less fidgety last night though!I would definitely be annoyed if my in laws did this! Surely they'd want to buy the baby something! Maybe when you next talk to them and they ask what you've been up to, you could say you've been writing thank-you cards to everyone that bought baby somethingLadies, I think this is one of those “am I being unreasonable?” questions. So obviously we’ve not long had a baby, he is our fourth, and it’s definitely true that the more babies you have the fewer cards & gifts you get on their arrival. That doesn’t bother me in general, I don’t expect other people to really bother or be overly interested. However, I have realised that my MIL & FIL didn’t give us a card or a present this time. They are lovely people, great grandparents, and are generous people. They usually just send a card and a little cuddly toy- nothing major (they live 500 miles away) but just a little token. I thought they hadn’t this time and they’d bring it when they came to visit, but they never did. Not even a card. Now my SIL (their daughter) is about to have a baby and she lives elsewhere, and there has already been talk of what they are sending her. So we get nothing at all, and she will. I feel like it’s really unfair and I’m (irrationally?) annoyed that our baby wasn’t really acknowledged by them. Am I being silly?
Dry skin I would maybe pop some moisturiser on, baby acne just leave. Usually starts at 6 weeks and is gone in 2-3 weeksall mine had them, some pretty badly, but they totally disappear
I second this! We bought the 360 with my second and it's so worth the money!
Maybe I'm mean, but I've always just put them straight in the car seatI’m definitely getting to the stage now where it’s too heavy to carry car seat with baby in and have been looking at the 360 too but what do you do about the seat being cold to put them into? Just warm the car up a bit or? And what about if you need to pop into a shop really briefly say pay for petrol or post something, do you leave them in the car or take them in in arms or always have sling on or...?
I’m also going to try a sling again but she doesn’t like it so I worry I’ve got her legs wrong and we both stress out - lockdown has been so shite for peer support with things like thisany top tips?
I've never warmed it up or anything haha. Oh my god, thank you! I am SO ACHEY, my legs and back in particular! I’ve not seen anyone else say this. I genuinely feel like I’ve aged about 30 years
Mine are the opposite, can’t get it in them until about age 2, then they are like crack addicts for it (to be fair it’s bloody delicious. I always have a wee taste myselfFast forward 18months/2years and they refuse it like it’s poison
)I can see why it would be concerning that it took a little longer for him to get back to birth weight. Where I am, 4 weeks is seen as pretty standard, and midwives happily keep you in their care for 28 days for that reason (but discharge you sooner if birth weight reached). Have any of your hcp been worried? How are his wet and dirty nappies?When I changed his nappy at 5am, I felt liquid run all down my leg. I thought he pissed on me but it was my boob leaking.
I’m starting to think he’s a really lazy eater and/or I don’t have a huge supply. He’s very skinny, finally hit his birth weight after 4 weeks. On Weds I’m getting him weighed just to make sure he’s gaining ok but today I tried to express again, managed a whopping 40 mls in an hour on and off…My partner has been giving him it and he’s fell asleep 3 times during it and there’s still about 5 mls left… I’m kind of hoping someone says to top up with formula just so I know he’s getting a good feed. I feel bad making that decision myself, I know I shouldn’t!
The best way to up supply is to increase removal of milk. So lots of feeding, lots of skin to skin with baby, and then pumping at set times as well. Power pumping is supposed to be good for increasing supply.
Its defiantly hard not to feel guilty I understand, at the beginning the guilt ate me alive anytime I did something for myself, I still do feel guilty tbh but you need to look after your own mental health too, even if it’s only half an hr or an hr a day. I just started thinking/looking at it as I want to be in the best place mentally for my child happy mum happy baby
when i tried to breastfeed my first, she was constantly attached to me until my milk came in, i literally spent the 3rd day at home with her on my boob for 6/7 hours also when my milk did come in, she cluster fed and was literally on my boobs for 3/4 hours straight at times, but they need to do that to establish your milk.
Honestly, having a c-section was the one thing I dreaded happening above all else when I became pregnant for the first time. I had never had surgery before, let alone a major operation. It turned out to be fine. We are stronger than we think and having a beautiful new baby to fawn over takes your mind off everything else.
