I just can't help thinking they smell like stale breastfeeding milk
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I obviously meant breast milk haha!I just can't help thinking they smell like stale breastfeeding milk
There must be some crunchy finishing school because they all write the same low key passive aggressive stuff constantly. 'I used to think blah blah but now I know better (than you)'
That whole post is ridiculous! Especially the first part about miscarriages, stillbirths etc. Even before my loss I was very aware of how awful these experiences must be and even if I had felt differently, I would never admit it or write it on a post that many loss mothers can read, the line about miscarriage being nothing much to grieve in particular! How insulting!! I'm genuinely shocked tbh.
"I used to think parenting would be easy."
It's not. But you know what makes it that little bit easier Nicola? Boundaries.
It's not. But you know what makes it that little bit easier Nicola? Boundaries.
I'm so shocked at what she's said about miscarriages. How disgusting of her. Awful woman.
thatās what gets to me. She had no knowledge or awareness of others either in her social circle or beyond who had had to deal with these? Or worse did know but didnāt bother to reach out? Seems she only seemed to realise when it was happening to her personally.
Iāve dealt with all the stuff she mentions in that first paragraph and between friends, family and online, I knew how traumatic all could be because I saw, I asked, I observed and listened.
and arguably, because I was aware that I wasnāt the only person to ever experience those things, it was both a comfort to not feel so alone and a reminder to always be compassionate.
itās easier to stay in a wee bubble of privilege and luck but sadly itās happening every day to people we know.
Completely agree with all you've said. Even from a young age I was very aware people lost babies from miscarriage to SIDS! How can she say she was never aware of this until she had her kids?
She wants to be seen as a hippy dippy bohemian earth mother who loves everyone but to me she comes across as a Complete witch!
Itās disgraceful what she has said on her post, and the way she viewed miscarriage. Iāve never had one, but I have never viewed it as āa heavy periodā and Iām sure plenty of other women whoāve never experienced such an awful thing donāt view it as that. I agree she comes across as a witch, how ignorant was she before she had kids seriously? I thought she was bad now, but she mustāve been 10x worse before!
Exactly, and even if you had and you were that ignorant you'd keep it to yourself surely? Not post it on your page where a lot of your followers have found you because they had a loss!
When I came across her Instagram at first, it was through another loss mum, I saw her and thought 'great she's a loss mum, she's wrote a book, this page will be supportive and understanding'. I couldn't have been more wrong. I thought I'd be triggered by seeing pictures of her kids that are alive, not triggered by her awful view on the world!
Iāve had a stillbirth at 38 weeks and I was very in aware that things could go so wrong despite being healthy all the way through.
so naive
so naive
She's lost herself a few followers lately. Obviously we're not the only ones who think her attitude stinks.
How much of a sheltered life must a person have lived to have that attitude to babyloss at any level?
How much of a sheltered life must a person have lived to have that attitude to babyloss at any level?
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I hate it when people screech, "iiiiyyyyyaaaaaa" at babies. Pet hate.
Her latest post.
"I'm skint, someone give me a second book deal."
"I'm skint, someone give me a second book deal."
Dean has definitely put his foot down and said they canāt afford more kids, if sheās saying money is an issue. soft play isnāt that expensive, she lives 2 minutes from one which is very affordable, maybe if she wasnāt forcing Dean to pay out to send Ray to a school which she deems far superior to a regular school, sheād be able to afford to take the kids out instead of bitching about how broke they are on Instagram. How embarrassing!
Maternity pay on her wage must be practically nothing. They live in a nice house (underneath the filth) and they cost money to run and live in. Whether it's true or not, she gives the impression Dean works every spare hour. I don't blame him if he has put his foot down.
If you're in a position where money is an issue, I don't understand why you would put more pressure on yourselves by paying for a school. Home schooling doesn't have a fee (though obviously I know there are supplies and stuff to buy) and a regular school doesn't have a fee. Why put the whole family on a tighter than necessary budget to send the golden child to a "gentle" school?
She keeps banging on about how wonderful motherhood is, and how good at it she is. You don't get this time back, and while you don't have to spend a fortune to make memories, she's admitted herself that her kids are missing our because she's having to turn down invites. I just think the kids would appreciate making memories with their parents more than one day a week at a fancy school.
Yeah Iām guessing she would get standard SMP, but she didnāt work that many hours at the school, so it probably isnāt very much at all that she does get.
I fully agree with you, if money is an issue, you do not put pressure on yourselves by paying out for things that are not necessary, Rays private school is not necessary. If Dean has put his foot down, good on him, there is definitely the impression there that he works so much, she has said some nights he doesnāt get home until after 8, even for retail staff that is late, why should he be working to cater to her whims, and her ridiculous notions of what parenting and schooling Ray apparently āneedsā. I feel sorry for the kids, they are the ones missing out on socialising, which is so important at their age, all because she wants to send R to a āgentleā school. So sad!
Did she ever properly go back to work? I might have missed it, but I remember her selling loads of their furniture because she wasnāt going back to work yet. Did she ever go back full time?
Therefore would she even be entitled to a fully paid mat leave again? Genuine question, I donāt know the answer!
Also I remember her posting on the gentle parenting group a while ago about how she wishes there was a big friendly environment (CULT) where women could all raise their children gently and live off the land togetherā¦seems almost like dean is just funding her āoff-the-gridā ideas whilst she stays very much on the grid 24/7.
Bizarre behaviour. I know people change after children but I genuinely feel sorry for dean. Pea seems like an entirely different person who holds almost none of her previous values/personality traits - do dean and pea even have anything in common anymore other than their children? (Who dean isnāt allowed to interact with??)
I donāt think the school is necessarily fancy because itās fee paying, I think itās more that it adheres to an ethos that P is on board with - is it a Montessori or something like that? And R is only going to attend one day a week anyway 
Tbh I think P is primarily motivated by doing the opposite of what the normies do. She canāt bear to be mainstream.
Tbh I think P is primarily motivated by doing the opposite of what the normies do. She canāt bear to be mainstream.
It will be interesting to see if Ember ends up going to the same school - with the associated expense - or if has just been about Raven.