New baby and post birth advice #29 If you burn your butt, you have to sit on the blisters

[jackolantern]

I plan to never take my kids to see father Christmas if I can help it mean mummy!

Also, unrelated but I thought this might be fun/interesting - obviously every day is different, but in general, what is your favourite time of day/activity, and what is your least favourite?

I think my least favourite is the 30-60 minutes before dinner when I'm trying to cook, they're both tired and being whingebags, and one or both of them tends to do a tit

My favourite is having a cuddle in bed in the morning or any time me and toddler are dancing in the kitchen and it makes baby laugh!

Favourite is when we go and get his Daddy up in the mornings and all just lie in bed and snuggle together for half an hour

Least favourite is after his 7pm feed, it's his witching time and unfortunately the same time that OH goes for a nap before his shift with Tommy overnight, so I am always stuck with him. He is the devil incarnate for a good hour or two but I should be grateful really because it used to be a good 20-22 hours

You ok hun?

 

[miss_americana]

I plan to never take my kids to see father Christmas if I can help it mean mummy!

Also, unrelated but I thought this might be fun/interesting - obviously every day is different, but in general, what is your favourite time of day/activity, and what is your least favourite?

I think my least favourite is the 30-60 minutes before dinner when I'm trying to cook, they're both tired and being whingebags, and one or both of them tends to do a tit

My favourite is having a cuddle in bed in the morning or any time me and toddler are dancing in the kitchen and it makes baby laugh!

I love this! Favourite parts are;
-whenever she laughs at something me or her dad do
-first thing in the morning when she smiles and is so happy when we go in to get her out of the cot
-contact naps and just watching her sleep on me
-watching her learn new things or when we take her places and she sees something she really likes

Least fave:
-NICU and medical appointments
- from 3:30-4:30 when she is grumpy AF for no reason
-getting her ready to bed as its a sweaty wresting match

In other news baby A has her first settling in session at nursery tomorrow (I know how dare I be going to work and getting someone else to care for my child ). I’m hoping she’ll be okay! It’s all starting to feel very real now!

 

[Definitelyme]

school holiday edition
Favourite time: 9-11am when everyone is either just doing their own thing, or else we are out doing something already
Least favourite time: 4pm/before dinner, as with others. People are hangry, people are tired, people are trying to cook, people are angry (All those people are me )

Term time edition
Favourite time: 2-3pm when my second is home from school, and the little ones are playing with him and I get five mins peace and a cup of tea
Least favourite time: 3.30- teatime. Same as holiday edition, but with the added annoyance of trying to get homework done, and amuse the little two while helping the big two.

 

[Borntorun]

I plan to never take my kids to see father Christmas if I can help it mean mummy!

Also, unrelated but I thought this might be fun/interesting - obviously every day is different, but in general, what is your favourite time of day/activity, and what is your least favourite?

I think my least favourite is the 30-60 minutes before dinner when I'm trying to cook, they're both tired and being whingebags, and one or both of them tends to do a tit

My favourite is having a cuddle in bed in the morning or any time me and toddler are dancing in the kitchen and it makes baby laugh!

Toddler Runner:
My favourite: she loves crafts and I could sit and colour in with her for hours. She also loves cooking and she’s so good at chopping things like mushrooms and we cook dinner together.
Least favourite: pretend play. Meal times as she’s a right fuss pot and just refuses to eat most things. And occasionally she just decides to be a pain in the arse for no reason at all and when she’s in that mood she makes a bee line for my piles of clean folded washing that’s waiting to be put away and just unfolds it all.

Baby Runner:
Favourite: first thing in the morning. Yes, it’s inevitably 5am but she is just in such a delightful mood it makes up for how obscene the time is. I also think there’s something a bit special about snuggly baby night feeds
Least favourite: meal times as I inevitably have to clean food off everything within a 3 mile radius. And poo explosions that go up her back

 

[absolute-omnishambles]

Has anyone breastfeed and given a dummy super early? I’m keen to get a solid chunk of sleep but wondering if I offer the dummy too often will it affect our chance of success? I bottle fed my last baby so I’m assuming as long as I feed regularly it’ll be fine? (Night 3 here! Second time mum but feel like an absolute newbie again)

I EBF and she’s had a dummy from day 0. She takes pumped milk in a bottle too. We use MAM everything.

