I’ve been thinking about ringing them or the NCT line. Were they able to help much over the phone with positioning etc? Or was it more to direct you to local services?
New baby and post birth advice #58 Where have all the dummies gone?!
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They helped me over the phone, but my first was a lockdown babe so the local groups weren’t available! I would definitely recommend speaking to them x
I'm so sorry so many people interfered when he was doing fine and messed it all up! As others have said, do what works for you and refuse input if the nurses etc try to tell you to change things. Baby bandit only managed to latch a few times due to various issues but when he did having a nipple shield helped, and things like grabbing a handful of boob to shove into his mouth, and balling up a muslin to tuck under my boob to elevate it more to help him latch. Also laying down on my side with him next to me was a position he seemed to enjoy. He struggled to latch onto bottles as well the first few days so the nursery nurses spent a long time with their fingers in his mouth massaging his tongue to encourage sucking! People have posted really helpful advice/links above and we were also recommended to look at la leche league website for support. Sometimes breastfeeding takes a while to be established and in the meantime you can keep expressing and then get support to move back to breastfeeding - as long as you've got supply it's possibleYeah he’s been checked for tongue tie and we’ve done skin to skin most of today. He’s been in my top since about 6am and he roots and latches he just won’t stay suckingI’ll try the feet tickles we haven’t done that yet! It’s just so frustrating that yesterday he was fine but because I had him nuzzled in my arm and feeding that way they started interfering telling me I had to hold him by the neck and in the rugby ball position and now he’s completely lost it. I just can’t wait to get home and do it our own way. I’ve had to give him a a pre made bottle now just to get something in him and they’re already starting to push formula or expressing then bottle feeding. It’s like they’ve written him off even tho he had it nailed yesterday
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Oh my god the weird stuff I used to come out with! And the constant fear I'd lost him under the duvet even though he didn't sleep in our bedNewborn sleep deprivation is hilarious - just been feeding baby Watermelon and my fella rolled over in his sleep and went ‘I am Groot … haha … I ! Am ! Groot!’ and carried on snoring away
one night my husband offered to feed him and I sleepily said "thanks, he's probably in his snuzpod" and my husband exclaimed "PROBABLY?!!" Also one night I was so sleepy deprived that I carried baby to the kitchen for milk but ended up emptying random things out of the fridge as I'd sort of fallen asleep standing up, and only woke up when I knocked a loaf of bread off the side ---
Oh bless him
he's probably so sore that laying down makes it worse. Can you get a doctor's appointment/visit a pharmacy for advice on how to make him more comfortable and how to control the infection? Also if he wants milk more than food then I'd say give it - he's unwell and just needs hydration and energy, in whatever form that comes. I hope he feels better soon
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I've spent today out with my little one. I'm loving the sunny weather that's making it easier to get out & about. But boy did I feel lonely when I saw all the other mummy's with their mummy friends. It's made me realise that my anxiety stopped me going to lots of baby groups & getting myself out there to meet other people.
My little girl is 1 now & she goes the nursery so I know she's getting to socialise with other children, but sometimes I wish I could help her socialise with other children outside of nursery too.
My little girl is 1 now & she goes the nursery so I know she's getting to socialise with other children, but sometimes I wish I could help her socialise with other children outside of nursery too.
Don't feel bad, they might have been friends already who've happened to have babies at the same time! I think socialising becomes easier when they're a bit older as you can bump into people at playgrounds or soft play etc and meet that way. I go to one baby group on a semi-regular basis and have people I chat to there but we're not friends outside the group, and as far as I can tell most people there haven't taken friendships outside the baby group!
Ugh it makes me so mad! There is a national breastfeeding hotline 24/7 everyday of the year definitely call them and they can help sign post you to some local breastfeeding cafes or mums groups who can support you with breastfeeding (obviously depending on where you live) but they will have all the knowledge, patience & support to keep you breastfeeding!Yeah he’s been checked for tongue tie and we’ve done skin to skin most of today. He’s been in my top since about 6am and he roots and latches he just won’t stay sucking
as someone who was also forced to supplement with formula because they ignored his tongue tie (which needed snipping anyway, formula doesn’t make a difference it’s still the sucking they lose) I really wish I had the knowledge I do now on how to source local BF help from the community.
