Yes I think so, she doesn’t have any friendship circle, I think she’s abit of a hermit aswell and doesn’t go out much either, she also is a cleaner at a school (ironic as their house is a dump) so she also works alone, I feel sorry for her but also life is also what you make it, her and her partner also neglect their child too so then I stop feeling sorry for her and feel for the child hence why I reported them to nursery and they’ve since had home visits and health visitors round
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You can't be expected to bankroll their kid's company at their bday thing.
Sad about the kid tho - maybe sling them a wee card to show no hard feelings and make sure the kid feels acknowledged?
I'd probably prepare a fib in case they offer to take your kid with them when they go, just in case.
Exactly, that is a lot to ask someone to spend for a children's birthday at any time, let alone at the moment
I have stumbled across this thread and your situation sounds so much like me and my previous neighbours. Both worked but the house was a tip and they never took the children anywhere.
At first I felt sorry for them and joined them in on trips to the park, walks but soon it became expected. It was almost like being under siege, we couldn't set foot in the garden without her encouraging her kids to lean out the windows and shout my kids names, it really limited our enjoyment of our home.
I think what I'm saying is that some people you just have to hold at arms length for your own sanity.
Like a previous poster said possibly pop a card through and make your excuses. You sound like a really nice person but ultimately its not your responsibility to make their lives better.
Thank you it’s so stressful isn’t it! That’s also why I don’t want to go out with them either as they are only neighbours and not friends, I hate it when she watches me and my son in the garden it makes me really uncomfortable and I end up going indoors, she knows I’m a single parent too so it’s only me that can say yes or no I don’t have any back up
Thanks everyone for the advice I will prepare my excuse as to why I can’t go and pop a card round instead
Update on my neighbour - had been mostly avoiding but saw her in the street just now with her kids. Walked past and said "hey!" with a rictus grin. As soon as she was gone dropped the smile and called her a bleep under my breath. Felt good. She can't accuse me of anything now and if she does I am literally never speaking to her again. twit.
Thanks again everyone for the advice - I definitely have the upper hand, I think. Just going to keep it moving and friendly but will NOT be friends with this person.
I've remembered so many of the red flags as well - she drink drives, she asked me for money when I barely knew her, etc etc...
Trying to write my application to object to a neighbour's planning permission - it's very hard to keep it factual which is what the Council requires. Has anyone had any success in this area that could offer me some tips on what the the Planning Department will look for?
Depends what the planning permission is for?
What are you objecting to and why?
Quite often, although you have the right to object, it will still go through and then just put bad blood between neighbours wondering who it was... unless its very obvious! If youre objecting an extension and other ppl have the same size extension already, its very unlikely they will side with you I'm afraid.
As others have said, it depends what it is. But the usual things for extensions (I'm assuming that's what it is) are loss of light, overbearing, too close to a neighbour's habitable room, changes to the street scene, the layout is inappropriate, reduction in the amount of car parking etc etc
There's a list here:
Planning objection
Planning objection - Designing Buildings - Share your construction industry knowledge. When a planning application is submitted to a local planning authority, there must be a public consultation period of three to eight weeks to give people affected by the application the opportunity to comment...
Guess what "her next door" has gone and bought ....
A water feature,
Yes, a water feature that she can't bear the sound of because it drives her to distraction enough to complain about mine to housing and the local council
Honestly, she is bat tit crazy. The good thing is, I don't need to put mine on now and will save my electricity I only put mine on to block out her TV and loudspeaker phone calls,
A water feature,
Yes, a water feature that she can't bear the sound of because it drives her to distraction enough to complain about mine to housing and the local council
Honestly, she is bat tit crazy. The good thing is, I don't need to put mine on now and will save my electricity I only put mine on to block out her TV and loudspeaker phone calls,
This is it. If they're actually proposing to do something outlandish it wouldn't go through anyways. If they're planning something pretty ordinary or with local precedent your objection will likely count for nothing to Planning but be published online and make things awk between you & your neighbour.
Our planning office has a couple of hours per week where publics can drop in and speak with a duty planner for ~15 mins which is really useful for gauging whether you have a case worth getting into - maybe see if you can get some time with an Officer before putting anything in writing?