The studies about it interfering with breastfeeding are not solid enough. WHO has said parents can make up their own minds as the evidence base is not solid enough.

 

[Definitelyme]

Least favourite: pretend play.

The absolute WORST. I despise it. Luckily my kids now have each other for those sort of shenanigans.

(That said I spent a good portion of my evening playing cafes, which is probably the least offensive of all pretend play in our house)

 

[Borntorun]

Oh my god. I’ve just had the following conversation with KW and I’ve literally run to tattle as I think it’ll amuse some of you…

“I think I’ve worked out why Baby Runner likes Miss Rachel so much. She looks just like you.And you’re generally just quite similar”

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Oh my god. I’ve just had the following conversation with KW and I’ve literally run to tattle as I think it’ll amuse some of you…

“I think I’ve worked out why Baby Runner likes Miss Rachel so much. She looks just like you.And you’re generally just quite similar”

Mr Runner doesn't value life does he?

 

[xoxo GG]

finally touching down in this thread after what felt like the longest pregnancy ever

coming right in with the need for some advice related so I’ll throw it behind a spoiler

Spoiler: TMI

3 days PP and I am SUFFERING so badly with piles. It was there just before I had baby but pushing has 100000% made it worse to the point I’m struggling to sit I’ve got some ointment that I’m applying but I’m hoping someone, somewhere might have some advice that helped ease it quickly

 

[absolute-omnishambles]

This baby is still not napping. It’s killing me.

She’ll have a contact nap after feeding, but for 5-10 minutes and then she’s rooting again.

I’m getting a decent chunk of sleep at night, four hour stretches- but the nap of lacking is a nightmare. MIL has been here helping this week so the house is tidy and I have done some exercise- but usually I am just holding or feeding an awake baby all day.

She chills in her bouncer if I really do need to put her down but it doesn’t solve the bedtime problem. Because of the no napping (bar 5 x 10 minute catnaps) by the time it’s bedtime, she’s overtired. She refuses the big bottle of milk to knock her out and is just rigid and hyper alert.

My husband had to do what I can only describe as frantic disco dancing with her last night for about 45 minutes straight to get her to sleep.

I’m trying to wind her down at early sleep cues, but she doesn’t want to. She’ll just try and root for food or start shouting. She’s gaining weight beautifully and enough dirty/wet nappies so I don’t think she’s hungry. She has a dummy but it only seems to piss her off when she is overtired rather than being pacifying.

It’s really unhelpful to be told that she should be sleeping for 16 hours a day she doesn’t. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

 

[Borntorun]

finally touching down in this thread after what felt like the longest pregnancy ever

coming right in with the need for some advice related so I’ll throw it behind a spoiler

Spoiler: TMI

3 days PP and I am SUFFERING so badly with piles. It was there just before I had baby but pushing has 100000% made it worse to the point I’m struggling to sit I’ve got some ointment that I’m applying but I’m hoping someone, somewhere might have some advice that helped ease it quickly

Go to your GP and get the proper stuff. Suppositories and cream. And I’d also recommend getting a sitz bath and Epsom salts. Don’t worry, postpartum piles are a frequently discussed matter around these parts

The absolute WORST. I despise it. Luckily my kids now have each other for those sort of shenanigans.

(That said I spent a good portion of my evening playing cafes, which is probably the least offensive of all pretend play in our house)

How long do I have to wait before the baby can be enough of an active participant in this nonsense so I don’t get dragged into it?!

 

[calmyourritas]

I will also add onto my least favourite bit when you’re with family members who insist on holding her and passing her round and talking really loudly in her face and the baby is just screaming.

