I don’t have any advice to give but I’m so sorry that this happened 
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Hope you're doing ok today.I’m sat here crying at all of your lovely messages I’m broken now and I keep telling myself let yourself be free otherwise I’ll be here again down the line the hardest part is feeling like I’ve let myself and my son down and to top it off it’s my mum’s birthday today she passed away 6 years ago and he didn’t even realise that when he walked out yesterday… I can’t even sleep in my room I’ve slept on the couch well if you can call 3 hours sleep
I've been there - I gave my Ex a second chance and whilst he didn't start shagging anyone else again (so he said, and tbh I do believe him) 3 years on he started messaging the grotbag he was unfaithful with previously. His defence was that she's got a boyfriend (this didn't wash with me as I know she's a swinger who goes to sex clubs and all sorts; plus she's such a horrible unpleasant person who harassed both of us last time - why would he even want to speak to her, ever?). I ended it anyway.
The first time I had loads of doubts as to whether I'd done the right thing, but I don't this time. It's 4 months on now and I still miss him loads but I'm not crying any more and my life is kind of back to normal albeit a significant part of my life is missing. We didn't live together but we did spend a lot of time together and I thought I'd be with him for the rest of my life - I'd already planned the next 20 years. And now it all feels a bit like limbo.
But sending you lots of strength. You have done the right thing. The first few weeks will be tough, lean on any friends and family you have around you until it gets easier xx
I honestly can’t do this my anxiety is through the roof I’ve not got any of my tablets until tomorrow he’s filling my head with all this crap this morning saying we could work on things then he’s through at her flat having a takeaway while I’m at home managing a few bits of toast without being sick my life’s a joke I’m a joke and I just need all this to go away and I need to do this every single day on of work and having my son to look after 
Hope this will help you I've just come out of a relationship of 28 years I've been accused of having an affair and he thinks his son isn't his I'm taking a lie detector test and paying for a DNA test to prove his son is he's life is tit sometimes but we some how have to scrap ourselves up of the floor for our kids he on the other hand has ducked off and left me with our 2 kids my youngest has austim we are all in this together please keep strong x
I honestly can’t do this my anxiety is through the roof I’ve not got any of my tablets until tomorrow he’s filling my head with all this crap this morning saying we could work on things then he’s through at her flat having a takeaway while I’m at home managing a few bits of toast without being sick my life’s a joke I’m a joke and I just need all this to go away and I need to do this every single day on of work and having my son to look after
Just take one day at a time, one hour even. You'll get through tonight. I've just put kids to bed and I'm getting in the bath, it helps clear my head for an hour. You're not a joke! Never ever think that. Your good nature has just been taken advantage of, same as mine has. Let him have his takeaway (never know he might get food poisoning
) he's obviously not happy or content in himself and I can imagine the feeling of having 2 women wanting him is a big ego trip he's obviously quite needy. What area do you live in? I'm Kent xBlock the bI honestly can’t do this my anxiety is through the roof I’ve not got any of my tablets until tomorrow he’s filling my head with all this crap this morning saying we could work on things then he’s through at her flat having a takeaway while I’m at home managing a few bits of toast without being sick my life’s a joke I’m a joke and I just need all this to go away and I need to do this every single day on of work and having my son to look after
he just wants you to be on demand, absolute oxygen thief. I hope his takeaway gives him the people and he stands on Lego. Disconnect him unless it’s about your son, use a third party if you have to (mam/dad, my fella used her granny). Have a Bath, wash your hair, snuggle in your comfiest PJs with something hot and watch Bake Off, or something lovely and wholesome. Go to bed and stick on Radio 4 or something for noise, and try get some rest - it’s good for you. Tomorrow is a new day and you can get through that too You are also a queen, take a crownHope this will help you I've just come out of a relationship of 28 years I've been accused of having an affair and he thinks his son isn't his I'm taking a lie detector test and paying for a DNA test to prove his son is he's life is tit sometimes but we some how have to scrap ourselves up of the floor for our kids he on the other hand has ducked off and left me with our 2 kids my youngest has austim we are all in this together please keep strong x
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You CAN do this. He's a bleeping twit. He doesn't deserve you. Do you really want to be with a horrid cretin like that anyway? She can have him. I hope she people in his mouthI honestly can’t do this my anxiety is through the roof I’ve not got any of my tablets until tomorrow he’s filling my head with all this crap this morning saying we could work on things then he’s through at her flat having a takeaway while I’m at home managing a few bits of toast without being sick my life’s a joke I’m a joke and I just need all this to go away and I need to do this every single day on of work and having my son to look after
Just echoing more of what everyone else has said.
I was in a dv marriage for 10 years & finally LITERALLY ran out the door in fear of my life with nothing but what i had on.
