Could she potentially have ADHD if you’re thinking maybe not ASD? I remember you posting a while ago about your eldest and she sounds very similar to my eldest. ADHD runs in our families (both) and my 4yo behaves exactly as his dad did as a child (diagnosed ADHD at 5, which I think is quite early in comparison to these days!) Anyway, he has night terrors where he runs around like a demon, lots of meltdowns over seemingly minor things but is chilled as anything at nursery, masks massively but at home he’s like
he’s a dream until he isn’t. Will throw things including trains at his brothers head (
) and will totally destroy my living room and anything in his path as if he’s on another planet and won’t be calmed down easily at all..doesn’t respond to discipline which is fine generally as he’s rarely “naughty” just extremely reactive (read as over-reactive). Following this he’ll be calm and say something so minor like “so what are we having for dinner” or “oh mummy…do you remember when…” as if nothings happened! It’s mad! I’ve never seen it in any of the kids I’ve worked with so we think he might be the same as his dad (confirmed by my MIL who feels “so sorry for me having to deal with this like she did”
duck off woman
) but anyway sorry this is long, just was thinking about it after your post!
ps. Her behaviour if she is ADHD/ASD/anything really is totally not on you as a parent, some kids are just extremely highly strung and very much struggle to deal with big emotions even later than the “standard” age that everyone says of 2 or 3. I had a big old slap in the face when I realised 4 was definitely NOT as plain sailing as everyone had described (or do they just leave that bit out in the handbook….) also KW is a
twit, he should be SUPPORTING you to cope better. Give him a smack from me.
Hugs xx