Those heinous jeans with the fugly sandals (TF?) are giving me strong culty vibes.I'm no fashion expert by no means but to me this looks really baggy and unflattering on her and so not her style. Don't think she's ever gonna wear it out but who cares as long as she cashed some £££
If you know Joe in real life — please marry him and plaster it all over social media to annoy Nimbobs
Very well said. It doesn't necessarily annoy me if someone eats plant based but uses leather products. But she's so preachy about her meals and snacks and skincare being vegan that I'd expect her to stick to her faux-ethics. Not that she gives a shit about any of that obviously. It's another buzzword, just like yoga flow, self care and #growth.
Ugh, pains me to see mediocre people rake it in and have the easy road in life. He’s so bland and lacklustre. He wouldn’t have half the things he does I suspect, unless his parents had money.
YES this is exactly what I've been trying to relay. it really says a lot that so many view my logical approach to loss as me somehow attacking Niomi/the symbolic dumpee for not coddling them. people always want to victimize themselves, and that just extends the pain. sure, sometimes people need to have a pity party, but that should be only 1% of the healing process. people often prefer to drown in their own pain bc it's familiar vs venturing into greener pastures bc that is new and the change scares them. and too often friends/family actually encourage people to remain in their pain by allowing them to continue talking about it or by doing the whole "his loss, he sucks, ew look at his new gf, look he gained weight" etc, vs tough loving them & not allowing them to talk about it/wallow in it. the more the dumpee finds anything to have a feeling about, the less they are coming to acceptance. the healing polarity of a breakup is apathy and serenity about that apathy, not anger/hate/resentment/bitterness, but people don't want to let go of their feelings for their ex so they convert the love to hate/anger, when really, they need to let it go entirely. the best thing we can do for our friends who have been dumped is show them new experiences/people to give them a new focus.I am loving all the perspectives here. If only I’d been here when I was getting broken up with before Lockdown 1.0. It would have really helped I think
It’s conventional to demonise the dumper and be like “he doesn’t know what he’s missing”, “what a PoS”, “his loss”, “he’s crazy” etc. I know this is what my lovely friends told me at the time, in a very well meaning way. This is what society tells us to do but I actually believe (and I think this is what @cosmicodone is saying, but correct me if I’m wrong) that does us a disservice because it prevents us from building up the muscle to be able to accept that someone just doesn’t want to be with us. One great, well adjusted person can look at another great, well adjusted person and still be like ‘nope’. At any time. Neither party is at fault. It just is.
THIS!! I've been with my man for 5+ years and we get along so well, have so much in common, have all the same hobbies, and do everything together, but we still have had some heated fights over the years. they're very rare, but they also progressed our relationship SO MUCH. honestly, the bigger the fight, the bigger the progression. I dont know any super long lasting relationships that have withstood true hardships in life without a single fight. honestly, every couple I've known through the years that proclaimed they never fought had a very similar sudden end to their relationship much like Niomi and Joe.. where 1 was suddenly dumped "out of the blue". I mean, who can be surprised in that case? communication, and standing up for your opinions/feelings is important.
Agreed. I'm 29 and broke up with my long term boyfriend about 6 months ago. Not that 29 is old/or that there is a certain age to "settle down", but my biological clock is real haha and I do want children eventually. And don't want to marry someone right after meeting them lol. I just downloaded a couple of dating apps for the first time in my life after thinking about it for a while. Never thought I would because it feels somewhat like "shopping" for a partner lol but there are better apps now that focus on personal preferences/info about a person over photos. Long story short, it's been going well! I already am talking to a few guys and have a zoom date set up. It's a low pressure/low key wait to get to know people and no big obligation to meet up right away given covid. You can get to know people from the comfort of your own home haha and then if something sticks, plan an in-person meet up. I think more people are using them know given covid since there's not really a safe way to meet people in person, so everyone is sort of in the same boat. Would recommend them to my fellow single Tattlers, even if you are a skeptic like me
Good detective work!! Look at all the meat too lol, even in the mac and cheese!Guys I think we finnally have proof...that at least Joe and Anna are hanging out.
Same table and same plates! The first was from Dims bridesmaid video the second was from Anna's story a today. Dectective I hear to say
Sounds like Niomi doesn’t know any latinos, living with your parents is so normal for us
She doesn't know what else to do with herself.
She was great at being single when she first moved to london. I think that this time around she is heartbroken, and humiliated from being publicly dumped. Compounded by knowing she's been left for another woman is hurting her, and she has to carry on and be normal on the outside. She has pride and doesn't want everyone to see her lying under a weighted blanket wailing that she can't understand when the pain will end and has no appetite. That being said, she has swung too far the other way I to denial.
The most sexist comment I’ve ever read on here and that’s saying something. Disgusted.
