Yes I agree and i should have stated that I certainly wouldn't tolerate it... but sadly some people doNew to the thread but just read this and thought wow.
Ladies, please do not settle for anything like this. This is just so disrespectful and shouldn't be tolerated even if others do!
Not too soon, gave me a much needed smile this morning!
I am so sorry you're going through this and I'm sending all the love and healing your wayI've tried getting into emails but don't know password. He only has WhatsApp so can't get into that. I honestly don't know, he says first time but then again he must be very unlucky to be caught out first time. What gets me is I was so sure he was not that type of guy but his behaviour was so off the last month I knew something wasn't right. I've managed to sleep for an hour, going to try get some more so hopefully I can think straight. I've only told my boss so far as I wanted to change working arrangements later this week. I can't bear to tell my best friends yet
you don't need to tell anyone yet if you don't want to, especially if you feel that you won't get support. You deserve so much better than this and I really hope you find the strength and courage to leave him. If you have doubts about ending things, just think - why would you want to spend any more of your time investing in someone who can do something like this? Yes you've been together a very long time but you have a choice to start a new life and new story for yourself, do not settle just because you're scared of being alone.. surely you'll feel more alone in the relationship- how will you ever trust him again? Please know your worth. Of course if there's children / finances involved it can make the situation a lot more difficult but a plan can be made. Be kind to yourself, this is nothing to do with you and everything to do with him and how he feels about himself (negative).
xxxI think they stay with the wives for security and use the excuse of them being the most important person to them as a form of appeasing and control.Tom spoke about it on a show ( it's on Google too) he slept with over 250 behind his wife's backbut would never leave her he was devoted to her and said she's most important person in his life ...look at Wayne Rooney and his shenanigans he could have set up home with any of they tarts he was with but he won't leave Colleen so she must be his true love even though he has done that to her
Mission accomplished!
Am I right in thinking if married they still have a right to a certain percentage of assets etc?Same thing happened me with my ex he cheated and house was solely in my name I got a certain satisfaction from him being sent back to his mothers box room. Of course hes concerned about it being fully over not because hes sorry about what hes done but because he had a certain level of comfort hes now realised he has lost!
Not necessarily entitled if one person owned the house before marriage they would only be entitled to what they paid into the house for example if they contributed 20k towards an extension they would be entitled to that back but not 50%.
Before you confront him can you get hold of his phone/email? Check his bank statements, emails, social media, phone records. Because when confronted, they normally flat out deny it, despite the evidence you've already got that seems pretty concrete. Did he even go with his mates? Can you get proof of that before you confront him?
Hi thanks for replying, I totally understand people making mistakes I just feel his was a choice rather than a mistake.. I’m struggling to forgive completely it’s always there in the back of my head. It’s just so shit x
Hi, thanks for replying!, I do believe it was just sex there wasn’t a “relationship” type thing going on, oooh I didn’t know that about TJ
xHi thanks for replying, he just said things were really strained between us, which is true I admit that however I didn’t fall into bed with someone else so idk
. But you’re right about spur of the moment decisions xSending you some strength & love to get through this! What a scumbag. I will never understand how / why they do it.I confronted him when his alarm went this morning about the Viagra so before I saw your post. You are right he did try to deny it but I deliberately held the info back about the condoms so I knew he was lying. He eventually admitted it, a girl he met on his boys golf holiday last month, they arranged to meet this weekend so the 'golf weekend' with his mates was made up. I was and still am remarkably calm considering he tried to weasel his way out of it at first. At least he hasn't tried to turn it on me in any way (I would have lost it). I've sent him to work, fortunately I have a day off to consider what on earth I should do. I'm shattered and lost, we've been together so long. Keep the advice and good thoughts coming
I’m so sorry please don’t worry even try your local council im with HA and was thinking of moving closer to family but he said if I done that he’d move in here but I’d be taking everything with me - here’s me worrying about the sky as it’s in his name and I can’t downgrade it don’t know how I’m going to manage I don’t even know how to be on my own after so long the house is quite and lonely when my sons in bed xNo I haven't really got anywhere to go, looking at places to rent but everything is so expensive and I'm on minimum wage while he earns about 60k a yearI'm also not on the mortgage so that's a shitter. However bad we've been treated it's hard to imagine a life/home without them isn't it. I suppose we just need to find 'us' again instead of being mum, partner ect x
good on you! just continue that way and you'll be good
btw i absolutely love your dad haha what a sweetheart Tom spoke about it on a show ( it's on Google too) he slept with over 250 behind his wife's backHi thanks for replying, I totally understand people making mistakes I just feel his was a choice rather than a mistake.. I’m struggling to forgive completely it’s always there in the back of my head. It’s just so shit x
Hi, thanks for replying!, I do believe it was just sex there wasn’t a “relationship” type thing going on, oooh I didn’t know that about TJ
Hi thanks for replying, he just said things were really strained between us, which is true I admit that however I didn’t fall into bed with someone else so idk
but would never leave her he was devoted to her and said she's most important person in his life ...look at Wayne Rooney and his shenanigans he could have set up home with any of they tarts he was with but he won't leave Colleen so she must be his true love even though he has done that to her Glad you got a new bed, you enjoy it while watching some hunky men on TV!!Men can be real dicks sometimes. Not that it’s a good thing but I was ghosted by so many guys over a period of 8 years that I honestly lost count so I know how you feel.Update I got ghosted off the paramedic as soon as I mentioned I use crutches he cut contact… 3rd guy that’s done that maybe i should just be single forever clearly not good enough to be with anyone
I’d rather them be honest than just ignore me
I honestly can’t do this my anxiety is through the roof I’ve not got any of my tablets until tomorrow he’s filling my head with all this crap this morning saying we could work on things then he’s through at her flat having a takeaway while I’m at home managing a few bits of toast without being sick my life’s a joke I’m a joke and I just need all this to go away and I need to do this every single day on of work and having my son to look after
) he's obviously not happy or content in himself and I can imagine the feeling of having 2 women wanting him is a big ego trip he's obviously quite needy. What area do you live in? I'm Kent xYes I agree...I should have put a ? after the 'she must be his true love'