Baby Tarquin slept for 4.5 hours straight for the first time, so of course after two hours I kept checking her every 15 minutes to make sure she was still breathing *sighs*
My 8.5 month old still has milk every 1.5 - 2 hours during the day time, I think she is a grazerHe’s really keen for us to get into a 3 hour “routine.” I keep saying I want to bottle feed on demand as I would have breast fed on demand if I could. And if it’s been say, 2 hours and 35 mins since her last feed and she starts to get hungry he goes “try and stretch it out a bit, try and get her used to 3 hours.” Obviously I ignore him and feed her whenever she wants at the moment. Same with cuddles. I’m picking her up and cuddling her allllll the time because she’s tiny, was 4 weeks early, she’s my rainbow baby, cos I want to, cos she loves cuddles and he’s all “you don’t need to hold her alll the time, let her try and settle herself.” Again, totally ignoring him.
You’ve probably been told this a million times, but give all the cuddles and enjoy this time and tell KW to piss off. They are so small for such a short time. I don’t know why these KW think it’s ok to tell us mums what they think we are doing wrong when we do 99% of the childcare. If it’s not phasing you as a mum, why is it them?He’s really keen for us to get into a 3 hour “routine.” I keep saying I want to bottle feed on demand as I would have breast fed on demand if I could. And if it’s been say, 2 hours and 35 mins since her last feed and she starts to get hungry he goes “try and stretch it out a bit, try and get her used to 3 hours.” Obviously I ignore him and feed her whenever she wants at the moment. Same with cuddles. I’m picking her up and cuddling her allllll the time because she’s tiny, was 4 weeks early, she’s my rainbow baby, cos I want to, cos she loves cuddles and he’s all “you don’t need to hold her alll the time, let her try and settle herself.” Again, totally ignoring him.
Ah, but 12yrs is a huge gap and you do forget. God, I can’t remember much of my 13yo being a baby also, you could probably guarantee he didn’t do the full time parenting, so…This is my first baby and he has a 12 yo….so he’s a bit ‘i know what I’m doing,’ but she’s very hard work. I’m dying to say “maybe if you cuddled that one a bit more as a baby, we’d have less issues now.” But biting my tongue for the moment.
Next time this man says he is hungry or thirsty just say “oh wait another half hour. Just stretch it out a bit”.He’s really keen for us to get into a 3 hour “routine.” I keep saying I want to bottle feed on demand as I would have breast fed on demand if I could. And if it’s been say, 2 hours and 35 mins since her last feed and she starts to get hungry he goes “try and stretch it out a bit, try and get her used to 3 hours.” Obviously I ignore him and feed her whenever she wants at the moment. Same with cuddles. I’m picking her up and cuddling her allllll the time because she’s tiny, was 4 weeks early, she’s my rainbow baby, cos I want to, cos she loves cuddles and he’s all “you don’t need to hold her alll the time, let her try and settle herself.” Again, totally ignoring him.
This was us. I tried, I took tablets to encourage supply, hired a lactation consultant. I actually felt the opposite, people kept saying just give her formula, she cried on my breast, after her tongue tie snip, I was producing 10 ml in 30 mins of pumping. I cried.. LOTS, but I couldn’t do it. She was a different baby on formula and now she’s climbing the fridge and is a little unit bowling about the place lolAnyone changed from bf to formula? Baby cheese is 8 days old and I feel like I'm so over bf, my supply has hardly come and I'm having to top up with formula anyway. She's so contented on the bottle and so much less stress for her and me.
Guess the guilt trips from midwives and others sticking their noses in don't go well.
