I tried to empathise with Niomi after her break up with Joe and often felt like people were being too harsh on her despite the fact that her behaviour was incredibly cringe-worthy but now I’m realising she’s bringing all of this hatred on herself. First the whole Forky scenario and now this?! I can’t believe she is sharing her flings so publicly it’s embarrassing. If I knew that a gossip forum was analysing my flings/relationships I would be mortified and keep it all private meanwhile she’s sharing every aspect of it lol. Plus she overshares way too much. I follow a lot of influencers that have a decent balance between their personal life and what they share online. Niomi needs to learn not to be so open about everything.
Also sorry if I sound dumb but who is Jordan Peterson and why does everyone hate him?
Totally agree with all of this.
I think the thing is that Niomi probably just… isn’t that clever.
She seems to do the opposite of what most intelligent (emotionally and intellectually) and bright people would do.
She talks a lot about journaling and reflecting but she doesn’t seem to get much insight. She doesn’t seem to have had the aha moment that you often get through the process of rebuilding your life.
I totally get it if she felt bitter and resentful of her lot in life for a while. I’ve felt that way after a brutal breakup, and I don’t mind admitting that let myself feel it - for a limited time.
But it’s been years now, and she doesn’t seem to have found a way to be happy or at least content and it not depend entirely on another person. Sure, life with a supportive and contributing and emotionally healthy partner is better than not having anyone. But she doesn’t seem to have realised that there is a chance she might
never find another Joe. I personally think you have to go through that valley of despair and out the other side and actually face facts. I don’t think it’s healthy to live in a bubble of toxic optimism and be blind to reality.
But she’s still in that wishful thinking phase of thinking “oh well I’m sure Mr Right is just around the corner” and waiting to be happy when she meets him. It’s a fool’s errand. The whole thing is just sad at this point.
ETA I hope this doesn’t make me sound really negative. I just mean that sometimes things don’t work out and admitting that and facing up to it can actually make you happier in the long run.