Totally agree with you, people might say we are like 'hurlers in the ditch' but sometimes it is easier from outside to see what's going on. I think when women, and some men too, are in these kinds of relationships they can't see what's happening, until a long time into it. And people (Mark, and other vloggers) will say you only see bits of our life, true if it's a 30 min edited vlog maybe...the thing is, because they do so many lives, and podcasts we get a much bigger picture of their real personalities and relationship dynamic. Which from where I'm sitting needs a lot of work if it's to become healthy and genuinely loving..or even last.