New baby and post birth advice #17 Vegetable Oil Tantrums

[LilyRose1234]

Me too Cat thankyou really needs a friend but Mr Thankyou says no

Ethically ambiguous but you could just gaslight him - Mrs ThankYou why are there two cats?
- Don’t be silly Mr ThankYou, we only have one cat.
- But I can see two
- Really, I can only see one.
Basically make him think he’s imagining the second one!

I’d love more cats I find raising kittens easier then babies for sure

Haha we have dogs but we say the opposite, ours are such hard work the baby is easier when people ask us if they should get a dog we’re like no have a baby, far easier

 

[Crazycatlady18]

Another morning of her waking up in pain and not eating.
something isnt right and I literally do not know what to do now. She’s acting weird, she just wants to sleep. The nhs just think I’m an idiot. I can’t afford private, I can’t cope any more. She whines from the minute she wakes to the minute she goes to bed. Her behaviour is getting weirder. She’s falling asleep on the bottle after an hour of being up, she won’t eat, it’s making her gag, she’s on the floor frantic bringing her knees up, panting. It’s like this all day. But according to the nhs she’s just swallowing a bit of air. But it’s like this all day everyday. Every. Single. Day. I cannot cope. I am trapped between staying at home and making my daughter comfortable enough to eat, or have a life no one Understands how unbelievably drained I am. I just don’t know what to do.

 

[LilyRose1234]

Another morning of her waking up in pain and not eating.
something isnt right and I literally do not know what to do now. She’s acting weird, she just wants to sleep. The nhs just think I’m an idiot. I can’t afford private, I can’t cope any more. She whines from the minute she wakes to the minute she goes to bed. Her behaviour is getting weirder. She’s falling asleep on the bottle after an hour of being up, she won’t eat, it’s making her gag, she’s on the floor frantic bringing her knees up, panting. It’s like this all day. But according to the nhs she’s just swallowing a bit of air. But it’s like this all day everyday. Every. Single. Day. I cannot cope. I am trapped between staying at home and making my daughter comfortable enough to eat, or have a life no one Understands how unbelievably drained I am. I just don’t know what to do.

Do you think it’s worth going to A&E? I’m not sure how it works but in adults it usually means you get access to things like scans faster than if you were waiting to be referred?
Ps In case you need to hear it - you’re not an idiot, please don’t let anyone make you think you are. You’re doing a fantastic job under awful circumstances and she’s very lucky to have a mum like you xxx

 

[Crazycatlady18]

Do you think it’s worth going to A&E? I’m not sure how it works but in adults it usually means you get access to things like scans faster than if you were waiting to be referred?
Ps In case you need to hear it - you’re not an idiot, please don’t let anyone make you think you are. You’re doing a fantastic job under awful circumstances and she’s very lucky to have a mum like you xxx

I’ve been to a&e before and they literally humiliated me, I even heard them say she’s an anxious mum. Just put her over your shoulder and pat her back.
Ok I do that already all bleeping day. I shouldn’t have to burp a baby that’s just woken up. She’s had 3oz this morning. That’s it. I’m just at a loss as to what the hell is wrong with her. She won’t eat. Her behaviour is getting really weird.
I just don’t know what it is

 

[LilyRose1234]

I’ve been to a&e before and they literally humiliated me, I even heard them say she’s an anxious mum. Just put her over your shoulder and pat her back.
Ok I do that already all bleeping day. I shouldn’t have to burp a baby that’s just woken up. She’s had 3oz this morning. That’s it. I’m just at a loss as to what the hell is wrong with her. She won’t eat. Her behaviour is getting really weird.
I just don’t know what it is

Bunch of dickheads.
For what it’s worth if she’s really not acting right, I think you should go back, although I can understand why you wouldn’t want to!!

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Another morning of her waking up in pain and not eating.
something isnt right and I literally do not know what to do now. She’s acting weird, she just wants to sleep. The nhs just think I’m an idiot. I can’t afford private, I can’t cope any more. She whines from the minute she wakes to the minute she goes to bed. Her behaviour is getting weirder. She’s falling asleep on the bottle after an hour of being up, she won’t eat, it’s making her gag, she’s on the floor frantic bringing her knees up, panting. It’s like this all day. But according to the nhs she’s just swallowing a bit of air. But it’s like this all day everyday. Every. Single. Day. I cannot cope. I am trapped between staying at home and making my daughter comfortable enough to eat, or have a life no one Understands how unbelievably drained I am. I just don’t know what to do.

Is it worth gathering as much evidence as you can, so you've already collected info on how many times you burped her yesterday. I know its not nice to watch but film her when she's like this, and film her when she feeds too? Do you have any other A&Es localish? Not necessarily the one you've been to previously and literally sit there and demand to see someone and show them exactly what you both have to go through on a daily basis.
I know its not ideal but it's the only thing I can think of, if they can physically see it perhaps someone might actually think hey, there's something here let's help this little girl.

 

[Crazycatlady18]

Bunch of dickheads.
For what it’s worth if she’s really not acting right, I think you should go back, although I can understand why you wouldn’t want to!!

