I went to Nct classes with my first. We met up for the first year and then most of the couples moved away and now it feels like a polite hello on SM every now and then. We all had such different births, mine being the most straight forward, and comments were made about it and how I didn't have to go on antidepressants afterwards. I felt like they pushed me out because I didn't have that in common with them. A few comments were made for me to feel this way which I won't say on here, it wasn't just me randomly feeling sensitive.
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Ahh that sucks, such a shame people make you feel like that it's not your fault you had a good birth experience! Well we are all here for a matter no birth experience judgement here!!! Xx
I think when you have you first it is honestly just trial and error.
When our first was born, I remember my husband doing a mad dash out a few days later to buy all the things we hadn't really considered like a nappy bin for upstairs, a breastfeeding support pillow, breast pads.
I think if you just start with the basics like someone else has said with a list of what you will use every day, then once baby is here you work out what else you might need. We bought a Moses basket for downstairs and yet never used it because she hated it. We bought once of those fancy baby baths but it was an actual ball ache to use and we ended up with one of those sponge type things that go in the bath.
I'd say see if you can borrow a sling from a sling library before you commit to buying.
Basically, I would just go with the basics like car seat, buggy, crib and then all your clothes etc and then see if you feel you need the rest once baby is here.
That’s really crappy, I’m sorry. it’s so dependent on the group you get and the experiences you have. Birth and child rearing can be such a sensitive issue and people can push their own insecurities on others. I’m lucky to have a few close friends who have small babies, I hope our group gets on but if we don’t I won’t be losing sleep.
They made me feel so crappy that It worked out OK in the end!
My 2 cousins also did the classes and they have a fab group of friends so just shows it really is pot luck!
I love this thread
Yeah my first antenatal classes a WhatsApp group was set up but none of us really spoke at all, we were all so different so as soon as the births were announced one by one we slowly came outThey made me feel so crappy that It worked out OK in the end!
My 2 cousins also did the classes and they have a fab group of friends so just shows it really is pot luck!
I love this thread
but I've met some really good friends through the mush app! XI was so lucky to find an amazing group of friends through a baby group. We all have very similar views on child rearing which definitely helps. We’ve been friends almost 8yrs now and still speak almost every day via messenger.
I’m hoping to get some mom friends, I only have a couple of friends and that’s through work and my closest friend from uni lives a couple of hours away. It’d be nice to find similar people to talk to. A problem for me is that I have anxiety and I always feel like a burden socialising with people. I convince myself they probably don’t actually want to hang out and I cancel plans. I’ve lost a lot of friends that way. Need to lose that when I have baby and try and put myself out there a bit.
Hopefully the world is Abit more normal when little one arrives, then if you start going to baby groups I'm sure you'll meet some friends it's a great place to meet people and for the babies similar ages to interact, don't push yourself just do what your comfortable doing and I'm sure you'll be great
xI'm really similar (although lucky that I have a few close mates having babies around the same time as me, but we don't meet up that much). I want to try and make new mum friends too, but have similar issues with making friends. I never make the first move like suggesting coffee as I always think people will make a face or think it's a ludicrous suggestion, and I somehow always miss out on new friendship groups forming, this has happened at gyms etc in the past. But once I have baby I will force myself to make more effort, not just for me but I also want to set a good example to my child.
I made a friend once at the nail salon because I figured out she lived near to me very random but sometimes you have to be a bit forward and just talk
It’s good if you can get a few people and then can issue general invites like “we are going to the park at 2pm if anyone is free” that was there is no pressure on anyone. I still do this with my friends, and sometimes they can come along, sometimes we end up going alone, but I have quite a bit of friendship/social anxiety and have found that a general invite to something I am already doing makes it easier for me.
I feel this way and have come to the conclusion that the majority of people are too! Covid hasn’t really helped either TBH. I’ve been trying to get better at it since we moved to a new city earlier this year but it still makes me a bit anxious - never been turned down yet which is good
I downloaded the Peanut app to see if there was anyone in my area around a similar stage in pregnancy but it does feel a bit like an awkward dating app - especially since it’s a bit weird to meet up with a stranger for a walk at the moment. Hopefully it’ll be a little bit easier in the summer!we also just signed up to NCT eventually - for some reason all the classes in my area were fully booked last week already?! But have managed to squeeze onto the nearest one as someone dropped out - wasn’t massively keen to do the one 5 miles away in a different suburb given the whole point of it is to make parent friends!
Also, have any of you had round ligament pain? what does it feel like? I’m 15 weeks today and getting kind of cramping down one side but it doesn’t actually hurt that much.
Not sure if it's round ligament pain but my vagina area feels like it's been kicked by a horse in the eveningsI feel this way and have come to the conclusion that the majority of people are too! Covid hasn’t really helped either TBH. I’ve been trying to get better at it since we moved to a new city earlier this year but it still makes me a bit anxious - never been turned down yet which is good
we also just signed up to NCT eventually - for some reason all the classes in my area were fully booked last week already?! But have managed to squeeze onto the nearest one as someone dropped out - wasn’t massively keen to do the one 5 miles away in a different suburb given the whole point of it is to make parent friends!
Also, have any of you had round ligament pain? what does it feel like? I’m 15 weeks today and getting kind of cramping down one side but it doesn’t actually hurt that much.
I don’t actually know what NCT is, I need to look into that.I feel this way and have come to the conclusion that the majority of people are too! Covid hasn’t really helped either TBH. I’ve been trying to get better at it since we moved to a new city earlier this year but it still makes me a bit anxious - never been turned down yet which is good
we also just signed up to NCT eventually - for some reason all the classes in my area were fully booked last week already?! But have managed to squeeze onto the nearest one as someone dropped out - wasn’t massively keen to do the one 5 miles away in a different suburb given the whole point of it is to make parent friends!
Also, have any of you had round ligament pain? what does it feel like? I’m 15 weeks today and getting kind of cramping down one side but it doesn’t actually hurt that much.
I’ve had some round ligament pain. For me it’s a sharper pain when I stand up quickly / sneeze. (Also had it a bit just while sitting.) sharper pain more than actual cramping for me.
This sounds grim but does it feel like your bone down there is hurting if no could be what I have pelvic pain xxNot sure if it's round ligament pain but my vagina area feels like it's been kicked by a horse in the evenings
It feels like it's in my top thigh and pelvic area like really bruised and achey, doesn't hurt all day just in the evenings if I've been say down for a while, was tempted to get the exercise ball down from the loft but not sure if I can use it as I'm only 20 weeks
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I received my NHS email with my first midwife appointment which is next week over the phone, 
. Yay glad to get the ball rolling.
. Yay glad to get the ball rolling.If this is what I have I am struggling to walk and stand up it’s basically spd it’s called google it I feel like I’ve been whacked in my bits in the bone it also aches and feels bruised apparently I’ll have it until I give birth the doctor advised me ive been referred to physio xIt feels like it's in my top thigh and pelvic area like really bruised and achey, doesn't hurt all day just in the evenings if I've been say down for a while, was tempted to get the exercise ball down from the loft but not sure if I can use it as I'm only 20 weeks
That is good news everything seems to take ages so if good once you receive a letter or call xI received my NHS email with my first midwife appointment which is next week over the phone,
Oh christ that sounds horrible, how many weeks are you again sorry (memory is crap I can't keep up) when did you start to get it? Xx
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