You have to sit there and smile and pretend it doesn’t feel like you’re being shot in the heart. Then eventually someone decides to pass her back and she obviously stops crying then they say “oh she just doesn’t like me.”
Well no Brenda she doesn’t actually but you insisted that you needed to hold her

 

[Definitelyme]

finally touching down in this thread after what felt like the longest pregnancy ever

coming right in with the need for some advice related so I’ll throw it behind a spoiler

Spoiler: TMI

3 days PP and I am SUFFERING so badly with piles. It was there just before I had baby but pushing has 100000% made it worse to the point I’m struggling to sit I’ve got some ointment that I’m applying but I’m hoping someone, somewhere might have some advice that helped ease it quickly

Congratulations! (On the baby, not the piles!)

This baby is still not napping. It’s killing me.

She’ll have a contact nap after feeding, but for 5-10 minutes and then she’s rooting again.

I’m getting a decent chunk of sleep at night, four hour stretches- but the nap of lacking is a nightmare. MIL has been here helping this week so the house is tidy and I have done some exercise- but usually I am just holding or feeding an awake baby all day.

She chills in her bouncer if I really do need to put her down but it doesn’t solve the bedtime problem. Because of the no napping (bar 5 x 10 minute catnaps) by the time it’s bedtime, she’s overtired. She refuses the big bottle of milk to knock her out and is just rigid and hyper alert.

My husband had to do what I can only describe as frantic disco dancing with her last night for about 45 minutes straight to get her to sleep.

I’m trying to wind her down at early sleep cues, but she doesn’t want to. She’ll just try and root for food or start shouting. She’s gaining weight beautifully and enough dirty/wet nappies so I don’t think she’s hungry. She has a dummy but it only seems to piss her off when she is overtired rather than being pacifying.

It’s really unhelpful to be told that she should be sleeping for 16 hours a day she doesn’t. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

When she roots around after 5/10 mins does she go back to sleep if you feed her?

 

[miss_americana]

Oh my god. I’ve just had the following conversation with KW and I’ve literally run to tattle as I think it’ll amuse some of you…

“I think I’ve worked out why Baby Runner likes Miss Rachel so much. She looks just like you.And you’re generally just quite similar”

Could be worse. Could be Miss Immy

 

[Borntorun]

This baby is still not napping. It’s killing me.

She’ll have a contact nap after feeding, but for 5-10 minutes and then she’s rooting again.

I’m getting a decent chunk of sleep at night, four hour stretches- but the nap of lacking is a nightmare. MIL has been here helping this week so the house is tidy and I have done some exercise- but usually I am just holding or feeding an awake baby all day.

She chills in her bouncer if I really do need to put her down but it doesn’t solve the bedtime problem. Because of the no napping (bar 5 x 10 minute catnaps) by the time it’s bedtime, she’s overtired. She refuses the big bottle of milk to knock her out and is just rigid and hyper alert.

My husband had to do what I can only describe as frantic disco dancing with her last night for about 45 minutes straight to get her to sleep.

I’m trying to wind her down at early sleep cues, but she doesn’t want to. She’ll just try and root for food or start shouting. She’s gaining weight beautifully and enough dirty/wet nappies so I don’t think she’s hungry. She has a dummy but it only seems to piss her off when she is overtired rather than being pacifying.

It’s really unhelpful to be told that she should be sleeping for 16 hours a day she doesn’t. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

First of all, I promise you’re not doing anything wrong. Some babies just don’t like being babies. And I’ve never had a baby that sleeps the ridiculous lengths of time they recommend.
How old is your baby again? Personally, I’ve never really managed to get a baby sleeping unless they’re on me, and often I need to be moving too so my baby tends to sleep in a carrier a lot. It’s also really common for babies to just absolutely lose their tit in the evening - it’s not called the witching hour for nothing.
Reading this back, I’m not sure I’ve said anything remotely helpful, but solidarity, we’ve all been there and I promise they do grow out of it

 

[DaisyDaisy87]

Awww my favourite bit is in the morning, he’s super cute and chatty and I sit him on the bed and open the blinds and he just stares at the blind with this big gummy excited grin every morning

Worst part - about 2am when he’s woken me in the middle of a dream for the 1927478194 time of the night haha.

