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Thank you, yeah Scotland so I'll have a look!This should give you a rough idea, You're Scotland aren't you? Hopefully it's similar xA guide to obtaining your medical records - Birth Trauma Association
The Birth Trauma Association (BTA) supports all women who have had a traumatic birth experience. It is estimated that, in the UK alone, this may result in 10,000 women a year developing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)www.birthtraumaassociation.org.uk
Haha I know me either, although I can’t complain I feel judged my other mums for working then judge them for notEach to their own obviously, but I don’t think I could deal with sending the baby to nursery if I was just off to the gym for the day, there are so many mums at my gym who do this…maybe like 1 day a week but even so, I think I’d feel such guilt! Ask me again when I’ve started work
You’ve all said it before but the childcare situation is so fucked in this country. It sounds like each and every one of us is having to compromise on what we want and what is best for our kids. Ideally, I’d have liked baby to go one less day a week but my job just isn’t do-able on less than full time, I just know I’d get passed by career wise (unless I magically climb ranks in the next few years and become senior enough to do what I want) plus it’s just not financially worth it for us. Atm I’m doing 5 days in 4.5, i earn more money than mr B and he’s doing a 9 day fortnight so we’ll both get to spend some time with her. Not sure how we’d cope without the grandparents around either!
also very interested in the response re nannies/au pairs and nanny sharing. Tons of people I work with have nannies, but literally no idea on the realities of the costs and logistics of all of it…?!
we had this for a few days before testing positivehope this isn’t the case for you!
It’s awful isn’t it, money aside it took me 7 years of study and work to qualify as a lawyer, so even if I could financially afford to stay off its then a huge career sacrifice, that still seems to primarily affect women.@I’mThankyou_ i would love to be a fly on your wall for one day, I think I’d be immensely entertainedyou should write a book with all your letters and tweets!
OK I’m caught up.
All this work chat actually breaks my heart, we’re all a very intelligent bunch of women who have trained/worked hard for our careers yet we’re the ones who have to make the sacrifices, all with a smile on our faces! They wonder why womens mental health are in the gutters after babies!
I’m doing 3 days a week 2 annual leave days with 9 hour days. I’m quite lucky that my company have been so flexible with me, but I know for a fact I’ll be doing more hours because my team are well,… my team… they’re all men.
Also, we’ve had similar a temp but no other symptoms and think (?) it’s teething related but so hard to tell!Ah ok, we have no dribble or red cheeks but yeah maybe. She did a big sloppylast night. She’s a bit wobbly today so on hold to doctors for possible ear infection
I’m imagining you being like Joe Lycett when he is trolling companies online for his stand up showsNo one is safe, honestly. Even my local chippy had a note on their car a few days ago as I couldn't get the pram past
I've always been a complainer, and I love a good complaint letter but since having the twins I've gotten really bad, I especially like to use the phrase "we live in a man's world, that is not only inaccessible for the working woman raising a young family but is also inaccessible for the parents of multiples and children very close in age" that's raised a few eyebrows
I'd say I need a hobby, but as Mr TY pointed out recently when he caught the postman delivering me yet another complaint response this is clearly my hobby
You’re a hero to all!No one is safe, honestly. Even my local chippy had a note on their car a few days ago as I couldn't get the pram past
I've always been a complainer, and I love a good complaint letter but since having the twins I've gotten really bad, I especially like to use the phrase "we live in a man's world, that is not only inaccessible for the working woman raising a young family but is also inaccessible for the parents of multiples and children very close in age" that's raised a few eyebrows
I'd say I need a hobby, but as Mr TY pointed out recently when he caught the postman delivering me yet another complaint response this is clearly my hobby
We never got/get any dribble, only when she’s excited she dribbles, I’ve always wanted an excuse for lil pidge to wear a dribble bib as they’re cuteNothing! Shes off her food so hopefully all signs are leading to teeth (no dribble or gnawing though)
It’s a joke! It’s like people think we study/work all these years to then throw is away willingly when it’s just far from the truth!It’s awful isn’t it, money aside it took me 7 years of study and work to qualify as a lawyer, so even if I could financially afford to stay off its then a huge career sacrifice, that still seems to primarily affect women.
I’d hope a female prime minister might be more willing to shake the system, but that’s clearly wishful thinking with this bunch in power!
Welcome to the dark side@I’mThankyou_ you’re my hero, my motto shall be “be more Thank You” from now on.
Only recently moved out of the civil service, where I think lobbying your MP is frowned upon, need to make the most of the freedom!
That’s exactly where I am. I’m lucky enough that we could financially afford for me to quit my job however I’ve been training for this for like 14 years if you include med school and I’ve wanted to do nothing but be a surgeon since I was little. So many friends have told me to stay at home or just switch specialities but I don’t want to put that all to waste (and I think I’m a pretty decent surgeon if I do say so myself!)It’s awful isn’t it, money aside it took me 7 years of study and work to qualify as a lawyer, so even if I could financially afford to stay off its then a huge career sacrifice, that still seems to primarily affect women.
I’d hope a female prime minister might be more willing to shake the system, but that’s clearly wishful thinking with this bunch in power!
When the kids are older you could go on to have the career you want! My mum studied and got her PhD while I was at school (I am the youngest), and went on to become a university lecturer, after years of staying at home with us.I’ve just come to accept that I’ll never have a career. I had my first straight out of uni (lmao shouldn’t have bothered just got lumbered with a shit ton of debt) so carried on working in a supermarket to qualify for mat leave went back had another baby and now we can’t afford for me to work. When I eventually go back to work my job will have to work around school runs so I’ve never had a career and probably never will.
