Pregnancy #47

[WhatABore]

Hi all. I've just found out I'm pregnant. I am absolutely terrified of labour. I'm only around 4 weeks so long road ahead of me but the thought of labour is really worrying me! (which I guess is absolutely normal but the fear completely consumes me, hence why it has took me and my partner of 11 years until our 30's to try)
I'm 31 and we have fell in our first month trying so it's been a shock and I'm feeling extremely lucky. Will be ringing the gp on Monday and I know after speaking to a midwife it may help with my worries.

I used to have a massive fear of labour.
Right from being a child, I'd lay awake panicking about it as a teenager!

If you have any questions, I'll gladly be of assistance!
My first was unplanned but those thoughts did slowly go away to a more normal level.
I've now got 3

 

[IdeletedbutI'mbackagain]

Hi all. I've just found out I'm pregnant. I am absolutely terrified of labour. I'm only around 4 weeks so long road ahead of me but the thought of labour is really worrying me! (which I guess is absolutely normal but the fear completely consumes me, hence why it has took me and my partner of 11 years until our 30's to try)
I'm 31 and we have fell in our first month trying so it's been a shock and I'm feeling extremely lucky. Will be ringing the gp on Monday and I know after speaking to a midwife it may help with my worries.

If you have anxiety about labour I would recommend doing a hypnobirthing course rather than just the standard antenatal courses. It's goal is removing fear and empowering you while in labour no matter what happens
There are lots of online ones you can do or your maternity unit may run one you can avail of.

 

[TheSilverFox]

I’m almost 31 weeks and my feet and ankles have suddenly really swollen up today, my feet are also a bit patchy - almost blue in places and then white in others. Is this normal? Google isn’t helping!

I spend a lot of time on my feet and active and my legs and feet are swollen every day (quite noticeably by the end of the day). I'm almost 30 weeks now. If it's come out of the blue you could let your midwife know and at least it'll be logged incase it's a sign of anything else? Blood clots would just cause one side to swell up normally (I think?) and I think my midwife said they'd feel hot to touch as well? Swelling in pregnancy has been totally normal for me x

 

[fudgebox]

Hi all. I've just found out I'm pregnant. I am absolutely terrified of labour. I'm only around 4 weeks so long road ahead of me but the thought of labour is really worrying me! (which I guess is absolutely normal but the fear completely consumes me, hence why it has took me and my partner of 11 years until our 30's to try)
I'm 31 and we have fell in our first month trying so it's been a shock and I'm feeling extremely lucky. Will be ringing the gp on Monday and I know after speaking to a midwife it may help with my worries.

Congratulations! I’m 4 weeks tomorrow so date twins! I’m also scared of labour the only thing I keep thinking is if it was really that bad people wouldn’t have more than one child!

 

[Tifastrife]

Welcome to the world baby wotsit! @WotsitG1.

I’ve been feeling a bit iffy the last few days and every little twinge or feeling I’m like is this it? Is it happening!?

 

[Ro98]

Hi all. I've just found out I'm pregnant. I am absolutely terrified of labour. I'm only around 4 weeks so long road ahead of me but the thought of labour is really worrying me! (which I guess is absolutely normal but the fear completely consumes me, hence why it has took me and my partner of 11 years until our 30's to try)
I'm 31 and we have fell in our first month trying so it's been a shock and I'm feeling extremely lucky. Will be ringing the gp on Monday and I know after speaking to a midwife it may help with my worries.

Congratulations & welcome!
I have been the exact same as you, and don’t do what I did & leave it until 34weeks to tell (cry my eyes out!) at my midwife about how scared I am.
Your hospital may do some courses in person now / online surrounding birth fear and anxiety. I have one on Tuesday and really hope it helps.