As long as you keep on top of pain relief you should be fine. I’ve had two cesareans (one emergency and one elective). I didn’t manage my pain well the first time (overestimated myself) and it was very sore. The second time I kept on top of it having learnt from the first time and it was a lot easier. It also helps if you have another pair of hands around to help out and to give you a break. Do you have a good support system at home?I’m having an elective C section in 5 weeks time. I’m more concerned about the after op, will I be able to look after my baby if I’m still recovering? It worries me il be in too much pain to do a lot for him
You’ve sold me. My homework this weekend will be to actually give the sling a go! Thanks for your tips!thats the same type of sling I use for newborns, it is great to have. once you get the hang of putting it on it is no hassle, I can do it without thinking these days! YouTube some videos of how to use a stretchy wrap and practice with a teddy! The main trick is to get it nice and tight When you tie before putting baby in.
personally I’d kick your partner out of the bed! You’re recovering from surgery, he should be on the sofa! And then you’ll have a safe space for baby too. It is nerve wracking to begin with, but once you have a few nights past you you don’t worry so much about baby.
Definitely cut yourself some slack. These days are hard, and so hard with your first. Your whole life has just been upended, you’ve had surgery! You should be on the sofa, chocolate in hand, baby in arms, box set on tv
You can definitely try breastfeeding, people do it weeks after birth. Lots of skin to skin for baby so they can root to feed and getting the latch right is really important. Call for a community midwife. Although I successfully fed multiple times in hospital (had to stay in for observations) once home baby wouldn’t latch at all. Luckily I rang and had a midwife come quickly. She taught us how to latch baby and then when it was wrong or didn’t feel right, we’d unlatch and try again until baby learnt how to latch themselves. If you want help now, there’s are tons of Facebook pages and videos on YouTube for latching. As you are expressing, I’ve seen people saying it helps to squeeze a little milk out before trying to latch. The most important thing I learnt with breastfeeding and bottles was that the flow from a bottle was much faster and that’s why babies can get bottle preference. With breastfeeding baby has to suck and work harder to get the milk so they may get frustrated initially and that’s why a lot of people think baby is happier on a bottle. Just thought I’d mention it incase you find baby acts like that, you can do breast compressions to help which the community midwife can demonstrate if you need guidance (or online as above). Position wise, I held baby in my arms or laid down to feed. When baby was really tiny I sometimes used a cushion to help support her weight if I was tired. They might work for you after your c section. Sending lots of love 🤍
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I’m wearing lighter trousers and t shirts, you know like patterned summery trousers? With the elastic waist 
another thing is the pp hair loss seeing my hair fall out in big chunks is so depressing I knew it was common but my hair is everywhere on every bit of clothing even on the baby 
and that lady who’s friend done a bunch of nice things for her I’d kill to have someone like that! Can already count on one hand the amount of people who said they’d come and visit and keep in touch who I haven’t heard from since baby was born.
I had the Joie 360. Definitely recommend!Already buying a new car seat, we’ve been using the one that came with the mamas and papas ocarro pram (cybex atom 5 I believe) and Jesus it’s a nightmare getting baba into it now
I’m going to get a swivel chair - currently looking at the maxi cosi 360 but happy for any recommendations.
Also; anyone just find themselves shoving EVERYTHING in the loft lol? We won’t start trying for another baby for a couple of years but Im like hmm this will surely save a lot of money not having to buy all this again
I ended up on a drip with my first as the pessary wasn’t shifting her, and again it was fine. I mean, labour hurtsYeah I'm quite scared to Google itI'm really hoping she will come before then but it will be just my luck I need induced
Glad to hear another positive, makes me less nervous about that being a possibility!
, but I managed it and my pain threshold is very low!! Don’t worry about induction at all, you hear awful things about how bad it is, and while I have no "natural" labour to compare it to, it really wasn’t so horrific. (Both actual births were a bit dodgy, but I think that was more due to the position of the babies - my son was back to back- rather than the induction)I don’t understand it at all either, it takes 10 minutes if even to get a quick shower. I usually shower in the evening when my baby is asleep but if I decide I want a shower in the morning and my baby isn’t sleeping I put her in her bouncer and bring her into the bathroom with me and literally jump in and out it’s not hard
I will say I don’t wear makeup everyday as I can’t be bothered doing it every single day tbh, I maybe wear makeup 2/3 days out of the week but my baby is usually either napping or I put her in the sling on me and she falls asleep usually so I just do my makeup, but I do get what you mean it does make you feel put together
