick question….When did you ladies feel baby’s first movements?
I’m 15 weeks and have just sat down after a manic day and I’m so sure I can feel some movement. This is my second baby and I just can’t remember when it started last time so I’m wondering if it’s baby…or wind?

 

[WhatABore]

Quick question….When did you ladies feel baby’s first movements?
I’m 15 weeks and have just sat down after a manic day and I’m so sure I can feel some movement. This is my second baby and I just can’t remember when it started last time so I’m wondering if it’s baby…or wind?

First was 17 weeks, second about 15 and 3rd wasn't until 18 weeks

 

[Kaylarina]

Quick question….When did you ladies feel baby’s first movements?
I’m 15 weeks and have just sat down after a manic day and I’m so sure I can feel some movement. This is my second baby and I just can’t remember when it started last time so I’m wondering if it’s baby…or wind?

It seems like so long ago but I'm pretty sure I felt it earlier wit this one (my second). I think around 15/16 weeks too