50sGirl
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Been a while since I’ve ranted on here..
I feel like I’m at breaking point now and am seriously considering asking family if I can move back home and sell my flat. I was sent home from work today due to laryngitis, I managed to get a few hours sleep but my downstairs neighbours have been having a party since around lunchtime. Music blasting in the living room with an extra speaker out the back so it’s echoing all throughout the building. Kids paddling pool full of beer cans and cigarettes. Doesn’t sound like it’s going to end any time soon and I can’t even call the non emergency police line as I literally have no voice at all.
It’s been almost 3 years of hell. I think it’s time to admit defeat. It’s time to acknowledge just how depressed I am living here. I can’t afford to sell and buy anywhere new as I stupidly took out loans to help with renovation costs and with the current cost of living going up I’m only just getting by. I’m due a little bit of a pay rise this year but not enough to make a difference. If I sell and move back home I’d be cutting my outgoings significantly and could pay off debts quicker and be able to save money to put towards somewhere new.
I don’t really want to be 30 and moving back home but it seems like my only option.
I agree.I am so sorry to hear this. If it is compromising your mental health you need to make the jump and sell IMO.
There is no shame in moving back home.
Things aren’t going to improve there so cut your losses and sell up.
Life is too short to be unhappy, especially in your own home - your home should be your sanctuary not a place to be endured.
I do understand. At our last home we had a dreadful neighbour. I didn’t realise how much it had affected me mentally until we returned home from a holiday. The second we pulled onto our driveway I felt the weight of the world on my shoulders. It shocked me. My safe place became a place I didn’t want to be.
We sold up. Once we moved several people told me that there was a huge change in me (I was unaware) and that they had got “me” back at last.
Never underestimate the impact bad neighbours have on your health.
Speak to your parents today and if they are willing, then please move in with them.
We have this perfect ideal in our heads about milestones - e.g. home at X age, married at 30, kids at 35 - but life isn’t like that. We are all different so shouldn’t compare to others.
Good luck and let us know how you get on.
Sorry for the long post - hope it doesn’t come across as a lecture but I know how it affected me mentally and it’s just not worth it.