Even if you have a Facebook group of your hometown please reach out- there will be mums who can help you and if not signpost you to those who can xx
Congratulations and hope you are doing as well as can be. I know you've had loads of really good and helpful advice here already so your heads prob bursting but there's also a second day/night shift babies go through, if you google second night syndrome it might help with the huge change in behaviour from yesterday.We’ve tried the hand expressing and then syringing a bit first, tried hand expressing to get some droplets there for him to taste and be more interested and tried the skin to skin and finger but not the flannel to wake him up. He can latch and starts to suck but after literally 2 sucks he’s just looking around still latched but not sucking
@raspberryjuice who checked for tongue tie? Did they put their finger in his mouth? I’m only asking because the majority of midwives aren’t trained to spot it.
if his nappy output in fine then he doesn’t need formula. I’d just keep trying with the boob!
if his nappy output in fine then he doesn’t need formula. I’d just keep trying with the boob!
@Pontiac_Bandit Thanks, got him to pharmacy today and they have given me some cooling gel. He’s got antibiotics now and they seem to be kicking in quick as his back is already looking less angry. Sorry prob came over the daftest question. Everytime he’s poorly I think oh this is hard but omg these last few days have been tough, he will not be put down… I feel awful for feeling like my patience has gone. I just wanna have a wee for 30 seconds without holding a small human
Not a silly question and I don't blame you at all for being touched out and just wanting a couple of minutes without a baby attached to you! I hope you both have a better night
A doctor came down from paeds to check and did the finger in the mouth thing.
Thank you so much for all the advice. I ignored all the interfering ward staff and managed to get him to have a 5 min feed this afternoon doing it the way we were yesterday. Nothing like yesterday’s feeds but it’s a start. I know they mean well but it’s just caused us both no end of stress today
We’re waiting to go home now so I will just snuggle on the sofa with him for the next few days and work out our own way of doing it. I’ve got plenty of colostrum harvested and will try and get a bit more before milk comes in so we’ve got that to help us if needed rather than resorting to formula like they made us feel we had to do today. I’ve got nothing against formula and if we can’t get it sussed that’s obviously how we’ll go but I’m really hoping we can get back to how he was doing yesterday because he took to it so well
I’d definitely (if you can, they can be expensive and babies are pricey as it isA doctor came down from paeds to check and did the finger in the mouth thing.
Thank you so much for all the advice. I ignored all the interfering ward staff and managed to get him to have a 5 min feed this afternoon doing it the way we were yesterday. Nothing like yesterday’s feeds but it’s a start. I know they mean well but it’s just caused us both no end of stress today
We’re waiting to go home now so I will just snuggle on the sofa with him for the next few days and work out our own way of doing it. I’ve got plenty of colostrum harvested and will try and get a bit more before milk comes in so we’ve got that to help us if needed rather than resorting to formula like they made us feel we had to do today. I’ve got nothing against formula and if we can’t get it sussed that’s obviously how we’ll go but I’m really hoping we can get back to how he was doing yesterday because he took to it so well
) get a professional tongue tie practitioner to check him if in a few days he’s still finding it hard to latch/feed. Most nhs professionals aren’t properly trained in tongue tie, my sons was posterior which is frequently missed and was missed by 4 midwives, 1 paediatrician and the home team x3.
Obviously is likely its all their interfering but just in case feeding doesn’t settle again.
Hope you’re home soon and can soak him all up & hopefully spend all of tonight feeding
Would really appreciate this thread’s advice, as I’m confused by conflicting online articles.
My otherwise healthy 8 week old baby has developed a cough over the the last day or so, with a little bit of a stuffy nose. No fever or other symptoms, and is feeding well with normal nappies. Sleeping normally, no unusual tears or tantrums etc.
