..How to deal with family
In my head my plan has always been:
- Not telling anyone when I go into labour, I only want that time between me and my husband and no one bothering us and no one asking for updates. Only letting people know when he’s born.
- No one visits us and baby until I/We feel ready, which is hard to know when that would be. First baby so our whole routine is going to change a lot and I don’t know what healing time in peace I’m going to want! But I doubt I’ll be ready after a few days..
My mum has had 2 people close to her pass away over the last month so she’s not been doing great and I’m being told by her and my dad that her being able to hold a newborn in the first few days would cheer her up.. and she’s also telling me she wants to know when I go into labour..
I feel awful for her losses but it shouldn’t be a thing made to make me feel like I’m going to upset her if she doesn’t get what she wants!! She also works at the hospital where we’re having baby so I’m dreading her wanting to come and visit right after he’s born too
She’s said she felt robbed of not being able to meet her other grandchildren a few days just after they were born (rightfully so though!!) and wants this one to be different..
I mean it is tough.. I’m pretty set on those things but I feel so awful that I’m going to probably upset her. Anyone have family that’s been like this and been able to make them understand?