Any experiences though much appreciated
The way the HV described it to me, as humans we don’t eat at the same time every day. We’re also never the same level of hungry.He’s really keen for us to get into a 3 hour “routine.” I keep saying I want to bottle feed on demand as I would have breast fed on demand if I could. And if it’s been say, 2 hours and 35 mins since her last feed and she starts to get hungry he goes “try and stretch it out a bit, try and get her used to 3 hours.” Obviously I ignore him and feed her whenever she wants at the moment. Same with cuddles. I’m picking her up and cuddling her allllll the time because she’s tiny, was 4 weeks early, she’s my rainbow baby, cos I want to, cos she loves cuddles and he’s all “you don’t need to hold her alll the time, let her try and settle herself.” Again, totally ignoring him.
Poor you dealing with him on top of a new baby.He’s really keen for us to get into a 3 hour “routine.” I keep saying I want to bottle feed on demand as I would have breast fed on demand if I could. And if it’s been say, 2 hours and 35 mins since her last feed and she starts to get hungry he goes “try and stretch it out a bit, try and get her used to 3 hours.” Obviously I ignore him and feed her whenever she wants at the moment. Same with cuddles. I’m picking her up and cuddling her allllll the time because she’s tiny, was 4 weeks early, she’s my rainbow baby, cos I want to, cos she loves cuddles and he’s all “you don’t need to hold her alll the time, let her try and settle herself.” Again, totally ignoring him.
Yes! I am riddled with dry patches of eczema. my eyes, hands, legs, feet, thighs and pubis. Mr Waka said he feels sick listening to me scratch myselfHas anyone noticed their skin change since having a baby? I seem to have developed eczema and dry skin in the last few months (I used to be an oily gal)! I’ve read it can happen and it’s something to do with our body reacting to things different but it’s driving me MAD! My entire body is dry and my face is tight and itchy
Just say ‘why’ this was a sure fire way for me to get a slap as a kid. ‘But why mum? Why does it do that? Why don’t you know?’ Etc etc never got the root cause of her answers I’d use this too. Annoying for them hilarious for you xNext time this man says he is hungry or thirsty just say “oh wait another half hour. Just stretch it out a bit”.
Also, ask him “why?” A lot. So when he says stretch her to 3 hours ask why does it need to be 3 hours? See if he can give you any real answers.
And when he says you don’t need to do xyz just say “No, but I WANT to”
He needs a boot in the bum.
Yes! I am riddled with dry patches of eczema. my eyes, hands, legs, feet, thighs and pubis. Mr Waka said he feels sick listening to me scratch myself
In fairness it is the most annoying thingJust say ‘why’ this was a sure fire way for me to get a slap as a kid. ‘But why mum? Why does it do that? Why don’t you know?’ Etc etc never got the root cause of her answers I’d use this too. Annoying for them hilarious for you x
this is me and unless I wake up to him crying I dread looking in his cot!Baby Tarquin slept for 4.5 hours straight for the first time, so of course after two hours I kept checking her every 15 minutes to make sure she was still breathing *sighs*
But why do you say so mum?In fairness it is the most annoying thing
Because of the laws of physics
And
Because I said so
are two of my end answers
Yep! Bebe was regularly on me for 5+ hours at a time and constantly screaming because she was obviously hungry. With pumping I was only getting max 30ml from over an hour of trying... I cried alot especially because the midwives promote BF so heavily. That said, I was very lucky with a wonderful MCA on the postnatal unit who said that my mental health was just as important as her being fed and encouraged me to switch to formula. She's now 2 months old and thriving, I am a lot happier and actually enjoying being a mum.Anyone changed from bf to formula? Baby cheese is 8 days old and I feel like I'm so over bf, my supply has hardly come and I'm having to top up with formula anyway. She's so contented on the bottle and so much less stress for her and me.
Guess the guilt trips from midwives and others sticking their noses in don't go well.
Any experiences though much appreciated 
Yes my skin is so dry eczema-y. Nothing is making it better! Little under the skin spots too where I usually have clear skin.Has anyone noticed their skin change since having a baby? I seem to have developed eczema and dry skin in the last few months (I used to be an oily gal)! I’ve read it can happen and it’s something to do with our body reacting to things different but it’s driving me MAD! My entire body is dry and my face is tight and itchy