No advice unfortunately but I am very much with you. He used to be such a consistent sleeper and it's all gone to tit these last couple of weeks - up and down like a bloody yo-yo.Really struggling with sleep again just when I thought we'd cracked itit's so inconsistent. I'm absolutely dying so I've had to cancel all of this week's plans so far. I've paid money for groups so it feels such a waste to have to cancel but I literally can't function and baby is exhausted from being up all night too. Hoping this passes soon
New baby and post birth advice #58 Where have all the dummies gone?!
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Also in the same boat here. His new routine is hysterically crying when he falls asleep, we manage to soothe him and put him to sleep in his crib, then wakes up 1 hour later followed by 3/4 wake ups in the night
poor little guy. Really at a loss for what to doIv decided to pop baby wotsit into Nursery for 2 mornings a week. Id like to finish some studies… and it would give me the time to do so! Think Iv found the right Nursery….They seem lovely…. But why do I feel so nervous. Did anyone else feel like this?
Iv gone back and forth with putting him in
Iv gone back and forth with putting him in
Yes! My other two have gone to nursery because I’ve gone back to work but Baby Natter is going 2 days from July, even though I’m not going back to work.
Longer term I’m hoping to go back and so I wanted to know he was settled and had a place before I did but now it’s getting closer it feels really strange to have decided he’s going.
But, I do think it’s good for them if nothing else all the activities they will do with them & mixing with others their age.
We don’t have any help and so I’ve never left him with anyone but my husband and so I also think it’s good for him in that respect!
Have they eaten anything different or changed formula recently? It could be a stomach bug - is their temperature ok? You could ring the health visitor or GP/111 for advice just to make sure everything's ok
Has baby had their jabs recently or been put on any medication?
I think the main thing with losing fluids out of either end is making sure that you're still offering regular feeds (breast or bottle), keeping an eye on their temp as @Pontiac_Bandit says and checking that baby is still happy in themselves. I would ring or message your HV just to mention it and see if they recommend an in person visit or GP appointment.
This is one of the reasons for me… that we don’t have anyone so he’s with me and I’d like him to socialise. Plus I’d also like to get him really settled before going back to work. I think it’s the right thing for us all… but I do feel emotional the thought of not being with him for them few hours. Be worth it to see him happily settled!
Yes definitely! I’m just thinking about having the chance to get a few things done without having someone following behind me undoing it all
and focus on that!And their little face when you pick them up!
Yeah can’t lie it would be nice to get bits done round the house. Drink a coffee in peace. Omg eat lunch in peaceYes definitely! I’m just thinking about having the chance to get a few things done without having someone following behind me undoing it all
And their little face when you pick them up!
I'm so torn about going back to work or not 
Baby F is only 4 months but I started to look at childminders with the view of going back to work 2 days a week. We are very fortunate that money wise I don't have to go back to work, obviously need to watch what we spend but we'll be ok.
If you didn't 'have' to go back to work would you?! We already do lots of group so the social aspect I'm fine with and when I started to think about leaving her I didn't want to, which I also understand is normal.
Sorry for the waffle, baby F is going to be our only child and just want to soak it all up but will I also regret not going for my own sanity?
Baby F is only 4 months but I started to look at childminders with the view of going back to work 2 days a week. We are very fortunate that money wise I don't have to go back to work, obviously need to watch what we spend but we'll be ok. If you didn't 'have' to go back to work would you?! We already do lots of group so the social aspect I'm fine with and when I started to think about leaving her I didn't want to, which I also understand is normal.
Sorry for the waffle, baby F is going to be our only child and just want to soak it all up but will I also regret not going for my own sanity?
I don't think I'd go back to work this time round if I didn't have to!I'm so torn about going back to work or not
If you didn't 'have' to go back to work would you?! We already do lots of group so the social aspect I'm fine with and when I started to think about leaving her I didn't want to, which I also understand is normal.
Sorry for the waffle, baby F is going to be our only child and just want to soak it all up but will I also regret not going for my own sanity?
We could survive without my wages - it'd be tight and not particularly fun but we could manage it, and still keep LO in nursery one or two days or a few mornings a week to give me a break. I went back to work this week though after 15 months (nearly) off and so far feels like a good decision. I've only been back a few days but I have a reason to get up now (before I'd just laze about with LO until we needed to go out), I can have adult conversation and I feel useful again. Not that I didn't feel useful looking after LO, but I definitely didn't get the same amount of satisfaction. I've always enjoyed my career (despite moaning about it) and even with the stress of going back to a new job and new work site, I was definitely starting to get very bored of being sat around at home or going to soft plays, baby classes or swimming!I'm so torn about going back to work or not
If you didn't 'have' to go back to work would you?! We already do lots of group so the social aspect I'm fine with and when I started to think about leaving her I didn't want to, which I also understand is normal.
