I’m not sure if there’s any advice to be had or if anyone has any tips.
My baby was born at 37weeks and my waters broke at 36+5, so I never got round to even trying to harvest colostrum and never leaked the whole pregnancy. when he was born we had skin to skin and tried him on breast but he was unable to feed and also tried to manually express and nothing came out.
My breasts didn’t start leaking until around 2 or 3 days after birth and I try offer him breast nearly every feed but he gets so frustrated and upset with it. I feel like he’s too used to how easy he gets his feed from a bottle. He does have a tongue tie which midwives have said it could be part of why he struggles with it.
I’m just told by my midwives to just stick with it, keep trying, try pumping, keep offering breast to baby.. when I’ve tried pumping barely anything comes out. 9 days postpartum I’m just so upset that I feel like it isnt going to work. Part of me wants to give up now but that upsets me even more. I’ve cried so much over it and it makes me feel like a failure if I give up.
I didn’t expect it to be easy but didn’t expect it to be this hard and stressful
I will preface this with im not telling you to keep trying above all else, if you choose to stop that is *completely* understandable. I just wanted to offer a glimmer of hope should you find it useful.
Little Lantern was 2 months premature and absolutely didn’t have the energy to breastfeed. He wanted to bless him but his little body couldn’t keep up. I pumped while he was in SCBU and on discharge they told me if I didn’t get him established with breastfeeding before we left I never would. The main thing for me was getting him home so I wasn’t willing to keep pushing it there and potentially extend his stay. I said ok, chose to keep pumping and bottle feeding. I continued to pump exclusively once home and constantly kept trying to offer him feeds (because I’m not one to be told what to do and I had nothing to lose by trying!) and one day it just clicked. It took 6 months and EVERYONE told me it was unachievable after so long on the bottle, but it wasn’t. Was it hard? Absolutely, I wouldn’t sugar coat it. Pumping is gruelling and we had a lot of issues at the start with him not latching properly and it was painful honestly.
However, I just wanted to say if it is something you do want to keep trying, don’t let anyone tell you it’a completely Impossible because that’s not always true. That being said, I do think as hard as you work, there is an element of luck and many mamas aren’t as fortunate (I just don’t want to sound like I’m tooting my own horn, I did work hard but that doesn’t mean those who aren’t as lucky didn’t). Little Lantern is a gannet and I’m sure that helped!
If you do choose to continue, my tips would be keep a regular pumping schedule, I found 6 times during 24 hours was enough for me (including 1 during the night I’m sorry that one is awful), but experiment and find what works for you to get the yield you need. LOTS of snacks and hydration. Try out different pumps till you find one that suits because we respond differently. A good hands free pumping bra is life changing. Also I cannot stress enough *flange size*, they never tell you about this but most pumps come with flanges waaaaaayy bigger than most mamas nips and it causes so much pain and diminished milk production. If you self measure you can buy inserts to reduce the size online. Also LOTS of coconut oil on your nips to avoid friction. I’m between pumps things like cool packs or metallic nipple shields really help if you have any discomfort.
As for the feeds, I honestly just kept offering every day, even if they last a minute or so that’s progress. Choose times you can offer lots of skin to skin, bath times I found really great for that. There’s loads of videos online to help with latch too that make a big difference. If you do manage to achieve a few feeds then nothing for a while don’t take that as a negative, it can still turn around
If you do manage to establish some feeds, just keep gradually increasing them until you transition over - this probably took me a month.
It sounds daunting and it is BUT if it’s what you want it is worth it IMO. But again I stress, please don’t feel you have to or are a failure in any way if you chose not to/can’t. You are a rockstar for even contemplating it mama
Sorry this is so long, I just really wanted to help