That was 17 years ago &, im alive to tell the tale.
NO MAN is worth taking
for.
Ask yourself if this was a friend going through what you are-what would you tell them?
We are all here for you.
Never ever forget how AMAZING you are
I was in a dv marriage for 10 years & finally LITERALLY ran out the door in fear of my life with nothing but what i had on.
That was 17 years ago &, im alive to tell the tale.
NO MAN is worth taking
for.Ask yourself if this was a friend going through what you are-what would you tell them?
We are all here for you.
Never ever forget how AMAZING you are
I’m just outside GlasgowJust take one day at a time, one hour even. You'll get through tonight. I've just put kids to bed and I'm getting in the bath, it helps clear my head for an hour. You're not a joke! Never ever think that. Your good nature has just been taken advantage of, same as mine has. Let him have his takeaway (never know he might get food poisoning
my dad and his wife have been up everyday gutting my house getting his stuff packed and they even got me a new bed he’s phoning me on Friday to make arrangements for my son on Saturday and set up the standing order so he can send over money weekly I just feel like I’ve done nothing but love him and im the one struggling and he’s away living his best life it’s a complete kick in the teeth
Reality will kick in for him soon and he won't be living his best life. That's when you need to stay strong. I'm glad you've got support. It's not your fault he's turned out to be a rubbish partner. He's not worthy, let him be someone else's problem because they will soon receive the same treatment from himI’m just outside Glasgow
he’s phoning me on Friday to make arrangements for my son on Saturday and set up the standing order so he can send over money weekly I just feel like I’ve done nothing but love him and im the one struggling and he’s away living his best life it’s a complete kick in the teeth
Living well is the best revenge. My therapist always says men move on dead quick and regret it later, women grieve and heal, then succeed later. So basically you’re nailing it even if you don’t feel like itI’m just outside Glasgow
he’s phoning me on Friday to make arrangements for my son on Saturday and set up the standing order so he can send over money weekly I just feel like I’ve done nothing but love him and im the one struggling and he’s away living his best life it’s a complete kick in the teeth
Woohoo!! You GO girlJust echoing more of what everyone else has said.
I was in a dv marriage for 10 years & finally LITERALLY ran out the door in fear of my life with nothing but what i had on.
That was 17 years ago &, im alive to tell the tale.
NO MAN is worth taking
Ask yourself if this was a friend going through what you are-what would you tell them?
We are all here for you.
Never ever forget how AMAZING you are
I am so, so sorry that you're going through thisI honestly can’t do this my anxiety is through the roof I’ve not got any of my tablets until tomorrow he’s filling my head with all this crap this morning saying we could work on things then he’s through at her flat having a takeaway while I’m at home managing a few bits of toast without being sick my life’s a joke I’m a joke and I just need all this to go away and I need to do this every single day on of work and having my son to look after
Please know that you are not a joke, and your life is also not a joke. The "joke" is this sorry excuse for a man doing this to you and then emotionally blackmailing you at the same time. He cannot have his cake and eat it, which at the moment is what he is doing. My advice would be to block him, do not respond to any communication at all - I know that's easier said than done but it's the only way you'll be able to start building yourself back up again. I promise you, even though this feels like the end of the world now, it WILL get easier and one day you'll look back on this and wonder why you ever felt so upset. He's messed you around and treated you awfully, you're better off without him. Sending lots of love xx
What an absolute grotbag he sounds like! Having the nerve to cheat twice and now living with her? Why is he not with a mate, family etc? Total lack of respect, it’s revolting.
I was dumped in 2013 and it was hideous. I was told on a night out by a random she had slept with him and I was beyond heartbroken. Couldn’t eat, sleep, feel happy. I felt like I was out of body and living a bad dream, would find myself relating everything back to him and the rose tinted glasses were out in full force.
All I can say is take it day by day. You’ll be surprised at how much better you feel in 2 weeks, then one month and then before you know it will be a year. Block him on social media so you don’t stalk him, only speak to him about your son- there is now no need for any further communications. He has done the worst thing possible in a relationship and so it is time to let go.
Try and focus on yourself when you start to feel a bit better. Maybe you’ll get into running, cooking, new hobbies - you might even feel like dating and meeting new people. But don’t rush into anything - cry and feel sad for now, it’s totally normal.
My story ended with me meeting a new guy two years later who I ended up marrying. He’s better in so many ways. I actually weirdly bumped into my ex a few weeks ago for the first time and it was such closure, I couldn’t believe id ever felt the way I did towards him. I promise you that you’ll feel better one day but allow yourself to heal.