If you lived in an old terrace house and you were having a new roof put on… you would have the decency to warn your neighbour’s on either side, wouldn’t you, before the work was done? Came home from work and there’s scaffolding at the front and back… fair enough. Then yesterday morning, the scaffolders came and put a ladder diagonally across my front door to climd onto the scaffolding and they’ve knocked over my plant pots!! duck me. Manners cost nothing.
Oh, and they should have actually asked me if I was ok with them putting on a new roof on as they have to take some of my tiles off when they join them. Dicks.
Oh, and they should have actually asked me if I was ok with them putting on a new roof on as they have to take some of my tiles off when they join them. Dicks.
We are in a semi detached and always tell our neighbours about noisy work and they reciprocate.
The problem with tradies is they dont care if you have asked or not and will just put scaffolding up where they need. Our neighbour was horrified to see them in our garden putting scaffolding poles on our side to support their side.
I was absolutely fine about it, we had got our floor done and it was horrifically noisy and i didn't pre-empt this and tell the neighbours so I felt in debt to them for that one
I think a lot of ppl have just lost their manners overall with stuff like this. We have to share our spaces and as such we should be mindful and tolerable to certain levels.
That said. On the other side, not attached. I swear he makes noise on purpose. Constantly has his radio BLASTING at 7am and mows the lawn at all hours...
Oh yeh absolutely. They’re either thick or have no manners. They’ve already ruffled a few feathers with me and my neighbour on my other side when not long after they moved in, they had a BT line put in and wanted to run the cable across the front of mine and my neighbour’s house. I got a phone call at work off my neighbour (not the new ones) telling me he refused to allow them to run the cable across our fronts without any warning. We don’t want to be accountable for anything that happens to their line. It was either that or compromise and have it run along our guttering 
so now when I want my timber guttering replaced (listed building regs) I have to contact BT to come and unhook the cables. Ffs, like that’s going to be a priority for them.
Anyway, what they don’t know is that I have worked in the construction industry for nearly 10 tens and recently moved into the contracting side, specialising in restoration and refurbishment of listed buildings, so I’ll be getting a client to come over and check there’s been no damage to my roof. (Just to be on the safe side
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so now when I want my timber guttering replaced (listed building regs) I have to contact BT to come and unhook the cables. Ffs, like that’s going to be a priority for them.Anyway, what they don’t know is that I have worked in the construction industry for nearly 10 tens and recently moved into the contracting side, specialising in restoration and refurbishment of listed buildings, so I’ll be getting a client to come over and check there’s been no damage to my roof. (Just to be on the safe side
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Hoping for some advice re couple in flats.
Aside from the many many rows & breakups with their partner & visits from the police of which I no longer bat an eyelid over* However I am concerned about their cats. They spend periods of time away from the flat depending if they’re getting on or not..
They have numerous cats which are left in or out whilst they’re away - for 24 hours + and not being fed - they are almost feral. They recently got another cat which is left alone locked in not being socialised.
I have started feeding them if it’s longer then 24 hours but worried about the cats & also not comfortable saying something.
Any advice gratefully received x
*Reports of DV but zero steps from their family, friends or themselves to break cycle…
Aside from the many many rows & breakups with their partner & visits from the police of which I no longer bat an eyelid over* However I am concerned about their cats. They spend periods of time away from the flat depending if they’re getting on or not..
They have numerous cats which are left in or out whilst they’re away - for 24 hours + and not being fed - they are almost feral. They recently got another cat which is left alone locked in not being socialised.
I have started feeding them if it’s longer then 24 hours but worried about the cats & also not comfortable saying something.
Any advice gratefully received x
*Reports of DV but zero steps from their family, friends or themselves to break cycle…
Can you contact the RSPCA anonymously?
This weeks cringe from the neighbours
Dad to preteen son “Shut up, you’re ruining my f’ing life”
Preteen son “F off you fat f’ing c*nt”
Is it any wonder I’m moving house
Dad to preteen son “Shut up, you’re ruining my f’ing life”
Preteen son “F off you fat f’ing c*nt”
Is it any wonder I’m moving house
If that were my neighbours I'd die laughing - they're a very middle class couple so more like, "I'm so cross with you!" and "I was just trying to be CONSTRUCTIVE, Marjorie!"
I think it’s more the Dad constantly belittling the kids calling them re tards and saying they have ruined his life
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