Gonna reply mentioning everyone because it would be a mega post if I quoted then added my individual replies
@Pontiac_Bandit really glad you felt good doing your KIT day and your husband has been helpful. Have you got more KIT days planned? Go baby bandit and his toast!!! Toast is such a fab medium for so many other foods too so it’s great he jammed it in
can you see your dad this weekend?
random acts of kindness from strangers are so touching, especially mums who have been through It and just know that even by packing your bag at the supermarket it makes the day slightly easier.
the men are the same I think in terms of how helpful they are, although he’s more of a dick about it than his very softly spoken and sweet BIL… difference is none of his family are around to pick up his slack which is what would happen in his country, so the strain of men being relatively useless isn’t felt AS much, or frowned upon as much, although I think it’s slowly changing. To his (incredibly minor) credit he did try for an hour at 2am last night to get her back to sleep, but she just cried for an hour and lunged towards the door until I went in and she immediately chilled out in my arms. I’m hoping when he spends the days with her it’ll give him more confidence/fewer excuses because I won’t always be there. He’s actually really good with her when I’m not there I’m just a huge safety blanket for his weaponised incompetence.
Thank you for being so lovely
she actually ate the most she’s eaten in days for dinner with the pizza I made and some yogurt, then fell asleep just before 7. She was knackered bless her. Hope baby bandit gives you a good night.
@WeHadFunRight you’re right, it does very much depend on the child from what I’ve read. She’s a bit of a sensitive soul (takes after me clearly) so I thought this would always be tough. Just catastrophising in my head oh what if this knocks her and she gets stressed out etc but I need to chill and take it one day at a time.
@WeepingCassandra ah my beef is with lack of flexibility
I understand this would be a nightmare but I would love to just say on the Friday “right she needs to go 1/2/3 days next week” because my work schedule varies so wildly with what I’m doing. Some days I could pick/drop her with school hours but others she would need to do 7-5:30. I think my mum’s issue is that she hasn’t experienced being a working mum and that yeah, I don’t start work till 9, but I need the mental space (and maybe an hour to walk the dogs before a hectic day) because I have a demanding job.
This is so true
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