Odd Neighbours / Neighbour Problems #3

[SoulDestroyer]

When is too late to drill and bang and generally be a noisy fucker
Our neighbours who moved in fairly recently are currently hammering the duck out of our party wall. I'm minded to say that 8.15 on a weeknight is bordering on cheeky but then I have a kid and am a bit precious.

Years ago I had neighbours who used to start their DIY at 10pm. Over a fair few weeks they were hammering the party wall which was the staircase and landing. No idea what they were finding to do each night. They were a bit weird in general …
It’s annoying when people are so wrapped up in themselves.

 

[NoHintOfDrama]

When our neighbours built their extension we had a party wall agreement drawn up by a surveyor.
we had added in that they could only work 8am to 6pm Monday to Friday. 9am to 1pm on Saturdays. And Sundays and bank holidays they could work, but no drilling or banging.
I still had to text her a few times come 7pm and ask her to get the builders to stop.

 

[Sunflower91]

Still not catching a break with the neighbours. The dude who kept blocking me in has a charge point installed and in order to use it has to block me in. He’s also taken to parking right at the edge of the driveway on the road, with his rear end fully on the portion of dropped kerb, making it super difficult to get on and off the driveway.

I confronted him about it last week and asked him to park more considerately and also about what his plans were for charging his car cos it’s not acceptable for him to block me in. He parked better for a whole 2 days and moved it back to where it was before.

Theres been repercussions every time I’ve had a convo with him, or at least I feel like he’s doing these things in retaliation. After I kicked him out of the garage, I’ve had bikes revving for hours at a time, making my kitchen stink of petrol fumes, he wakes me up at the crack of dawn revving his second car. It’s like a sports mini. And that’s when the tit parking started - it’s so he can fit both cars on the front. Also there’s been a miracle and he’s no longer dying but also doesn’t know if he’s going to be around long enough to pave the front of his house for parking. Can’t even get his lies straight.

I just don’t get why he can’t just be normal and courteous

 

[50sGirl]

Still not catching a break with the neighbours. The dude who kept blocking me in has a charge point installed and in order to use it has to block me in. He’s also taken to parking right at the edge of the driveway on the road, with his rear end fully on the portion of dropped kerb, making it super difficult to get on and off the driveway.

I confronted him about it last week and asked him to park more considerately and also about what his plans were for charging his car cos it’s not acceptable for him to block me in. He parked better for a whole 2 days and moved it back to where it was before.

Theres been repercussions every time I’ve had a convo with him, or at least I feel like he’s doing these things in retaliation. After I kicked him out of the garage, I’ve had bikes revving for hours at a time, making my kitchen stink of petrol fumes, he wakes me up at the crack of dawn revving his second car. It’s like a sports mini. And that’s when the tit parking started - it’s so he can fit both cars on the front. Also there’s been a miracle and he’s no longer dying but also doesn’t know if he’s going to be around long enough to pave the front of his house for parking. Can’t even get his lies straight.

I just don’t get why he can’t just be normal and courteous

Typical narcissist reaction.
I think when you first posted I said he sounded and acted just like my neighbour - entitled, give them an inch but they take a mile - but I hoped, for your sake, I was wrong.
I’m afraid it won’t stop.
We’ve had almost 3 years of it - it started a few weeks after she moved in.
Our driveway gets constantly blocked by our narc neighbour. She wants a reaction - good or bad.
We just ignore her. I take photographs if I ever see her doing it because I know, if solicitors ever get involved, then she’ll deny all knowledge.
She is a liar and a manipulator.
She is the worst human being I have ever encountered.
She gets satisfaction from thinking she’s annoyed us which is why we ignore it. She’s not right in the head.
You can’t win with people like that because she truly believes everyone else is in the wrong (no one in our street now speaks to her).
We have had to install CCTV for peace of mind. She hates that we’ve done that because it means she can’t do anything to our property now.
I steer clear of her because she’s mentally unstable and I think she could quite easily lash out. Before the CCTV I told my family if I was ever found injured or worse then to tell the police to question her. I was not joking. She’s nuts.
She is a narcissist and will never change.
I’m so sorry you have to deal with it too. There is no way you can ever win with them - in their head YOU are the problem and the unreasonable one. Ignore them as best you can because if you dare to stand up to them you WILL be “punished”.
As I type this, her car has just pulled up and is parked over our drive again. Yes she is loud like your neighbour so we always hear her before we see her.
Sorry for the essay and I’m sorry I can’t give you any good news but I can only empathise.

