You have a right to attend appointments so they canāt stop you doing that or refuse to give you time off. But if you want to bring your leave forward, and feel itās the right thing to do for you and baby, do it.Me moaning again
Just want your opinions, so Iām due 2nd March and meant to be going on mat leave 17th Feb but feels so far away, Iām having quite a few appointments now because of the bloody diabetes tests, additional growth scans, midwife appointments and I thought my work would be flexible but Iāve got a covering manager now who is just trying to prove a point and wants everyone in the office 3 times a week and 2 days at home, and itās typical my appointments seem to always be on the days Iām meant to be in the office so I have to go in after or make it up another day and Iām just exhausted from it all. My work, midwives and my house are in 3 opposite directions so lots of driving/catching busesā¦ I havenāt been in this week at all off sick and I feel anxious having to work tomorrow and telling him about the diabetes appointment next weekā¦ Basically I just wanna bring my maternity leave forward a week
do you agree?
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Iād definitely leave earlier. Iām starting at 31wks because my bosses canāt understand not every pregnancy is easy & that my job is physically demanding unlike theirs.Me moaning again
Just want your opinions, so Iām due 2nd March and meant to be going on mat leave 17th Feb but feels so far away, Iām having quite a few appointments now because of the bloody diabetes tests, additional growth scans, midwife appointments and I thought my work would be flexible but Iāve got a covering manager now who is just trying to prove a point and wants everyone in the office 3 times a week and 2 days at home, and itās typical my appointments seem to always be on the days Iām meant to be in the office so I have to go in after or make it up another day and Iām just exhausted from it all. My work, midwives and my house are in 3 opposite directions so lots of driving/catching busesā¦ I havenāt been in this week at all off sick and I feel anxious having to work tomorrow and telling him about the diabetes appointment next weekā¦ Basically I just wanna bring my maternity leave forward a week
do you agree?
Theyāre also being a pain like yours is about appointments, but 100% he is not allowed to force you into āmaking time upā - attach the government website where it states it and CC in HR explaining that moving forward you wonāt be forced into owing them hours back.
These bosses take the bleeping piss !
Look after yourself, bring it forward & treat yourself in those last few weeks you wonāt regret it xx
Theyāre not allowed to ask you to make the time up for appointments, itās the law. I didnāt realise this until Iād had 1 or 2 apts before anyone knew, then my colleague told me and I confirmed it with HR. My work just ask thatās it at the start or end of the day - but they get sent through to me so I donāt have a choice! The only ones I have a say in are my midwife apts and I try and get early morning if poss but itās not always feasible. You should Google it and send it to them. Especially at such a late stage when youāre having so many appointments, youād end up needing to work a whole weekend day
Has anyone had a pregnancy massage before? We're booking a weekend away to celebrate my mat leave/do a mini-babymoon (despite having already done one in September... lol) and the spa does a pregnancy massage, which also gives us half a day access to the heated pool and other facilities (obviously wouldn't be using the sauna or the steam room, but the heated pool isn't going to be that hot is it?). Just wondering how they work, I've only ever had one massage before lol
Yes Iāve had one in each of my two pregnancies! I think they make sure to use pregnancy safe essential oils and you lie on your side with a towel to protect your modesty, as obviously you canāt lie on your front! My first pregnancy massage I think the lady just did whatever their standard pregnancy massage was, my second one was at a different spa and the lady asked me if I wanted feet, legs, face etc., and asked about the level of pressure/firmness I wanted too!
Yes I had one I was about 22 weeks I think. I laid on my side then she did my back then turned me over to the other side-it was really nice, they canāt apply much pressure at all but I felt really good afterwards! Iām sure the pool will be fine too, as long as youāre careful getting out and if you start to feel like youāre getting super hot then get out! Some of the guidelines just feel like theyāre common sense because some people just donāt have any of that 
I had a massage when I was about 18 weeks pregnant, they wouldn't let me lie on my front and said I would have to lie on my side (which didn't sound super comfortable) but when I got there the masseuse said I could sit up on the bed propped up with pillows for support and I got 5 minutes or so at the end lying on my back. It was really nice and relaxing, although lying on my front would have been nicer. It was a back massage adjusted for pregnancy though so might be a different experience to a specific pregnancy massage.
Most heated pools are around 30-32 degrees. Which is fine.
Thought so - if it's anything like our hydro pool at work (it's actually called a hydro pool as well) then it'll just be that lovely warm temp rather than too hot. Got a hot tub in the lodge too so I can dip my feet in whilst OH sits! Even if I have to sit there with an umbrella and dip my feet in the pouring rain I shall do that XD OH is mildly peeved as my NHS discount has been eaten up by enhanced cancellation cover - but as I'll be 33 weeks at the time I don't feel we can risk it!
I would not
this is the government website link:
www.gov.uk
Your employer should Have a passed out policy around your rights as an employee during pregnancy - if you have an employee handbook it will be in there.
