I’m 7 months in & can totally remember these days like they were yesterday. The first few weeks I was so anxious but only at night time! So odd, as during the day I felt confident, taking baby out in his pushchair, feeding when he needed it, changing nappies etc. Don’t get me wrong, it was hard adjusting to my new role but I certainly felt like I was doing ok! Then bam, soon as we eaten tea, I’d start crying. Worried that I wouldn’t wake up for him if he cried, he’d soak the cot and I wouldn’t know, he’d stop breathing and I wouldn’t know. Gosh I remember feeling so anxious at one point I thought I was having a heart attack, my chest felt so tight! Plus, I found the darkness quite eery, I’d been so used to the hospital noises at night & knowing I had help whenever that being just the two of us with him at night was so scary, so I can totally sympathise! The only thing that helped me was watching old series of love island, i felt invested in other people’s lives for a moment while baby slept and I could switch off. It was nice!
Just know that you’re not alone in these feelings, and it does get better! I’m sure you’ve been told that many times, I know I did. But it’s so true, things start to become more natural, and you’ll even start to look forward to the nighttime routine, it’ll give you a little bit of me time while baby is happily asleep. Even if it’s just scrolling through your phone in bed, it’s a chance to rest ready to do it all again tomorrow. But I would like to add, god forbid if your feelings don’t start to get better please go & speak to someone, there is absolutely no shame in it, it speaks volumes as a mother if you notice you are struggling & need help, everything you do is for your little bundle of beautiful ness I’m sure!
I have recently reached out for support (had a traumatic birth, suffering ptsd) and it’s the best thing I did, as now I have the appropriate people keeping an eye on me and making sure that my boy has a healthy mum. I’m really shocked at how much the ptsd has affected me not only mentally but physically too, I get horrendous headaches at times that can render me useless & I have to rely on his dad but I know he’s in safe hands!
Just know that we’re all here for you if you need us