 

[Sunflower91]

Typical narcissist reaction.
I think when you first posted I said he sounded and acted just like my neighbour - entitled, give them an inch but they take a mile - but I hoped, for your sake, I was wrong.
I’m afraid it won’t stop.
We’ve had almost 3 years of it - it started a few weeks after she moved in.
Our driveway gets constantly blocked by our narc neighbour. She wants a reaction - good or bad.
We just ignore her. I take photographs if I ever see her doing it because I know, if solicitors ever get involved, then she’ll deny all knowledge.
She is a liar and a manipulator.
She is the worst human being I have ever encountered.
She gets satisfaction from thinking she’s annoyed us which is why we ignore it. She’s not right in the head.
You can’t win with people like that because she truly believes everyone else is in the wrong (no one in our street now speaks to her).
We have had to install CCTV for peace of mind. She hates that we’ve done that because it means she can’t do anything to our property now.
I steer clear of her because she’s mentally unstable and I think she could quite easily lash out. Before the CCTV I told my family if I was ever found injured or worse then to tell the police to question her. I was not joking. She’s nuts.
She is a narcissist and will never change.
I’m so sorry you have to deal with it too. There is no way you can ever win with them - in their head YOU are the problem and the unreasonable one. Ignore them as best you can because if you dare to stand up to them you WILL be “punished”.
As I type this, her car has just pulled up and is parked over our drive again. Yes she is loud like your neighbour so we always hear her before we see her.
Sorry for the essay and I’m sorry I can’t give you any good news but I can only empathise.

I’m really sorry you’re going though this too. I’ve been debating getting a ring floodlight for my back garden to keep an eye on things. I joked with a friend the other day that it feels like how murder documentaries start out. I don’t necessarily feel threatened by this guy but I’m more and more anxious leaving the house because he’s almost always out there doing something. I’ve shut the blind in my kitchen because I feel watched- and in all likelihood I’m not being watched but I’m just an anxious paranoid mess. I feel like he’s trying to intimidate me or something by making it as hard as possible for me to leave in my car.

I’ve been taking photos of the blocking too. And have a log with noise issues and where he’s parked awkwardly. I’ve spoken to a solicitor but they haven’t got back to me yet with a cost or an idea of the process. Tempted to go for the double whammy and take him to court as well as lowering the kerb outside my house so he can’t park there anymore either.

 

[50sGirl]

I’m really sorry you’re going though this too. I’ve been debating getting a ring floodlight for my back garden to keep an eye on things. I joked with a friend the other day that it feels like how murder documentaries start out. I don’t necessarily feel threatened by this guy but I’m more and more anxious leaving the house because he’s almost always out there doing something. I’ve shut the blind in my kitchen because I feel watched- and in all likelihood I’m not being watched but I’m just an anxious paranoid mess. I feel like he’s trying to intimidate me or something by making it as hard as possible for me to leave in my car.

I’ve been taking photos of the blocking too. And have a log with noise issues and where he’s parked awkwardly. I’ve spoken to a solicitor but they haven’t got back to me yet with a cost or an idea of the process. Tempted to go for the double whammy and take him to court as well as lowering the kerb outside my house so he can’t park there anymore either.

Ah yes the blinds. I never raise the blinds that face her house now. We’ve bought sheer ones (similar to “nets” fabric) so they let light in during the day but she can’t see in and then we have thicker blinds to pull down at night.
She actually installed clear glass in her bathroom window so can look into our garden and kitchen window without having to open it which she would have had to do if it was obscure glass. We have the added bonus of seeing the back of her head when she’s on the loo! It does make you paranoid, I agree.
We we’re told by the police that it is not an offence for them to block your drive if you’re out and you cannot get back in. It is only an offence if they block your drive when you want to leave.

 

[Jyhy1110]

Still not catching a break with the neighbours. The dude who kept blocking me in has a charge point installed and in order to use it has to block me in. He’s also taken to parking right at the edge of the driveway on the road, with his rear end fully on the portion of dropped kerb, making it super difficult to get on and off the driveway.

I confronted him about it last week and asked him to park more considerately and also about what his plans were for charging his car cos it’s not acceptable for him to block me in. He parked better for a whole 2 days and moved it back to where it was before.

Theres been repercussions every time I’ve had a convo with him, or at least I feel like he’s doing these things in retaliation. After I kicked him out of the garage, I’ve had bikes revving for hours at a time, making my kitchen stink of petrol fumes, he wakes me up at the crack of dawn revving his second car. It’s like a sports mini. And that’s when the tit parking started - it’s so he can fit both cars on the front. Also there’s been a miracle and he’s no longer dying but also doesn’t know if he’s going to be around long enough to pave the front of his house for parking. Can’t even get his lies straight.

I just don’t get why he can’t just be normal and courteous

What a horrid bastard, shame he is isn’t terminal and isn’t going to die anytime soon, I would of replied ‘well as you don’t know when you might die can you hurry up and pave the front…. bleep’

 

[griftalo]

Still not catching a break with the neighbours. The dude who kept blocking me in has a charge point installed and in order to use it has to block me in. He’s also taken to parking right at the edge of the driveway on the road, with his rear end fully on the portion of dropped kerb, making it super difficult to get on and off the driveway.