Hypnobirthing has also been a godsend for explaining what happens to the body at different points & what is helpful to do at certain points (when to move, when to relax, when to snack etc). They also have some amazing breathing techniques which I’ve used during pregnancy when feeling overwhelmed. I hope you get some reassurance from your midwife & other ladies on here

 

[hahaha62]

Thank you all for your kind comments on my feelings movement question. Being impatient is defo a personality trait Pretty sure I could feel baby when I was lying bed last night so hopefully it will come more regularly soon xxx

 

[Pontiac_Bandit]

Is it normal for movements to ramp up? I'm 26 weeks and the last couple of days her movements have gone from the odd tap type of kick to feeling like I've got a load of snakes in my tummy I'm guessing she's just getting bigger so I'm feeling more of her movements?

I think they say that movements will increase until about 32 weeks when they'll stay at a similar level until birth. My midwife said that any change in pattern (not just a reduction in movements) is something worth getting checked out though, so it might be worth contacting your maternity team just to check it's normal

 

[Nosysamsie]

Am I being silly not wanting to venture too far away from the hospital I'm due to give birth in at 38 weeks?
My in laws are having an Easter party next week & want us to go, but it's an hour away on a good day from the hospital but half the journey has no phone signal because its over the moors.
Feel bad saying no, but again feel unreasonable because my family are 10 mins from the hospital so I visit them still.
I mean we'd take the bags and car seat with us and make sure my notes are in the car, but to me it still seems quite a distance

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Am I being silly not wanting to venture too far away from the hospital I'm due to give birth in at 38 weeks?
My in laws are having an Easter party next week & want us to go, but it's an hour away on a good day from the hospital but half the journey has no phone signal because its over the moors.
Feel bad saying no, but again feel unreasonable because my family are 10 mins from the hospital so I visit them still.
I mean we'd take the bags and car with us and make sure my notes are in the car, but to me it still seems quite a distance

You’re not being silly, it’s just about making yourself feel safe and comfortable. My parents are 1.5hrs away and my dad stopped me coming down about a month or so before I was due as he said there was no point risking it. If they’re reasonable they should understand.

have just read the bit about no signal and moors - I am totally with you, don’t go. There’ll be other parties! Maybe they could visit you in the meantime if you’re not able to travel?

 

[Nosysamsie]

You’re not being silly, it’s just about making yourself feel safe and comfortable. My parents are 1.5hrs away and my dad stopped me coming down about a month or so before I was due as he said there was no point risking it. If they’re reasonable they should understand.

have just read the bit about no signal and moors - I am totally with you, don’t go. There’ll be other parties! Maybe they could visit you in the meantime if you’re not able to travel?

Thanks. I think I just end up over thinking it. I want to do what's best for myself and hubby, without letting others down.
And, tbh, they've been at ours practically every weekend for the last few months, so I've actually been looking forward to some time with just the hubby before our arrival, especially now I'm on maternity leave.
Think sometimes I just like to ask like minded people what they think, without judgement

 

[Tifastrife]

I’ve just sat and listened to my MIL downstairs berate and ag off my desire to have a section over being induced. I’m shaking with rage right now. I was going to go down and offer her coffee but I’m just going to ducking stay in bed until she leaves now. Honestly, feel like I could strangle her.

 

[IdeletedbutI'mbackagain]

I’ve just sat and listened to my MIL downstairs berate and ag off my desire to have a section over being induced. I’m shaking with rage right now. I was going to go down and offer her coffee but I’m just going to ducking stay in bed until she leaves now. Honestly, feel like I could strangle her.

Who ever it is she is talking to needs to put her back in her box.

 

[themuffinwoman]

Hi all. I've just found out I'm pregnant. I am absolutely terrified of labour. I'm only around 4 weeks so long road ahead of me but the thought of labour is really worrying me! (which I guess is absolutely normal but the fear completely consumes me, hence why it has took me and my partner of 11 years until our 30's to try)
I'm 31 and we have fell in our first month trying so it's been a shock and I'm feeling extremely lucky. Will be ringing the gp on Monday and I know after speaking to a midwife it may help with my worries.