It’s quite sad really, like my husband will never have to think about those things because as mums we just take on that burden…
shout out to @I’mThankyou_ for fighting for our rights as mums!
Just to add my mum worked as a cleaner and in supermarkets while we were young and went back to work when I was 9. She progressed until she was management level for the council and earned far more than my dad, she was the one who was able to take us away on holidays etc. feels like a long road but there is plenty of time to focus on your career when the children are settled and older in school!I’ve just come to accept that I’ll never have a career. I had my first straight out of uni (lmao shouldn’t have bothered just got lumbered with a shit ton of debt) so carried on working in a supermarket to qualify for mat leave went back had another baby and now we can’t afford for me to work. When I eventually go back to work my job will have to work around school runs so I’ve never had a career and probably never will.
It’s quite sad really, like my husband will never have to think about those things because as mums we just take on that burden…
Go grandmama Me!When the kids are older you could go on to have the career you want! My mum studied and got her PhD while I was at school (I am the youngest), and went on to become a university lecturer, after years of staying at home with us.
Realistically, I’m not driven enough to do anything like that (read: I am lazy)
Friend, you are a superhero!!!!So that was a lot to catch up on, but that’s because … wait for it … I took all 4 kids swimmingis there any more stressful 10 minutes than the post swim changing room 10 minutes? Plus all the family rooms were taken so all 5 of us in a teeny weeny one. Kids crammed in each corner and me in the middle handing stuff out
I hear you on the debt! I fell pregnant accidentally at 19, I wanted to become a nurse. Thankfully I managed to get there but I ended up with a shit ton of debt and a career that says it's "flexible" and it wasn't. My parents were superstars so that I could start work after I qualified and we got into a routine so I didn't waste 3 years of my life in uni, but how many women don't have that option? Why do we have to settle? Even when their the main breadwinner of their family? Why should it fall on women? Because history dictates it? Because we live in a world where male privilege trumps all? It honestly angers me to no end, what was the point in fighting for women's rights when it comes to raising the next generation women are cast to the side in their careers, like @Kaylarina a surgeon, I've seen so many female Dr's at work be questioned WHY they want to start a family and would their career choice work along side it and maybe they should consider a speciality such as Derm because its considered family friendly. Imagine saying that to a man.I’ve just come to accept that I’ll never have a career. I had my first straight out of uni (lmao shouldn’t have bothered just got lumbered with a shit ton of debt) so carried on working in a supermarket to qualify for mat leave went back had another baby and now we can’t afford for me to work. When I eventually go back to work my job will have to work around school runs so I’ve never had a career and probably never will.
It’s quite sad really, like my husband will never have to think about those things because as mums we just take on that burden…
shout out to @I’mThankyou_ for fighting for our rights as mums!
Hardest bit was making sure the families in the changing room either side didn’t hear my whispered threats at them so we presented as cool, calm and collectedFriend, you are a superhero!!!!
Nana TY did exactly the same as Mama Me!When the kids are older you could go on to have the career you want! My mum studied and got her PhD while I was at school (I am the youngest), and went on to become a university lecturer, after years of staying at home with us.
Realistically, I’m not driven enough to do anything like that (read: I am lazy)
I think it’s different if you start before having a baby maybe. My mum did her degree part time while I was a baby/toddler, then started working as a teacher, took a few years off when she had twins, and by the time I was 14 she was deputy head of a large private school in London, so defo more than possible to start a career post baby!! (Also probably possible to drop a career then pick it back up - either scenario is just hard bloody work and feels unfair that it’s predominantly women who struggle!)I’ve just come to accept that I’ll never have a career. I had my first straight out of uni (lmao shouldn’t have bothered just got lumbered with a shit ton of debt) so carried on working in a supermarket to qualify for mat leave went back had another baby and now we can’t afford for me to work. When I eventually go back to work my job will have to work around school runs so I’ve never had a career and probably never will.
It’s quite sad really, like my husband will never have to think about those things because as mums we just take on that burden…
shout out to @I’mThankyou_ for fighting for our rights as mums!
Ahhh I’m so jealous, I used to be obsessed with Scrubs and wanted to be a surgeon, although turns out I’m quite squeamish so maybe not for me after allThat’s exactly where I am. I’m lucky enough that we could financially afford for me to quit my job however I’ve been training for this for like 14 years if you include med school and I’ve wanted to do nothing but be a surgeon since I was little. So many friends have told me to stay at home or just switch specialities but I don’t want to put that all to waste (and I think I’m a pretty decent surgeon if I do say so myself!)
I think starting your own ‘pregnant then screwed’ esque movement would be a great for you!Friend, you are a superhero!!!!
I hear you on the debt! I fell pregnant accidentally at 19, I wanted to become a nurse. Thankfully I managed to get there but I ended up with a shit ton of debt and a career that says it's "flexible" and it wasn't. My parents were superstars so that I could start work after I qualified and we got into a routine so I didn't waste 3 years of my life in uni, but how many women don't have that option? Why do we have to settle? Even when their the main breadwinner of their family? Why should it fall on women? Because history dictates it? Because we live in a world where male privilege trumps all? It honestly angers me to no end, what was the point in fighting for women's rights when it comes to raising the next generation women are cast to the side in their careers, like @Kaylarina a surgeon, I've seen so many female Dr's at work be questioned WHY they want to start a family and would their career choice work along side it and maybe they should consider a speciality such as Derm because its considered family friendly. Imagine saying that to a man.
Right I'm getting off my soap box else I'll be writing a complaint letter to the UN about women's human rights in no time
This is why Mr TY says yes to deployment,hes sick of hearing it, though hed give up his job in a heartbeat, he's a feminist at heart.
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