I confronted him about it last week and asked him to park more considerately and also about what his plans were for charging his car cos it’s not acceptable for him to block me in. He parked better for a whole 2 days and moved it back to where it was before.

Theres been repercussions every time I’ve had a convo with him, or at least I feel like he’s doing these things in retaliation. After I kicked him out of the garage, I’ve had bikes revving for hours at a time, making my kitchen stink of petrol fumes, he wakes me up at the crack of dawn revving his second car. It’s like a sports mini. And that’s when the tit parking started - it’s so he can fit both cars on the front. Also there’s been a miracle and he’s no longer dying but also doesn’t know if he’s going to be around long enough to pave the front of his house for parking. Can’t even get his lies straight.

I just don’t get why he can’t just be normal and courteous

What an absolute hole. Surely it can’t be legal to put a charge point for a car where he has?
I’d probably have snapped and accidentally spilled nail varnish remover on his special car by now.
Is there no way to block off what’s yours?

 

[Nellinton]

If my upstairs neighbours couldn't get anymore damn irritating. They've gone and got a dog! And it's a big one I'm not up on my breeds but it barks on and off all day and charges up and down the house dropping and banging it's toys off the floor FML!

 

[Chewycinema]

If my upstairs neighbours couldn't get anymore damn irritating. They've gone and got a dog! And it's a big one I'm not up on my breeds but it barks on and off all day and charges up and down the house dropping and banging it's toys off the floor FML!

My upstairs neighbours have a big dog and when it's on a mad turn it's like herd of elephants so I feel your pain!

 

[Kittylover2019]

It’s come to the end of the road now for me where I live. Today I’ve decided to move out for my mental health and my own sanity, I’m lucky enough to be able to buy something small but hopefully in a nice area without selling my current home.

Husband is going to stay here until we can get it ready for sale (god knows how long that’s going to take).

I’ve had a day from hell

 

[whoareyouu]

It’s come to the end of the road now for me where I live. Today I’ve decided to move out for my mental health and my own sanity, I’m lucky enough to be able to buy something small but hopefully in a nice area without selling my current home.

Husband is going to stay here until we can get it ready for sale (god knows how long that’s going to take).

I’ve had a day from hell

Oh bless you. You’re right, it’s not worth your mental health or sanity.

 

[Justherefortittle]

. She wants a reaction - good or bad.
We just ignore her. I take photographs if I ever see her doing it because I know, if solicitors ever get involved, then she’ll deny all knowledge.
She is a liar and a manipulator.
She is the worst human being I have ever encountered.
She gets satisfaction from thinking she’s annoyed us which is why we ignore it. She’s not right in the head.
You can’t win with people like that because she truly believes everyone else is in the wrongl


She is a narcissist and will never change.
I’m so sorry you have to deal with it too. There is no way you can ever win with them - in their head YOU are the problem and the unreasonable one.

This is my life almost daily

I have a total narc neighbour who thinks the world and his wife owes her a living, all whilst her and her adult son bleeds the benefits system!

We are out working all day and home is meant to be for rest & relaxation! Her behaviour takes the shine of anything you try to do!

 

[rainbowhouse]

Stupid bastard neighbour had us up by 6am all weekend…and today was a new record…4 bleeping 40am.

 

[Stillwater]

Solidarity.

I live in a converted Victorian Classical building, 4 floors (inc) basement - high ceilings and wooden floors. Each floor a single, large self contained flat.I live on the topfloor with no one above me thank Oden. The middle floor has recently been occupied by a family of 3, Mum, Dad and 3 year old. They live upside down - barely movement in the day and then all at night. So, the kid starts running around 10.30pm-12am. It’s heavy footed and vibrates and prevents me from going to sleep or wakes me up - twice last night when I was on the cusp of nodding off. Also the kitchen cupboard doors start going - directly beneath my bedroom (a design floor and not entirely their fault but still a little awareness?)

We have spoken to them - they say they will get her down earlier (should your neighbours saying it’s intrusive prompt that - why is your kid up at that time and running around that late - but yes please)? They are soft as shoite I would say- the kid is a deity and runs the roost. But equally is never taken out to burn off any energy. Days go by and they don’t leave the flat. There are many oddities.She crys like an actual baby - not a 3 year old. Maybe there are other issues. Don’t care, not my problem except where it is.

Anyway, if it persists can I contact the letting agent and say look this is a problem? Antisocial and impacting on my sleep er etc? Or no.

Ground floor people, beneath these idiots, also irritated.