I would not give in like that, not to go all Mumsnet but they are being v unreasonable. Do you have a decent HR department? F*ck them man.Me moaning again
Just want your opinions, so Iām due 2nd March and meant to be going on mat leave 17th Feb but feels so far away, Iām having quite a few appointments now because of the bloody diabetes tests, additional growth scans, midwife appointments and I thought my work would be flexible but Iāve got a covering manager now who is just trying to prove a point and wants everyone in the office 3 times a week and 2 days at home, and itās typical my appointments seem to always be on the days Iām meant to be in the office so I have to go in after or make it up another day and Iām just exhausted from it all. My work, midwives and my house are in 3 opposite directions so lots of driving/catching busesā¦ I havenāt been in this week at all off sick and I feel anxious having to work tomorrow and telling him about the diabetes appointment next weekā¦ Basically I just wanna bring my maternity leave forward a week
do you agree?
this is the government website link:
Pregnant employees' rights
Legal rights for pregnant employees - including paid time off for antenatal appointments, maternity leave and pay, protection against discrimination and telling the employer about the pregnancy.
Your employer should Have a passed out policy around your rights as an employee during pregnancy - if you have an employee handbook it will be in there.
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Sorry Iāve not caught up on the thread but I have GD and my growth scan yesterday baby was 8lbs1 so 64th centile. I am managing my GD through diet and no other health risks and the consultant still wanted me to be induced at 40 weeks. I really had to fight my corner and sheās booked my induction for 41+3 days as thatās the latest they would let me. She was pushing for 40+6 but luckily I had a talk with my midwife the day before who reassured me.Had a 32 week growth scan today, after having 2 diabetes tests and both coming back normal, they want me to do another oneBabyās tummy measured back in the top end of normal, last time it was off the scale so least thatās good but URGHH I hate them diabetes tests, if my midwife canāt fit me in then I gotta check my blood sugars for 5 days then me and the doctor will have a regroup regarding potentially having a c-section/being induced due to babyās weightā¦ canāt I just have a chubby baby, the diabetes tests take so long !!!!!
Donāt let being ālarge for datesā or potential GD push you into a decision you donāt want x
edited to add Iām 39+4 weeks
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Iām also starting to stress about maternity leave and Iām only 19 weeks! Iām hoping to work up until my due date (or until I go into labour if I go early) as I only get four weeks full pay and I canāt afford for that to be up before baby is even here.
But Iām already starting to struggle with work and feeling so tired so I canāt imagine how Iām gonna feel 19 weeks down the line when itās hotter, Iām massive and still having to haul my ass to work
But Iām already starting to struggle with work and feeling so tired so I canāt imagine how Iām gonna feel 19 weeks down the line when itās hotter, Iām massive and still having to haul my ass to work
I feel your pain. I got maybe 3 hours sleep in small chunks. I think I've actually forgotten how to fall asleep, I have a sore throat and every time I'm on the verge of sleep my body goes 'NO you can't breathe' and wakes me up
Got the antenatal clinic today so might ask if they have a magic pill to knock me out as well as sort out my massive feet/ankles!
I literally could have written this myself. I'm one hour into my 12 hour shift and I feel ready to pass out!
Does anyone ever feel weird after eating? Like tingly almost? Iāve got diabetes test tomorrow, but worried thatās whatās causing it.
This is useful. My Managers being not so nice since I said I was pregnant. She insists that I swap my days over if I have an appointment. Even next week when I asked to pop out for 10 minutes for the 2nd blood test for diabetes (our hospital is literally Round the corner) she said no and insisted I took the day as holiday. Though her and assistant manager regularly book hair dresssr apps/opticians in working time.I would not
I would not give in like that, not to go all Mumsnet but they are being v unreasonable. Do you have a decent HR department? F*ck them man.
this is the government website link:
Pregnant employees' rights
Legal rights for pregnant employees - including paid time off for antenatal appointments, maternity leave and pay, protection against discrimination and telling the employer about the pregnancy.
Your employer should Have a passed out policy around your rights as an employee during pregnancy - if you have an employee handbook it will be in there.
She was really miffed she had to do a risk assessment for the other day and basically just ticked no risk to everything. Her comments about it wereā¦ regarding lone working ( I work alone in the shop a day a week) her comment was that itās fine as if something happens my husband would get concerned eventually. Another question about working in small spaces, her comment was āyour not that fat yetā. She also told me the other day that I need to announce my pregnancy to everyone soon as she didnāt want people thinking āI was just this thickā. Because I made the silliest mistake. She then went on a announced for me on a staff WhatsApp group.
I feel abit stuck as I emailed HR about a concerned and they copied her in and since then sheās been worse with me.
They already know my replacement and she keeps telling me how excited she is for her to start even ājokingā the other day that I go a month earlier.
Anyway Moan over!
How often are you eating? Are you letting your blood sugar go too low? Thatās how I feel when Iāve not eaten enough and itās hypoglycaemia.
I've got my GTT tomorrow. I'm so nervous because I've such a strong family history of diabetes (both parents, my sister & my brother is prediabetic). I've eaten well throughout pregnancy where I can & I've lost some weight due to vomitting plenty. I try avoid eating loads of sugar but today's my birthday & I will be eating cake
Youāre being poorly managed and unfairly treated. I donāt know how big your HR is but can you talk to someone above the person who copied her in? It sounds a bit like youāre being bullied tbh. A phone call or a face to face meeting maybe? Does your manager have a manager and do you get on with them?
Everyoneās posts about how horrible their employers are when theyāre pregnant makes me really unhappy - Iāve been really lucky but I donāt think itās about luck I think itās about following the bloody legislation and treating you like a human being (who is growing another human being and all that entails). All youāre trying to do is have a safe pregnancy, thatās what antenatal appointments and risk assessments are for
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