As an adult, you remember stuff like this, not a week or 2 off schoolI could understand if it was a trip to Spain, but it’s a trip to Australia when her aunty lives. I hate that schools have so much say over our kids
Definitely. Hope she doesn’t get the feel for it and then wants to move and live with her auntyAs an adult, you remember stuff like this, not a week or 2 off school
It's something she'll always remember
Definitely if she wants to go, it sounds like an amazing trip. The school will forget about it afterwards whereas she’ll always have those memories and photosI could understand if it was a trip to Spain, but it’s a trip to Australia when her aunty lives. I hate that schools have so much say over our kids
I’d definitely let her go. But check with you’re local authority that you won’t get fined - I’m sure round here both parents get fined even if they’re divorcedBit of advice needed re teen bean. I know this is babies, but you’re all so good at advice
Not sure if I’ve mentioned it, but her dad wants to take her out of school for 2 weeks next year. Trip of a lifetime, aunty’s getting married etc… anyway, the school have said it will be unauthorised time off. I see this as an exceptional circumstance, they don’t. Anyway, question is, would you still take them? I have no problem her Going. My argument is that she’s had 2 years on and off being at school, why is 2 weeks any different? She has no exams, and they’ve brought the GCSEs forward a year, so they have 3 years to do it. I don’t think she will miss much?
Oh balls. That’s what I was worried aboutI’d definitely let her go. But check with you’re local authority that you won’t get fined - I’m sure round here both parents get fined even if they’re divorced
I'd say to her dad, you want to take her then you pay all the finesOh balls. That’s what I was worried about
As I mentioned before, you are well within your right if you have a welfare concern, that you can withhold contact.Contacted my solicitor about how baby comes back from her dads and her answer was to tell him I’m not happy. I have so so many times. She is not cared for and looked after there and it breaks my heart seeing it. I don’t know what to do next. He had her Saturday and she’s still distressed, not sleeping or anything. When they won’t feed her on time or put cream on her bum the last month and a half they aren’t going to start now regardless of what I say
I would be looking for another solicitor if that’s all the advice you’ve been givenContacted my solicitor about how baby comes back from her dads and her answer was to tell him I’m not happy. I have so so many times. She is not cared for and looked after there and it breaks my heart seeing it. I don’t know what to do next. He had her Saturday and she’s still distressed, not sleeping or anything. When they won’t feed her on time or put cream on her bum the last month and a half they aren’t going to start now regardless of what I say
Is there any social services involvement? If not maybe you could phone your local MASH team for advice. If she is being neglected they may be able to intervene/suggest a way forward.Contacted my solicitor about how baby comes back from her dads and her answer was to tell him I’m not happy. I have so so many times. She is not cared for and looked after there and it breaks my heart seeing it. I don’t know what to do next. He had her Saturday and she’s still distressed, not sleeping or anything. When they won’t feed her on time or put cream on her bum the last month and a half they aren’t going to start now regardless of what I say
It’s a bit of a legal minefield. You need to carefully document your concerns and why it’s a welfare concern; courts are very against parents who withhold contact for no reason, especially if it’s what they consider a difference of opinion as opposed to a legitimate concern (not saying it is, just talking from experience of supporting friends through something similar). You need to make sure you’re appearing to support contact while advocating for your child which is a very tricky tightrope to walk xxContacted my solicitor about how baby comes back from her dads and her answer was to tell him I’m not happy. I have so so many times. She is not cared for and looked after there and it breaks my heart seeing it. I don’t know what to do next. He had her Saturday and she’s still distressed, not sleeping or anything. When they won’t feed her on time or put cream on her bum the last month and a half they aren’t going to start now regardless of what I say
When baby was coming out of hospital, an incident happened with her dad that lead to social services being involved and a social worker rang me. Haven’t heard too much from them since. I don’t even know what happened in the hospital either, he wouldn’t be honest and tell the truth, he just told me he was going to kill himself because he had no rights over his daughter because him and his family wanted to bring her home without me knowingIs there any social services involvement? If not maybe you could phone your local MASH team for advice. If she is being neglected they may be able to intervene/suggest a way forward.
This is what I’m worried about. I don’t want to stop him seeing her at all but he won’t listen to me when I say anything. He’s very clever in that he says most stuff to me in person. Like he said she’s too heavy to hold her while feeding her so props her up and “she makes it difficult for him” to burp her. Doesn’t feed her on time. He has said she cries herself to sleep and that’s why she misses her bottle time. Her bum is always coming back red, and if her feed is before 3 her clothes come back smelling of being in the dryer or if it’s after 3/4 she smells of sick and occasionally poo. She’s usually a smiley happy little girl but when she comes back she’s not, she’s not herself for a few days. I just don’t know if it’s all enough to document as a welfare concern and I’m afraid they’ll say im just attacking him which im not. My priority is my baby, she was 8 weeks early she’s had it tough enough already without it being worseIt’s a bit of a legal minefield. You need to carefully document your concerns and why it’s a welfare concern; courts are very against parents who withhold contact for no reason, especially if it’s what they consider a difference of opinion as opposed to a legitimate concern (not saying it is, just talking from experience of supporting friends through something similar). You need to make sure you’re appearing to support contact while advocating for your child which is a very tricky tightrope to walk xx
Oooh, that's actually where we're considering moving! Oh no, she can't miss that. That could be a once in a life time trip.I could understand if it was a trip to Spain, but it’s a trip to Australia when her aunty lives. I hate that schools have so much say over our kids
Its most definitely enough to document it as a welfare concern.When baby was coming out of hospital, an incident happened with her dad that lead to social services being involved and a social worker rang me. Haven’t heard too much from them since. I don’t even know what happened in the hospital either, he wouldn’t be honest and tell the truth, he just told me he was going to kill himself because he had no rights over his daughter because him and his family wanted to bring her home without me knowing
This is what I’m worried about. I don’t want to stop him seeing her at all but he won’t listen to me when I say anything. He’s very clever in that he says most stuff to me in person. Like he said she’s too heavy to hold her while feeding her so props her up and “she makes it difficult for him” to burp her. Doesn’t feed her on time. He has said she cries herself to sleep and that’s why she misses her bottle time. Her bum is always coming back red, and if her feed is before 3 her clothes come back smelling of being in the dryer or if it’s after 3/4 she smells of sick and occasionally poo. She’s usually a smiley happy little girl but when she comes back she’s not, she’s not herself for a few days. I just don’t know if it’s all enough to document as a welfare concern and I’m afraid they’ll say im just attacking him which im not. My priority is my baby, she was 8 weeks early she’s had it tough enough already without it being worse
We have HV appointment and hospital appointment next week. Yeah definitely thank you so so so much!Its most definitely enough to document it as a welfare concern.
Do you still have neonatal outreach or have you been discharged? Or still have check ups with the neonatologist at the hospital? Or even your HV? Can you mention these incidents to them so they can document them too? Perhaps even approach social services yourself and raise the safe guarding concerns you have when she's with dad? It's not ideal, but they will support you best they can and it makes no judgement on your parenting only his. It's the only way I can think of it being done in a professional and well documented capacity where it wouldn't backfire on you infront of a judge.
Something art related?Those with older children what could I buy a 7ish year old girl that isn’t too expensive? We’re looking at buying our neighbours little Christmas presents as they bought us really helpful bulk items when baby was born, we get on well but aren’t super close to them. I know what to get their son but I’m struggling with their daughter we’re looking at about £10 each
Thanks for any recommendations!x
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