Should I give infant paracetamol, or just leave it and wait and see? Coincidentally we are seeing the GP tomorrow afternoon for his 8 week check up and jabs anway, so I have that on the calendar regardless. But just wondering if it’s prudent to give paracetamol now too?
My otherwise healthy 8 week old baby has developed a cough over the the last day or so, with a little bit of a stuffy nose. No fever or other symptoms, and is feeding well with normal nappies. Sleeping normally, no unusual tears or tantrums etc.
Should I give infant paracetamol, or just leave it and wait and see? Coincidentally we are seeing the GP tomorrow afternoon for his 8 week check up and jabs anway, so I have that on the calendar regardless. But just wondering if it’s prudent to give paracetamol now too?
If it was me I'd probably not give it unless he seemed destressed or struggling to sleep - I'm not sure how much it'd help a cough anyway, and if he seems ok in himself then maybe just use something like infant olbas oil or baby vapour rub (assuming they're safe for baby's age) to help him out a bit and then you can ask for advice tomorrow
Well done on the good feed today and hopefully the start of moreA doctor came down from paeds to check and did the finger in the mouth thing.
Thank you so much for all the advice. I ignored all the interfering ward staff and managed to get him to have a 5 min feed this afternoon doing it the way we were yesterday. Nothing like yesterday’s feeds but it’s a start. I know they mean well but it’s just caused us both no end of stress today
We’re waiting to go home now so I will just snuggle on the sofa with him for the next few days and work out our own way of doing it. I’ve got plenty of colostrum harvested and will try and get a bit more before milk comes in so we’ve got that to help us if needed rather than resorting to formula like they made us feel we had to do today. I’ve got nothing against formula and if we can’t get it sussed that’s obviously how we’ll go but I’m really hoping we can get back to how he was doing yesterday because he took to it so well
breastfeeding can be a bit of a rollercoaster but it's rarely to do with you or your supply etc it's usually whatever developmental stage your baby is at so the best advice I've heard is to not give up on a bad day. We are 7 months in and defo been harder and easier days but I think anyway you choose to feed your baby has pros and cons. Enjoy the snuggles, skin to skin and feeds. I really recommend this insta as she has such informative posts that really capture the breastfeeding journey and she also has a book about breastfeeding and 4th trimester that I read and was really useful and honestly captures that time period https://www.instagram.com/lucywebberfeedingsupport_ibclc?igsh=MWZrOGRiZzhneTM5OQ==Don’t! I made 1 good friend in 3 children that was a stranger. The rest was someone I knew with a child that age (my first, nobody…..) xxx
I actually made my best mummy friend through nursery - our girls are best friends so we started on play dates because they kept asking for each other on the weekends (as if 5 days of nursery together wasn’t enough). They’re still like it now and we go on holiday with them too - there’s always time to make friends and build connections xx
So I *think* at that age they're a bit limited on how much and how long they can have paracetamol for. If he's generally well in himself tonight then you may want to hold off and save it for his jabs, as he's likely to get a bit of a fever from those.
If he does get a fever between now and his appointment they will probably make you rearrange the jabs. They definitely do at our surgery for all the childhood vaccines.
Awake all night! We’re 5 months on Wednesday, twin B has been sleeping from 9pm-7 for the past 3 months, twin A the same for 6 weeks ish ( rarely wake together which is a godsend when I’m on my own!) the odd night, B will scream in his cot for 15/20 mins, never any longer unless in pain with gums and A has recently learned how to get on her tummy so cries because she can’t get back. Tonight A has been awake since 2am.. nappy changed, bottle and bonjela and is wide awake, busier day than usual and took all her bottles so I can’t fathom why she’s awake.. never really understood the regression stage but can anyone tell me is this apart of it or like a growth spurt or what? Am I back to night feeds with her 🥲
Daughter is 16 months and talking in her sleep i don’t know what is going on she’s literally chatting away u hear a random no or ball or mama in the middle of it the rest is gibberish but it can literally be all night long we are knackered. She may be asleep but it’s waking us up, can’t turn the camera off incase she wakes up screaming as she’s next door to her brother and I’m afraid she will wake him
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