Good luck
I was dumped in 2013 and it was hideous. I was told on a night out by a random she had slept with him and I was beyond heartbroken. Couldn’t eat, sleep, feel happy. I felt like I was out of body and living a bad dream, would find myself relating everything back to him and the rose tinted glasses were out in full force.
All I can say is take it day by day. You’ll be surprised at how much better you feel in 2 weeks, then one month and then before you know it will be a year. Block him on social media so you don’t stalk him, only speak to him about your son- there is now no need for any further communications. He has done the worst thing possible in a relationship and so it is time to let go.
Try and focus on yourself when you start to feel a bit better. Maybe you’ll get into running, cooking, new hobbies - you might even feel like dating and meeting new people. But don’t rush into anything - cry and feel sad for now, it’s totally normal.
My story ended with me meeting a new guy two years later who I ended up marrying. He’s better in so many ways. I actually weirdly bumped into my ex a few weeks ago for the first time and it was such closure, I couldn’t believe id ever felt the way I did towards him. I promise you that you’ll feel better one day but allow yourself to heal.
Good luck
And just to add- I found journaling such a release when I was going through hell. I made lists and lists of all the reasons he was terrible for me - things like how I could never relax when he went out because I was always scared he would be out being inappropriate with other girls. I also would write a lot about what I wanted in the future and my general thoughts. It sounds crazy and I eventually threw it away when things were getting better for me but genuinely it saved me!What an absolute grotbag he sounds like! Having the nerve to cheat twice and now living with her? Why is he not with a mate, family etc? Total lack of respect, it’s revolting.
I was dumped in 2013 and it was hideous. I was told on a night out by a random she had slept with him and I was beyond heartbroken. Couldn’t eat, sleep, feel happy. I felt like I was out of body and living a bad dream, would find myself relating everything back to him and the rose tinted glasses were out in full force.
All I can say is take it day by day. You’ll be surprised at how much better you feel in 2 weeks, then one month and then before you know it will be a year. Block him on social media so you don’t stalk him, only speak to him about your son- there is now no need for any further communications. He has done the worst thing possible in a relationship and so it is time to let go.
Try and focus on yourself when you start to feel a bit better. Maybe you’ll get into running, cooking, new hobbies - you might even feel like dating and meeting new people. But don’t rush into anything - cry and feel sad for now, it’s totally normal.
My story ended with me meeting a new guy two years later who I ended up marrying. He’s better in so many ways. I actually weirdly bumped into my ex a few weeks ago for the first time and it was such closure, I couldn’t believe id ever felt the way I did towards him. I promise you that you’ll feel better one day but allow yourself to heal.
Good luck
So sorry you're going through this, what a truly evil man. Please please take care of yourself
I haven't experienced cheating to this level myself but I have been a child who watched their mum behave the way your partner is (although they stayed together in the end, PLEASE DON'T do this! My dad has 0 trust for my mum, they only did it for the kids which is wrong on all levels although I know he had good intentions.)
I truly believe the thing that helped my dad the most was writing notes to me everyday, it was the time he most told me how much he loved me & how lucky he was to have me. Maybe try this with your son? Leave him notes on his bed/on the sofa/at dinner time for him? It'll help your brain remember these positive moments amongst all the sadness and hurt.
Your son will remember you as the best person in his life, you are not a joke- you're a human with emotions and a lot of love that has been thrown back in your face. Channel that love into yourself now, sending hugs
I haven't experienced cheating to this level myself but I have been a child who watched their mum behave the way your partner is (although they stayed together in the end, PLEASE DON'T do this! My dad has 0 trust for my mum, they only did it for the kids which is wrong on all levels although I know he had good intentions.)
I truly believe the thing that helped my dad the most was writing notes to me everyday, it was the time he most told me how much he loved me & how lucky he was to have me. Maybe try this with your son? Leave him notes on his bed/on the sofa/at dinner time for him? It'll help your brain remember these positive moments amongst all the sadness and hurt.
Your son will remember you as the best person in his life, you are not a joke- you're a human with emotions and a lot of love that has been thrown back in your face. Channel that love into yourself now, sending hugs
Sending you love.. You will get through this
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You will get through this. I returned home after working in Spain for a week only for my husband of 30years to tell me he was moving out, he had a flat and could the divorce go through quick because he’d booked his next wedding. I didn’t see it coming. Alright, he was very mentally abusive to me telling me I was large and weird and who in earth would want me. I have been on my own for 20 years now as I still believe what he said about me, but do you know what. I am so blooming happy doing what I want when I want. Some men just aren’t worth getting upset about. It will take time, give yourself time to grieve. If your son is interested in any sports or hobbies encourage him to join any club, that will give you a reason to go out and interact with other people. You are amazing. Sending love x