They are a bunch of dick heads

Is it worth gathering as much evidence as you can, so you've already collected info on how many times you burped her yesterday. I know its not nice to watch but film her when she's like this, and film her when she feeds too? Do you have any other A&Es localish? Not necessarily the one you've been to previously and literally sit there and demand to see someone and show them exactly what you both have to go through on a daily basis.
I know its not ideal but it's the only thing I can think of, if they can physically see it perhaps someone might actually think hey, there's something here let's help this little girl.

Yeah I’m logging everything. We’ve done 10 this morning. So now in 24 hours that 71 burps. Now im a human being an I know that’s not normal.
I live in a big town, im not entirely sure where my next a&e would be.
i filmed her feeds for the feeding team who had never heard about the elevated side laying position and I had to send her the link to difficult feeders. So I have no faith in this system any more.
I’ve asked for my health visitor to call me. See what she says.
its so bad when you have to log everything to prove you’re not insane x

 

[I’mThankyou_]

They are a bunch of dick heads


Yeah I’m logging everything. We’ve done 10 this morning. So now in 24 hours that 71 burps. Now im a human being an I know that’s not normal.
I live in a big town, im not entirely sure where my next a&e would be.
i filmed her feeds for the feeding team who had never heard about the elevated side laying position and I had to send her the link to difficult feeders. So I have no faith in this system any more.
I’ve asked for my health visitor to call me. See what she says.
its so bad when you have to log everything to prove you’re not insane x

I'm sorry I've not got anything more useful, the only other thing I can think of is just literally handcuffing yourself to the hospital

 

[Crazycatlady18]

I'm sorry I've not got anything more useful, the only other thing I can think of is just literally handcuffing yourself to the hospital

Haha literally I’m not leaving until you help me

 

[Borntorun]

Is it weird this thread has now inspired me to count the burps today?!

 

[Crazycatlady18]

Is it weird this thread has now inspired me to count the burps today?!

Do it id be interested to know if 71 in 24 hours is a relatively normal figure

 

[Borntorun]

Do it id be interested to know if 71 in 24 hours is a relatively normal figure

Well I started two hours ago and we’re at 8

 

[Crazycatlady18]

Well I started two hours ago and we’re at 8

I literally don’t understand how they get so much air inside themselves

 

[Borntorun]

I literally don’t understand how they get so much air inside themselves

Especially as I’m breastfeeding. Not like I’ve got boobs full of air that I pump up each night like a tyre

 

[Dipdab]

I’ve been to a&e before and they literally humiliated me, I even heard them say she’s an anxious mum. Just put her over your shoulder and pat her back.
Ok I do that already all bleeping day. I shouldn’t have to burp a baby that’s just woken up. She’s had 3oz this morning. That’s it. I’m just at a loss as to what the hell is wrong with her. She won’t eat. Her behaviour is getting really weird.
I just don’t know what it is

Not sure where in the country you are? If you’re near North London I can really recommend Barnet hospital/ royal free trust they have been excellent for us

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Does anyones baby just gaze off in to space? Or is mine just weird

Orange does it too I always wonder what she’s thinking about x

Ethically ambiguous but you could just gaslight him - Mrs ThankYou why are there two cats?
- Don’t be silly Mr ThankYou, we only have one cat.
- But I can see two
- Really, I can only see one.
Basically make him think he’s imagining the second one!


Haha we have dogs but we say the opposite, ours are such hard work the baby is easier when people ask us if they should get a dog we’re like no have a baby, far easier

I don’t think I would ever buy my own dog I know it sounds crazy but you can’t take dogs everywhere with you like you can with a baby I personally love animals dogs especially but I do find them to be very demanding I agree a baby is a lot easier I think I over worried about what having a baby would be like because I don’t find it as difficult as I thought but I really did worry a lot. Xx

 

[wakametango 2.0]

Not sure where in the country you are? If you’re near North London I can really recommend Barnet hospital/ royal free trust they have been excellent for us

Barnet is where I waited 12 hours to see a dr! Was there 16 hours in total, they’ve closed Enfield and a herts hospital so has influx of 3 boroughs

 

[Dipdab]

Barnet is where I waited 12 hours to see a dr! Was there 16 hours in total, they’ve closed Enfield and a herts hospital so has influx of 3 boroughs

Oh no! I’ve had really good experiences recently! I got an appointment same week after a referral recently! Must be lucky!

 

[wakametango 2.0]

Oh no! I’ve had really good experiences recently! I got an appointment same week after a referral recently! Must be lucky!

Yeah! every few hours they were announcing they were dangerously over capacity and asking people who weren’t in pain to go home and go to their local urgent care in the morning. Announcing a&e doctors to report immediately for ambulances coming in, it was like an apocalypse, people queuing outside, security guards on the door

 

[bottombanana]

Thank you everyone for the advice yesterday about baby’s skin. Just an update, I’ve just spoken to a doctor who basically said what you guys said, it’s eczema. I’ve been told to moisturise at least 2x a day and if it doesn’t clear/gets worse/starts to annoy him they’ll see him in person to decide whether to try a steroid cream or look at his diet. Again, thank you if you guys hadn’t given the advice I’d probably have just carried on treatment for ringworm for a couple of weeks - poor boy would have been red raw