Posted this on an other thread so apologies for repetition but thought it may be more appropriate for this one. I’m so annoyed, had a big fall out with my brother that lead up to Christmas Day hence this resulted in me not going to his, had a pretty awful Christmas due to this hanging over my head, anyway long story short he rang me on Christmas Day (to make an unjustified point) and this resulted in him upsetting me and my Daughter on Christmas Day, I sent him a message to say he has upset us and to not bother calling me again, as usual heard nothing back and no reply to my message! so basically have gone no contact with him and his wife since, my daughter has told me today that my brother has messaged her dad (my ex husband) on Christmas Day (as she wasn't with me) to ask if she was okay
and has proceeded to then fill him on the family argument! I am fuming a) it’s none of my ex husbands business and b) to be fair to my ex he’s told my daughter he didn’t respond to my brother’s message regarding our fallout/argument as he didn’t want to get dragged into the mess (fair play he didn’t ask for it) but why the hell does my brother feel it’s appropriate to do that! I keep my life private from my ex as we don’t really talk (unless we have to) my brother has shown little to no respect for it, decided to go no contact with him although I have the overwhelming urge to message him to say wth are you playing at?!! I feel it would be no use messaging as he would likely ignore me
and it wouldn’t solve anything so I sit here fuming about it instead!
but I literally hate my brother for causing me so much hurt and pain and yet I have done so much for him but not any more
why are families so flaming difficult