My son is 15 and has had a girlfriend for 7 months... I swear I treat her better than R treats those boys. We text regularly, I make sure she's OK for money to buy something to wear to a party, etc. The only thing I'm afraid of is getting too close to her, because I know eventually they'll break up. But if you want to show someone love, you can... As you said, you make an effort! She just seems to treat them as staff.She bangs on about being a rainbow blended family or whatever she calls it - that poor boy is not treated as a part of HER family! She doesn’t force any of HER children to give her foot rubs, or film them picking their first spot, or paint them as the odd one out.
My husband has two children. It is not easy to learn to love a child that is not biologically yours (maybe for some people it is, but on the whole I don’t believe it is how we are designed, it takes work and effort and time). I don’t go on about how amazing I am, how selfless I am and how perfect it all is because it’s not all of the time. I go to great effort to make sure they feel included and will do so even more when we have our own child. Rachel seems to get a weird kick out of singling Seb out and making him feel uncomfortable.
I would never in a million years force my husband to rub my feet if he wasn’t in the mood, let alone a child and much less a step child. Her behaviour is vile.
You don’t come across as annoying to me. I’m genuinely interested in your work.I’m not sure how to take the first part, that I tell you all continuously. Sorry if I come across as annoying and on repeat to anyone; not my intention. Just very difficult when you’ve been through something and working in the environment every day, to not feel passionate about something. I assure you I’m not a sock puppet (I hadn’t heard of that term before coming here so I’ve learned something new!) I can imagine it’s annoying for you all though so I’m sorry and I won’t go on about it again.
I also received a point from an admin about mentioning a smaller thread, again - sorry. I found Tattle from PTWM’s rant and was glad that someone else was highlighting what we were mentioning. But I can see when someone is a ‘blogger’, it’s probably for their own convenience and for want of more followers. I didn’t see it that way, so sorry again.
massively agree with this!You don’t come across as annoying to me. I’m genuinely interested in your work.
You do mention your job a lot but I think that it’s always in context. After all we are dealing with someone here who claims to work in the field of DA and so I find it fascinating to compare her day with someone who actually does work and have genuine experience.
Please keep up your posts. They are always very enlightening.
Thank you so much! I’ll try and refrain from talking about work so much but still highlight DA issues! Have a lovely day everyoneYou don’t come across as annoying to me. I’m genuinely interested in your work.
You do mention your job a lot but I think that it’s always in context. After all we are dealing with someone here who claims to work in the field of DA and so I find it fascinating to compare her day with someone who actually does work and have genuine experience.
Please keep up your posts. They are always very enlightening.
I think the point that the previous poster was making was that we don’t know what people actually do for a job and if the claims they make are true, as the earlier threads with Cagney & Lacey showed, so to take it all with a pinch of salt.You don’t come across as annoying to me. I’m genuinely interested in your work.
You do mention your job a lot but I think that it’s always in context. After all we are dealing with someone here who claims to work in the field of DA and so I find it fascinating to compare her day with someone who actually does work and have genuine experience.
Please keep up your posts. They are always very enlightening.
I know, and I do understand honestly.I think the point that the previous poster was making was that we don’t know what people actually do for a job and if the claims they make are true, as the earlier threads with Cagney & Lacey showed, so to take it all with a pinch of salt.
I'm sorry but there are boundaries. Your son's girlfriend is I presume 15 too or younger. . I would not be happy with my 15 year old daughters boyfriends Mother texting her randomly especially about money.My son is 15 and has had a girlfriend for 7 months... I swear I treat her better than R treats those boys. We text regularly, I make sure she's OK for money to buy something to wear to a party, etc. The only thing I'm afraid of is getting too close to her, because I know eventually they'll break up. But if you want to show someone love, you can... As you said, you make an effort! She just seems to treat them as staff.
100 % this. I totally believed 2 previous posters who claimed to be in the Police and even received a private message from one of them... how gullible do I feel now?? But I think you have always made measured and sensible posts and this will be due to your background,past and present experiences, so carry on! I work in the same field so know the frustrations of R and her DA ‘work’ (I use that term very very loosely!!Yes, very true. It’s a shame that a few rotten apples ruins everything for everyone else and we become less trusting.
I agree. If my child wants something/money she comes to me. It’s between us. I would feel very undermined if I was the other mother.I'm sorry but there are boundaries. Your son's girlfriend is I presume 15 too or younger. . I would not be happy with my 15 year old daughters boyfriends Mother texting her randomly especially about money.
I don't think this is right either. You need to step back.My son is 15 and has had a girlfriend for 7 months... I swear I treat her better than R treats those boys. We text regularly, I make sure she's OK for money to buy something to wear to a party, etc. The only thing I'm afraid of is getting too close to her, because I know eventually they'll break up. But if you want to show someone love, you can... As you said, you make an effort! She just seems to treat them as staff.
Serious safeguarding issues too. The girlfriend is a child. Any non related Adult should not be texting that child.I agree. If my child wants something/money she comes to me. It’s between us. I would feel very undermined if I was the other mother.
Seriously? I used to text my sons gfriend too. Mainly for her to get him to reply to my texts i'd sent him that he never replies tooSerious safeguarding issues too. The girlfriend is a child. Any non related Adult should not be texting that child.
Quite a few people on here have the savvy to know its not really advisable apart from you and the original poster it appears.Seriously? I used to text my sons gfriend too. Mainly for her to get him to reply to my texts i'd sent him that he never replies toobut honestly stop acting like this woman is R.
Saying it’s a serious safeguarding issue is like saying people raising legitimate issues on Tattle are trolls. Don’t lose perspective.Serious safeguarding issues too. The girlfriend is a child. Any non related Adult should not be texting that child.
Genuine lol _@ Cagney & Lacey.I think the point that the previous poster was making was that we don’t know what people actually do for a job and if the claims they make are true, as the earlier threads with Cagney & Lacey showed, so to take it all with a pinch of salt.
Erm. Quite different scenarios.Saying it’s a serious safeguarding issue is like saying people raising legitimate issues on Tattle are trolls. Don’t lose perspective.
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