Congratulations! I’m currently in the latent stage of labour so can’t really comment (other than it taking longer than I imagined it’s ok so far ). I was also terrified and still am nervous, but what I will say is just do whatever you can to reassure yourself and do not fear judgement. Want to speak to the midwife or a professional? Do it. Want all the painkillers in the world? Do it. Reassured by biology? Read up on it. Think breathing techniques will help? Do it. Or not? Don’t.
Also make sure your birthing partner is someone who can advocate everything you want and is aware of your feelings. Mine is my mum, and my husband kindly reminded me yesterday why he would NOT be a good birth partner when he said “don’t cry, she’s got to come out somehow”

 

[Ro98]

I’ve just sat and listened to my MIL downstairs berate and ag off my desire to have a section over being induced. I’m shaking with rage right now. I was going to go down and offer her coffee but I’m just going to ducking stay in bed until she leaves now. Honestly, feel like I could strangle her.

Jesus what is wrong with people, especially family/in laws! Definitely stay in bed or I’d go down, make a drink & ignore her with some headphones in. What a witch!! It’s no one else’s but your decision to make. I hope whoever she’s slagging you off to has told her to shut her mouth

 

[sazzles88]

Am I being silly not wanting to venture too far away from the hospital I'm due to give birth in at 38 weeks?
My in laws are having an Easter party next week & want us to go, but it's an hour away on a good day from the hospital but half the journey has no phone signal because its over the moors.
Feel bad saying no, but again feel unreasonable because my family are 10 mins from the hospital so I visit them still.
I mean we'd take the bags and car seat with us and make sure my notes are in the car, but to me it still seems quite a distance

I was 28 weeks when we went into lockdown so I didn't have the opportunity to travel, but gave birth at 37 weeks. So absolutely right to be cautious and not want to travel too far later on in pregnancy.

That being said some friends are an hour away from their choosen hospital and some who have been away when they have given birth!

It is totally up to how you feel, you are the one having the baby! If it's your in laws let your partner deal with it if they aren't happy that you don't want to go.

 

[Nosysamsie]

I’ve just sat and listened to my MIL downstairs berate and ag off my desire to have a section over being induced. I’m shaking with rage right now. I was going to go down and offer her coffee but I’m just going to ducking stay in bed until she leaves now. Honestly, feel like I could strangle her.

This is exactly the conversation I've just had with my hubby!
My MIL came to pick something up from ours just now and stayed for a brew. In that time she wanted to know my whole birth plan, hospital appointments, feeding plan and to tell me she'll be popping over during the week when hubby is back at work so I can have a bath and stuff.
I just don't understand why people feel the need to know and have an opinion on birthing. And it's never a good opinion.
Instead of telling our plans for birth now our answer is safe and however it happens. Noone can argue that. And for the whole "just gonna come round" I've said I have to get used to looking after a baby alone as well as with hubby.
Stay upstairs and when she's gone whoever she was speaking to needs to know it's up to them to tell her that it's your birth and your birth plan and it doesn't matter how baby comes into the world as long as its safely and baby is healthy

 

[Burrito88]

BMI over 30 here - does anyone know where I can buy 5mg tablets of folic acid? I can only see the 400μg ones on Amazon and don’t fancy taking 10 per day 🫠
I have my booking appointment on Tuesday so the midwife might tell me then.

 

[WhatABore]

BMI over 30 here - does anyone know where I can buy 5mg tablets of folic acid? I can only see the 400μg ones on Amazon and don’t fancy taking 10 per day 🫠
I have my booking appointment on Tuesday so the midwife might tell me then.

Your midwife can prescribe them for you. I think that's the only way.

I've never been told to take higher dose though even though I know it's suggested and my bmi for all pregnancies were very high

 

[Pontiac_Bandit]

BMI over 30 here - does anyone know where I can buy 5mg tablets of folic acid? I can only see the 400μg ones on Amazon and don’t fancy taking 10 per day 🫠
I have my booking appointment on Tuesday so the midwife might tell me then.

I contacted my GP and they prescribed them for me I was taking 10 a day until the prescription was ready though haha!