Sorry for the waffle, baby F is going to be our only child and just want to soak it all up but will I also regret not going for my own sanity?
My career is very female dominated and it's relatively common for people to go have a baby and not come back for 5 or 6 years. And it's not as 'damaging' as in other more male dominated industries.
That being said, if/when we have another, I'm not 100% sure I'll go back again. Ideally I'd do both in nursery 2 days a week when 2nd baby is 9 - 12 months old... I like having money though!
I’ve been back at work for around 8 weeks now and I think it’s done wonders for my mental health. At the beginning of the year I was in a really bad place but I finally feel like I’m coming through the other side. Not returning wasn’t an option for us but tbh I don’t think I could have stayed at home any longer. I almost feel guilty for saying it but I love my job and I’m good at it, and it gives me a sense of feeling like me again. I’ve gone back 4 days and LO is at nursery 2 days a week and family the other 2 days which I feel is a good mix for now until he’s a little older!
On one hand I'd stay at home and never leave my little girl. On the other it gives me time to spend with like minded folk who also have the NHS warped sense of humor, which has helped me with my mental health.I'm so torn about going back to work or not
If you didn't 'have' to go back to work would you?! We already do lots of group so the social aspect I'm fine with and when I started to think about leaving her I didn't want to, which I also understand is normal.
Sorry for the waffle, baby F is going to be our only child and just want to soak it all up but will I also regret not going for my own sanity?
Saying that though I dropped hours and made sure to space out my annual leave well
We didn’t bother with any shoes until he was fully walking and more confident with it.
I’m sure I read barefoot is actually best for learning to walk, so that’s all we did!
Side note, Maybe this is different in different areas (and I didn’t know until after we went) but I’ve heard Clark’s isn’t great and Startrite is better? Though our experience at Clark’s was absolutely fine so I don’t know
I got some prewalkers because nursery wanted her to have some shoes. If it wasn't for that I wouldn't bother. The research shows that bare feet really helps them so much more. And my little one who has just started taking her first proper steps does so much better bare foot than in her prewalkers.
@Nosysamsie @anything at all Thanks both. I thought I’d read bare foot was good. I’ll stick till none for time being. He won’t be starting nursery for a few months so see where he’s at then
I would, yeah. I love being a mum, I love my little gremlin dearly & spending time with her is amazing. B u t, I'm not just mum and I don't want to just be mum. I want to explore my career and see where I end up, whilst having money to provide for her and having space away so I can be a better, more confident mum to her.I'm so torn about going back to work or not
If you didn't 'have' to go back to work would you?! We already do lots of group so the social aspect I'm fine with and when I started to think about leaving her I didn't want to, which I also understand is normal.
Sorry for the waffle, baby F is going to be our only child and just want to soak it all up but will I also regret not going for my own sanity?
My parents were at home all the time with me (on benefits, my mum was a carer for my disabled dad) and I don't think I came away better for it. They were both tired of parenting by the time I came around, and basically retired from parenting when I was about 8. I think if I was at home with my sweet bean all the time, I'd go insane and I wouldn't want to risk mimicking my 'parents'.
That being said, I have done a KIT day every month since she was born. I love my job & my coworkers are fantastic, I wouldn't give it up. I can see the appeal but I know myself and I know I need the balance.
If I didn't have to go back I probably wouldn't have done. Though if I hadn't, we'd have managed, but I didn't want to just manage. I want to be able to eat out, and go on holiday, and treat ourselves sometimes, and my wage enables us to do that.I'm so torn about going back to work or not
If you didn't 'have' to go back to work would you?! We already do lots of group so the social aspect I'm fine with and when I started to think about leaving her I didn't want to, which I also understand is normal.
Sorry for the waffle, baby F is going to be our only child and just want to soak it all up but will I also regret not going for my own sanity?
However, I don't have a career, I have a job. I enjoy it in general, but it's not particularly taxing, and I don't really have any ambitions to work my way up anywhere. 3 days a week I get up, go to work, then come home. No big responsibilities, just a job. I never had any big career aspirations, my biggest wish in life has always been to be a Mum.
I'm very happy with this arrangement, and it works for us. But I do wonder if I'd worked hard to get to a particular position in a particular career, if I would have felt differently about going back?