Just have to update and put this somewhere as it is SO odd. The late night 3 year old running around and seemingly turning into an elephant continued. Husband went down, at neighbours invitation, to have a bit of a chat about it, super, super cordial - my husband is excellent at neighbour relations/management. Bit of status bullshit from the fella (making out they’d be going to Michelin star restaurants if it weren’t for the kid - get a babysitter: can’t have no connections here - they never go anywhere and no one ever comes to see them). Anyway, they said they were on it and trying to get her to bed at a healthier time and could we bare with. Absolutely. In the course of this, the weird hours are revealed - they work for an Indian company on US hours - so outsourcing - via three locations, on visas here. Sure. Uh huh. What are the tax implications of this? Is this legal? Whatever, their business,

So a couple weeks later, I don’t know why particularly, was not paying full attention to whatever’s on telly, iPad in hand - looked him up on LinkedIn. As I had the page open he rang my husband - said we should socialise (this would never have happened). Husband had plausible deniability of me looking at LinkedIn page - doesn’t even know what LinkedIn is (self employed builder), never mind that I was presently on it- so he’s quite comfortably asking if everything’s alright and sure let’s socialise. In all honesty even though it was odd, I assumed massive coincidence so didn’t mention was looking at neighbour online at same time as phone call - I know, I know but he wasn’t showing as LinkedIn Gold. Anyway, now they are leaving wtf? 6 months into a year lease.

He looked me up on LinkedIn in return - I don’t care about that, we all look each other up. Do we call each other about doing that, no. Is this a paranoid behaviour leading to a quick exit? What the hec?

I am pleased they are leaving. The flat’s starting to kick out a right clunk.
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Oh my actual dayz and this morning at the communal front door there’s notice of an unpaid fixed penalty notice - letters ignored, car will be taken this week if not paid. What are these people about?

 

[Kittylover2019]

Just have to update and put this somewhere as it is SO odd. The late night 3 year old running around and seemingly turning into an elephant continued. Husband went down, at neighbours invitation, to have a bit of a chat about it, super, super cordial - my husband is excellent at neighbour relations/management. Bit of status bullshit from the fella (making out they’d be going to Michelin star restaurants if it weren’t for the kid - get a babysitter: can’t have no connections here - they never go anywhere and no one ever comes to see them). Anyway, they said they were on it and trying to get her to bed at a healthier time and could we bare with. Absolutely. In the course of this, the weird hours are revealed - they work for an Indian company on US hours - so outsourcing - via three locations, on visas here. Sure. Uh huh. What are the tax implications of this? Is this legal? Whatever, their business,

So a couple weeks later, I don’t know why particularly, was not paying full attention to whatever’s on telly, iPad in hand - looked him up on LinkedIn. As I had the page open he rang my husband - said we should socialise (this would never have happened). Husband had plausible deniability of me looking at LinkedIn page - doesn’t even know what LinkedIn is (self employed builder), never mind that I was presently on it- so he’s quite comfortably asking if everything’s alright and sure let’s socialise. In all honesty even though it was odd, I assumed massive coincidence so didn’t mention was looking at neighbour online at same time as phone call - I know, I know but he wasn’t showing as LinkedIn Gold. Anyway, now they are leaving wtf? 6 months into a year lease.

He looked me up on LinkedIn in return - I don’t care about that, we all look each other up. Do we call each other about doing that, no. Is this a paranoid behaviour leading to a quick exit? What the hec?

I am pleased they are leaving. The flat’s starting to kick out a right clunk.
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Oh my actual dayz and this morning at the communal front door there’s notice of an unpaid fixed penalty notice - letters ignored, car will be taken this week if not paid. What are these people about?

Shady business, that’s what they’re about!

 

[NoHintOfDrama]

Bet you a fiver they do a moonlight flit!

 

[Stillwater]

Furniture was going out the flat late Saturday evening.

I just asked my brother, a tax lawyer what the craic is, they’re resident here so they should be paying tax here but I would say that’s not happening. When they moved in, every letter (totally normal letters at moving in time) came in triplicate over the initial weeks - so utilities, council tax - with increasing DO NOT IGMORE THIS on the outside -can’t even do the basics. Now a threat to have your car taken because, ignoring letters again. Do these people think nothing applies to them? Are they just not able for this life I am so intrigued.

 

[rainbowhouse]

Stupid bastard neighbour had us up by 6am all weekend…and today was a new record…4 bleeping 40am.

And my other neighbour has now been jetwashing for three hours and I think my brain is about to combust.

 

[SoulDestroyer]

And my other neighbour has now been jetwashing for three hours and I think my brain is about to combust.

My neighbour's hobby is jetwashing. In the first lockdown he did it six weekends in a row. I was going loopy.

My neighbour's wife is bonkers. She's been warned to stay away from us but if she sees us talking to another neighbour she comes into our personal space and tries to get the neighbour to speak to her and stop speaking to us. It's so childish and not to mention uncomfortable for us and the neighbour we're chatting to.