My parents got the BMI letter about me when I was at school, bless them, they were mortified. We didn't have much money and most meals were cheap, processed, crap, but they did the best they could, and they actually listened and accepted the advice and help that was offered. Her attitude like with the HV a while back is really odd, they aren't 'judging' children or marking someone as a parent are they, it's to see if they need any support. And I never caught wind of the BMI thing, my parents handled it very sensitively, and I have a really good relationship with food now. If they had dismissed it as she likely will by her past attitude to stuff, it would be a real shame