In terms of Santa I’ve always wondered this - is it weird to go with a baby who clearly has no idea what’s going on and who Santa is? Like are we just going to be weird awkward parents in the queue while other normal aged children around are actually excited. Or will there be lots of parents with just one baby?!

 

[absolute-omnishambles]

Congratulations! (On the baby, not the piles!)



When she roots around after 5/10 mins does she go back to sleep if you feed her?

She does and then I’ll move to put her in her cot or Moses basket and then she’ll start shouting.

I am just so jealous of people who just know their baby will sleep for x amount of hours so they can prepare dinner or do some laundry.

If she napped reliably too, my husband would be able to have her in his office for chunks of the day too so I could do some sorting out or have some downtime. he is ‘the boss’ so can get away with her snoozing on his work time.

I feel like I’m in a hostage situation

First of all, I promise you’re not doing anything wrong. Some babies just don’t like being babies. And I’ve never had a baby that sleeps the ridiculous lengths of time they recommend.
How old is your baby again? Personally, I’ve never really managed to get a baby sleeping unless they’re on me, and often I need to be moving too so my baby tends to sleep in a carrier a lot. It’s also really common for babies to just absolutely lose their tit in the evening - it’s not called the witching hour for nothing.
Reading this back, I’m not sure I’ve said anything remotely helpful, but solidarity, we’ve all been there and I promise they do grow out of it

she’s 9 weeks old today.

I have a fabric sling which she likes sometimes, but 9/10 times- the time that she needs it is when it will piss her off.

I have never heard of the witching hour…we have been calling it ‘party time’ in our house

bleeping terrible party though, frankly

 

[Definitelyme]

Awww my favourite bit is in the morning, he’s super cute and chatty and I sit him on the bed and open the blinds and he just stares at the blind with this big gummy excited grin every morning

Worst part - about 2am when he’s woken me in the middle of a dream for the 1927478194 time of the night haha.

In terms of Santa I’ve always wondered this - is it weird to go with a baby who clearly has no idea what’s going on and who Santa is? Like are we just going to be weird awkward parents in the queue while other normal aged children around are actually excited. Or will there be lots of parents with just one baby?!

There is usually a mix I think. We went last Christmas to a big Santa experience and there was definitely a big mix of ages.
tbh we did it last year to get a picture of Santa and all 4 kids so we can show them they did see Santa at some point. We usually do not go to see Santa as it’s over priced, and my kids hate strangers so won’t go anywhere near him.

 

[Jellybean093]

Why do my kids hate me and why do they always need me when I sit my arse down to eat?
KW is at work. I haven’t eaten in hours. Kids (not baby) are upstairs. Kid and toddler come down. Kid holding my no sweat roll on. Toddler has rolled it on his face, brothers face and sisters face. Guess no one in this house will have a sweaty forehead for a week 🫠
Had to put the baby down to wash toddler. He’s screaming, toddlers screaming and I’m hangry this is why I hate this time of day. They all gang up on me

 

[Borntorun]

She does and then I’ll move to put her in her cot or Moses basket and then she’ll start shouting.

I am just so jealous of people who just know their baby will sleep for x amount of hours so they can prepare dinner or do some laundry.

If she napped reliably too, my husband would be able to have her in his office for chunks of the day too so I could do some sorting out or have some downtime. he is ‘the boss’ so can get away with her snoozing on his work time.

I feel like I’m in a hostage situation



she’s 9 weeks old today.

I have a fabric sling which she likes sometimes, but 9/10 times- the time that she needs it is when it will piss her off.

I have never heard of the witching hour…we have been calling it ‘party time’ in our house

bleeping terrible party though, frankly

Honestly I think your baby is far more ‘normal’ (maybe I should say common not normal?) than the idea of popping them in a basket and leaving them to it. I bet if we took a thread poll, loads of us contact nap, and have to cosleep at night too as babies just don’t like to sleep alone. They’re only small once, forget about the sorting out for now, and snuggle down on the sofa with some terrible tv instead